Question: I just have a question for you all that either have 3 children or are thinking about having a 3rd. My oldest DS is going to be 2 on August 2 and my youngest DS is 8 months. They are 16 months apart. I always thought 2 would be it, but my husband and I think we would like 1 more. My husband says it's up to me and we can try whenever I want. I know I want to wait atleast intill my youngest is a year. if I have three I still want them to be close together.....my husband says he does not want to drag baby years on forever!! I guess I'm just wondering what it's like to go from 2 to 3. I understand that things, like cars, going out to eat and vacations are more geared toward 2 kid families. Luckily my MIL leaves 2 blocks away and watches the boys while I work....she would love a 3rd. So daycare is not a issue. Just wanted to hear anyone that is debating this or has 3 children. I just feel in my heart my family is not complete, but maybe this feeling is always in a womens mind. I would love to have a girl, but would be very happy with another boy:) ?
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Answer: I have four children. We always planned on three but when I got there I couldn't let go of never having another. I swore to my husband four would be it. Well, now I am wanting more. Which we will not have. My husband would not be happy. I think some women never loose that feeling of wanting more. I know the mor I have it gets harder. I also know I do not need more kids but I am having a very hard time ecceptingI will never carry a child again and never have a new baby. I take birth control and have a nine month old and not had a period since I had her and I think just maybe. Anyways, I got off the subject. I would go for three, It is harder and I would doubt if you loose the feeling for wanting more later but you might. Good Luck!!!!!! =
Answer: i asked a woman w/ 3 kids this same question. she said that 0 to 1 child was tough, the transition from 1 to 2 was easier than 0 - 1, and 2 - 3 was the toughest yet. =
Answer: Thanks for your replies. I agree that going from no kids to 1 was harder than 1 to 2. If we have another on I'm getting my tubes tied during my c-section, it's something that's just going to happen. =
Answer: I have 3 boys ages 6, 4 and 8 months. Going from 2-3 I found the easiest of any.I think it may help that my oldest is in school all day so I only have the 2 at home most of the year! =
Answer: I have 3 girls, ages 7, 4 and 10.5 mos. It was actually not much of a change for me to go from 2 to 3 kids. After going from 1 to 2, which I think I took pretty hard, lol, going from 2 -3 went very smoothly. All of a sudden there was our 3rd and she just transitioned into the family routine so easily. She is a very good baby as well, which may have a lot to do with it! And financially it hasn't really costed us more either, just the usual stuff such as formula and diapers and some new clothes/toys on occasion. She has a lot of hand-me downs, so clothing cost wasn't much of an issue either. She was a bit of a surprise when I found out I was pregnant, and I did worry because we were at a busy time in our lives with work and the older kids and building a new house, but I took almost a year off to get things in order and now I'm going back to work soon and picking up right where I left off. The only thing I will say is a bit of a hassle is child-care. I wouldn't be going back to work if my in-laws weren't offering to watch the youngest 2 while I was at work. Also family members aren't as quick to offer to take the kids when there's 3 of them running around, lol. The cost of child-care, here in Canada anyway, is disgusting....however; I think you should go for it if you really want one more, and having all of them so close in age will create a really special bond for them. DH and I want a fourth within the next 2 years, but I told him any longer than that and I may change my mind. He really wants to try for a boy though, lol. Best wishes to you! =
Answer: That's one thing that we are very lucky to have and that is my MIL watching the kids while we both work. Childcare is sooo expensive and I don't think we could afford for me not to work. So if we had to pay for childcare, we would be done at 2 or wait intill one or both were in school. Growing up I was the only child from my parents. I did have to step brothers, but that's it. I think not having a bond with a brother or sister makes me want that for my kids even more. It's something I didn't have and love to watch my 2 boys bond. =
Answer: I was an only child too, and it got pretty lonely sometimes! I thik that's why I also like having more than one, my 2 oldest dd's are very close and there is 2.5 years between them, but there is a 4 year gap for my youngest so I feel like we should have another one so she can have a sibling closer to her age too. =
