Hey Red, I don't have much time right now, but I have PLENTY of Monster-in-law experience like you so I'll shoot you an email on myspace or facebook when I get some extra time. We are going out to a movie and dinner tonight without Steven...an actual date. Yay! So I have to get ready. But I'll email you soon. Bye! ↑
Hello all, i finally got around to reading this post. i've just been so lazy with everything. how you all doing? everyone seems to be in the same boat lol. RED, i packed Kesar's 0-3 cloths a couple of weeks ago the only ones that fit him properly are the 3-6 and the 6 month cloths are becoming more and more the comfy ones. i cant believe how fast they are growing. CHATTYKATHY, i feel the same way you do, i too cant sit too long otherwise the pressure down there gets really intense i can't sqat either for the same reason. and i'm still sore and don't feel myself, i feel really stiff, and i'm trying to stretch but honestly i've become so lazy. i was all he judges as in peoples court, judge mathis, judge david young and judge joe brown all freakin day long. for the past two weeks i've been addicted. thank goodness today i'm seeing a break, i was bored watching them so i think that phase is over...............other than taking care of the little monster, i have to say staying home is quite boring, and i can't go for a walk with him, because i'm living in a construction zone which just got worse. there's homes still going up around us, and the dirt and mud is everywhere, the sidewalks are going up it's just a mess. so \packing up his giant stroller in my micro machine of a car and heading out somewhere else for a walk just isn't appealing to me..........so as crazy as this sounds, who else is ready for another one??? i know it's crazy me of all people saying this, but dh and i want our kids to be close together, so come this dec/jan we're going to start trying for another one.....crazy i know..... ↑
Oh and Red, your mil sounds as great as mine. first week that i brought lo home, i was changing him and she turns to me horrified saying whaats wrong with his stomach and i'm like there's nothing wrong and she's like look look there's somethig not right. and she just wouldn't let up so i yelled two dr's looked at him there's nothing wrong with his stomach and thne she shut up. i mean this is a woman who's had four boys, granted her mil pretty much raised them, becase she was too busy doing her nails. but i was so mad because i'm already scared with a new born. so i asked my own mom later one if there is indeed something wrong and she's like no his stomach looks like any other baby's. grrr, i was iffy leaving him with her because she always seems so unsure of what to do with him and the way she holds him i can tell is really uncomfortable to him like she holds him in a burp position up right with her hands around his neck and he's wailing to be laid down. she's dumb. so the first time i left him with her and her husband i was explaining things like his milk etc, and she snaps at me with 'i'm raised four boys i know what to do' i just looked her and said 'i know that but i'm telling you his schedule and what he likes and dislikes' then she shut up. so a second time i left him with just her, because my dh's dad was working, and when we came back from the movies, she's like 'oh he did so well, and he played, i was so scared that i had to watch him on my own' OMG, you stupid stupid woman. shes like 50 something and she doesn't know how to take care of a baby. she's so retarded. grrrr, she makes me really mad. anyways just venting. thank goodness we don't live with her, becuase everytime i bring him around or we went to someones reception she held him and wouldn't give him to me even when he was wailing, i had to put my foot down adn raise my voice and tell her to give him to me. and then when he looks at me and crys for me to pick him up, she gets upset that he wants me....like it's her baby.... she hoards him, at the reception she says to my dh and i, why don't you guys go and i'll watch him, and i'm like go where?? what a reject, where are we supposed to go we're sitting at the same table. she's soooooooo effin dumb. i find her so frustrating, ↑
LMAO!!! Are mother in laws not the best things ever! I promise when I am a MIL I will not do that crap! Yeah so mine decided to come over tonight.... my poor dd was looking at me like please save me from this woman! My Mil was trying to get her to smile and laugh which she did but after a few dd was done. DH did talk to her about the whole health thing, I hope she got it. Sims, your boy was born a few ounces bigger than mine and I agree its amazing how fast they are going out of clothes. I thought I would like another one when she turned 6 months but here lately I am thinking I want to wait. If it happens it happens and I would be totally happy but I would like to wait. I dont know DH kindof hates condoms and I am not on any BC so we shall see. I guess if he wants any he is going to wrap up, lol, sorry TMI. Chatty and Sims I still have pressure down there, sometimes it is actually pretty painful. Last weekend we "did it" and I actually tore a little so between the pressure and the tear I really dont even want to do squat. Ahhh the joys of childbirth.....I hope it goes away!!! Have a good evening! TTYL! ↑
Ouch, another tear. I hav been curious to give it a try, especially since I finally have some sort of libido back since getting pregnant but after the PP appointment and the skin bridge I think I'm going to wait a bit longer. Good news is, I think everything is pretty much healed down there with that so thats good. Gavin got his shots today. I teared up but I think he's doing well now. He's just tired and lost his appetite a little bit, but no fever (knock on wood) If he's feeling better, we have a cookout to go to on thursday, but if he doesnt seem to be back to his old self I dont mind skipping it. He has been doing really great with sleeping. He only woke up once last night (I almost had to wake him because I was getting engorged) so I think we will transition him to sleeping by himself next week. Right now we are cosleeping. i'm not sure how its going to work since he comfort nurses himself to sleep. Any suggestions? because this month he'll be switching to bottles, too. ↑
Hi ladies!! How is everyone doing? I hope everyone is well! Thingd here are good, if I could get her to nap in her crib it would be better,lol. When I lay her in her crib she will sleep for maybe a minute then wake up if I dont get to her with in 30 secs she is screaming bloody murder. That is the only time she cries like that but as soon as I pick her up she will wimper a few and then she is happy as a clam. Yup I got my hands full. Any suggestions?? I seen on thread some of the other ladies were reading the baby whisperer, Cg were you reading that? Anyone else reading iit? Is it worth going out and getting? Chatty thats good that you are healing up!!! Yay! I hope you have fun at your cookout!! Victoria goes for her shots tomorrow so hopefully she does as good as Gavin did! Well I am going to go and try to lay her back down... TTYL!!! ↑
Hello ladies! Glad to be back and to read you all! Sims: so glad you came back! Where are you exactly? I seem to remember that you are in Ontario. I'm in Ottawa. ChattyKathy: I'm glad things are healed. I'm sure things will get better for all of us soon (or so I hope!!!). Red: no, I haven't read the baby whisperer. But my Victoria does the same thing: I can't put her down in her playpen for her to sleep during the day. I hear you all about mils. Reneenay: I'd like to hear your mil story too! :-) maybe it would give me strenght. I've just come back from my sister's cottage, a 4 hour drive, where I went on my own with Victoria and my sister and her 3 kids (no dh's). It was a lot of fun and my dd got plenty of stimulation from the other kids! Only downside: my sister's youngest (15 months) had a cold that I caught and now I thing dd has it :-((( Her nose was leaking so I put the humidifier in her room tonight. I'm already better and it's only been 48 hours so I hope it's the same for her. I checked tonight and she doesn't have fever... It's still kind of scary, I mean, it's the first time. How to know what to do??? ↑
Wow. We are all on the same page. I JUST posted on livejournal, asking how to transition my little one to sleeping on his own. Gavin RARELY sleeps without being in my arms. I put him down and he is wide awake. The only answers I got were that he's too young and to enjoy the time we have together. I already have gotten upset over the fact that he's growing up so fast but seriously... I cant afford to sit down all day, holding him so he can sleep. You know, he didnt sleep at ALL that night I got to go out? I got in at 2am and he was wide awake because he refuses to sleep without me! Now that I have to get ready to return to work and school, he needs to make the transition. esp since he'll be switched to formula soon and he wont be able to comfort nurse himself to sleep! OK rant over. I just dont know what to do, either. --- CG, I think youre doing a good job. If her nose gets stuffy you can get this stuff called "little noses" that has saline and a nose sucker thing to help get the mucus out, but otherwise just keep doing what youre doing! ↑
Hi ladies!! Well I didnt cry... she did and dh almost did but I didnt. I felt horrible for her! She weighed in at 15 lbs 4.5 oz.. and is 25 inches!! She is growing so fast! Doctor said according to all the charts she is overweight but its not a big deal because she is strictly breastfed, she is just a growing girl and was born a big girl. She is the size of a 6 month old at 2 months. Well just wanted to check in and say hi! Chatty I hope Gavin starts sleeping for you!! Cg, poor Victoria! i can only imagine what you are going through! I hope she gets over it as fast as you did too!! gotta run! TTYL ↑
Last night was horrible!!! Those shots made her sick and it was not fun! I gave her tylonal like the doc said but it really didnt help too much. 8 she was running a fever and she couldnt eat. She was hungry so she did eat but when I was burping her it came back up and she was chocking on it. That scared the hell out of me! I am hollering at dh to grab the sucky thingy while i am holding her almost upside down to get this stuff out. Not fun! Needless to say I hardley slept at all last night. She ended up throwing up in the middle of the night and on me after I fed her again so she slept right beside me. Every little move I was up. She is all better today, smiling and cooing away not to mention actually keeping food down. Well at least I know what its going to be like next time... I am glad your alls went better. That was scary. I hope you all have a good weeknd! Stay cool! Its suppose to be 105 here today... can anyone say hell :-) ↑
Oh poor baby! and poor mommy! I'm glad she is doing better. Nothing much is going on here. Were frantically trying to find daycare for Gavin and thats about it. Hope everyone else is doing well! ↑
Hi ladies! Oh my goodness, CgGirl, all of my MIL stories could fill a book, but I'll toss this one out there: Before my husband and I got married, my MIL sat us down and gave us a "self help" book about relationships and had highlighted all of the chapters and sections she felt we needed to work on. And that's coming from a woman who doesn't have a healthy relationship with anyone in her life! Everyone knows she's a total nut-job. So that's just a little tid-bit...unfortunately, it gets so much worse than that! But anyway, Wv_red, I'm so sorry! That must have been so traumatizing for the both of you! I'm sure Victoria has forgotten about it now...it's you that will remember for a long time to come! It's strange how babies all react differently. Steven fell asleep right after the shots and was out for an hour and then he was fine. Wow, Victoria is a healthy girl! Steven is a a little older and only weighs around 11 lbs. Well, Steven is sleeping 9 hours a night now...I couldn't be more thrilled about that! I get up earlier than he does! I'm so stoked. But the trade-off is that he doesn't sleep much during the day. Maybe a few little cat naps that are at the most about a half hour and that's it. It makes it tough to get anything done, but I guess that's the sacrifice for getting my sleep at night. During the day, when I get Steven to sleep and then set him in the crib, he wakes up too, some of the time. I have figured out that if I put both hands on the mattress very close to where he is laying and lightly shake it for a while, he will go back to sleep. That is done with a combination of his sound machine (set to ocean sound) and a pacifier in the mouth. It really does seem to do the trick for him. On Monday we are headed for the family cabin up in the mountains. We go every summer and it's a great time. So I won't be able to get on the forum for the next 2 weeks. I'll be packing all day tomorrow so take care everyone, and I'll catch up with you all later!!!!! ↑
ChattyKathy: thank you so much for your tip! I bought the saline drops and it helped a lot! I knew it wasn't too serious cause she didn't have a fever and ate and slept well. But still, it's not easy to see them sneeze and hear them breathe! THanks again! Red: wow, i'm so sorry you had to go through this... My mom was telling me that back in the days when she had me, I reacted so badly to the first shots that she asked that I be given only half doses. Of course, it means you have to go to the Dr more often, but perhaps it could be an option for you?? Also, did you give Tylenol before the appointment? That's what my Dr had suggested with my Victoria. Wow, 15 pounds!!!! Mine is probably at 12 pounds now and is almost 3 months. She still has trouble with the head lifting thing but at least she can be on her tummy now for about 10 minutes at a time. We worked hard on that!
Reneenay: Thanks for sharing a story. I'm afraid that I also have a crazy mil, but I do not have the patience to deal with it. Really, I can be pretty blunt sometimes, but it seems it's the only way to deal with her... She is so self-oriented ( I don't want to say egoist, so I'm being polite here). Anyway. I can only imagine how it's going to be at Christmas...
ChattyKathy: are you going back to work soon?? ↑
I'm glad I have a few minutes to sign in one last time before we take off. CgGirl, I've also become very blunt these days. My MIL has lost all of my respect so it's really hard not to be. Plus I've never hid my feelings well and find it very hard to be phony. I'll come right out and say it: my MIL is a total egomaniac! I'll even take it a step further and say that she's a real B-I-T-C-H!!! Sorry, I'm venting. I had to see her yesterday and it wasn't fun. She said a bunch of ignorant things about "arabs." She was talking about some family friends that are Turkish-American and she was calling them "arabs" and saying their religion was "muhamed." She is such an idiot. Plus, I am half Armenian and I have to sit there and listen to her say all this ignorant stuff and it's so offensive! She has no idea what a bigot she is. Ugh. So we were at her house yesterday because we thought it would be fun to stick Steven in the pool for a minute. Well, she got him this floaty thing that he can sit in. The only thing is it was meant for 18 months and older. She started insisting that we try it out, saying, "he can just float in it." Uh, hello, lady! He wouldn't fit in it! He would fall out of the thing and drown! He's still all wobbly! She is so weird and crazy! My poor DH had to put his foot down and explain exactly why we wouldn't feel comfortable using it. OMG, if we left our poor son with her for 5 minutes he would be in some serious danger. She keeps mentioning how she's buying all these toys for him to play with at her house when he gets a little older...okay, sorry, but that's not going to happen! Her house a total disaster. She is a hoarder and there is stuff stacked up literally everywhere! Something would fall on him! We call her house the CobbChester Mystery House...you know, after the Winchester Mystery House over here in San Jose, and her last names Cobb, he, he. She has no idea. Once Steven is walking there is no way he can be at her house! She's living in a total fantasy land. Okay, I'm really sorry I just went on a tangent but I had to get all that stuff of my chest. Thank God I'm getting out of here tomorrow and won't have to be near her or hear about her craziness...at least for a while. So, I totally feel your pain, CgGirl, and Wv_Red. ↑
Hi all! Renee enjoy your trip to the cabin! Sound great! Oh I was truely LMAO about your MIL story. What is it with these women?? Cg oh goodness dont even mention Christmas... I dread Christmas anymore. We get to split Christmas up between 3 sets of grandparents and none of them live near each other. My MIl is already boo hooing because we are going to his dads this year. It is one FUBAR situation. That is great that Victoria is on her tummy more!! Thats big that you got her to 10 mins!! Yay!!! Renee I am jealous! 9 hours! You are so lucky!! I am now getting up twice a night again... at 2 and 5 to feed but she eats and goes right back down so I guess its not that bad. Well its time to get her fed... Take care! Chatty, good luck on the daycare search. They have a website where you can see all their vilolations and stuff, if I find it in my email today I will post it for you. Bye! ↑
Hi ladies! Well I am flying out tomorrow to go back to West Virginia so my family and dh's dad will finally meet their grandchild. His dad is driving 5 hours to come and see her which is awesome. I am looking forward to the cool weather... well high 80's which will be like winter! lol. I think I have managed to pack everything for Victoria and I in one suitcase. All I have to say is thank goodness for space bags! I have a feeling I am getting ready to start my period again... I have been cramping all day, I hope not!!! I know its inevidable but dang it I already had one. I guess I am going to have to go on BC so I dont get pregnant so soon. Any of y'all on the mini pill? How is it working for you if you are? Its been a long time since I have been on BC and I really dont want to go on it. Well ladies have a great weekend!! I will talk to you sometime next week! BYE ↑
Hey guys, sorry I haven't been on lately. The last 7 days have been pretty hard. First, dd is very cranky during the days, crying all the time. So I thought it is the 3 month growth spurt (she is 3 months today!). But then, after a few days, she stopped sleeping through the night. Men, I don't know what to do! It seems she has to be in my arms all the time during the day and cries a lot... After a week like this, I'm ready to go crazy! Any advice anyone?? ↑
Hi CG. Have you checked her fo teething? I know its a little early but its possible. and RED, I've heard that the mini-pill is really finicky. You have to take it at the EXACT same time every day for it to be effective and I've also heard of people getting pregnant with it. Its better than nothing, but just be careful. I have a script for while i'm BFing but i havent filled it since I know I'm not ready for sex yet. ↑
ChattyKathy: thanks, I think you may be right. Although she has slept for the last two nights (knock on wood for tonight!), the "drooling machine" started about 3 weeks ago. I need to put her a bib and change it at least twice a day. And yesterday and today she was really fussy on the breast, so it may well be... but I hear the teeth can take a long time to come out. We'll see. She had two half and half days, so that's better than crying all the time... What about you CHatty, have you found a day care? ↑
Hi girls, I made it back! Really didnt want to come back because it was so nice there. The weather was perfect, barely made it over 90. Victoria did great on the plane, never cried and only fussed when she started getting hungry. The people around me were amazed at how good she was. I was thankful for that!! Cg, Victoria just started teething herself. The slober is non stop and she loves to chew on me or her fist. The first day she actually got chapped on her face. I felt so bad, between that and getting a little sun burned I really felt like a good mom. Chatty, I was talking to my sister about the mini pill and she said that is what she got pregnant off of. The one baby wasnt even 4 months and she was pregnant with the 3rd one. She suggested the merena insert. Oh my older sister is expecting again! That will make 10 grandkids! I hope she gets her girl. Chatty I pulled that email up and the child care back round thing was only for Texas. I am sure your state would probably have one too. Good luck with your hunt and I hope you find one you are comfy with! Well ladies I have to get some house work done. DH didnt do anything while I was gone.... go figure, well except get really drunk and drive. UGH I am still mad at him for that! Take care all! ↑
Gavin has been a little fussier than normal lately now, too. I started noticing after you posted about your little one. He has discovered his voice! He has ditched his cute cry and traded it in for yelling when he wants something. My poor ears! And a couple of nights ago he threw a fit in the car. He was so upset the only way I could stop him from screaming once we were home was to blow in his face so he would take a breath. We HAVE found someone to take care of him, though. Its a friend of a friend who is setting up an in-home daycare with someone. We have to set up an interview first but if its not this person then it'll have to be two friends of mine and they'll have to transfer him to the other persons house in the middle of the day, so i'm crossing my fingers that this person will work out. RED - I've started to miss being pregnant already (now that i'm starting toforget about all the aches and pains lol) but I CANNOT imagine getting pregnant again so soon! That poor girl! I know someone who got merena and she loves it too. ↑
Hello! I just wanted to pop in to say that today is day 1 of bassinet training. I have to say, its going pretty well. I'm surprised. His morning nap went really well, he had no trouble at all. His afternoon nap was a toughy. It took me about 40 minutes to get him where he was out of it enough for me to leave the room. I was doing it all wrong before but now I think we can really do this! I'm excited. ↑
Chatty how did your first night go??? I hope he is taking to it well. Last night dd went to bed earlier then usual but got up sooooo many times last night! I guess I need to not let her go to bed so early and keep her on her regular bedtime. Cg so needless to say trying to get her to wait it out did not work. Renee how did your trip go? Sims hows the MIL? We are suppose to go to the beach this weekend with mine but needless to say I dont think we are. Who knows... thats up to dh. Well ladies I hope you all have a wonderful day!!! TTYL!! ↑
I put him to bed and he slept for a little while. When he got up I put him back in bed with me. lol I actually missed him, not to mention that I was tired from all the effort of putting him to sleep. Probably not good for his training but gah... I didn't do anything with him today, either, because when it was time for his long afternoon nap, I was ready to sleep too! but I think i'll try again tonight when he is good and tired. ↑
Hi ladies, I am back. Well, my trip was fun...I was with my parents the entire time so Steven got plenty of attention. It's been hard adjusting back to it just being the two of us and not having all that help. So towards the end of our trip, my DH's cousin passed away from breast cancer and we had to go home for the memorial...total bummer. And then last night my Grandpa passed away...double bummer. So it's been a rough return. But I'm hanging in there. So anyway, Steven is fussy too! It's so hard to get him to sleep. He just won't sleep unless we're driving in the car or I'm holding him. He NEVER stays asleep if I put him down. It drives me nuts. Plus, he doesn't really sleep much during the day to begin with. I am lucky if I can shower and feed myself. I have to get up super early, before he does, if I want to actually get myself ready to leave the house. But I'll stop complaining and say some good things now. He's become a whiny little guy but I love him to bits! He is just the best! I spill over with love when I look at him, especially if he's smiling or sleeping. CgGirl, I swear I think Steven is starting to teeth early too. He's slobbering all over and just wants to put everything in his mouth. He was acting funny on the breast for a few days last week too. I went clothes shopping today for him and found some cute stuff. I got him the cutest outfit at Old Navy. They only have one little wall of boy clothes and the whole rest of the store is full of girl things, but what I found was really cute. If any of you have a Crazy 8 and Children's Place near you, they had cute things too. Well, I am glad to be back! Red, I'm glad your trip went well! ↑
Hey guys!!! I'm glad I found you. I was missing in action for quite a while but knew I had to drop by to let you know the end of my story. My beautiful baby daughter was born one week ahead of time through an emergency c-section. I had a placenta abruptio which made me loose a lot of blood. I had to have two blood transfusion and had to remain in the hospital for one week --my baby girl was in NICU for one week as well but is doing great thank God. She weighed 8lbs 7ozs and was 21 1/2 inches long, so she was the biggest baby in intensive care. My recovery was very painful but well worth it. My docs don't have an idea why that happened they say sometimes its a random thing, that it doesn't mean that if I decided to have another baby it increases my chances of it happening again, but i doesn't exclude me from going through a placenta abruptio again. Natalia is now weighing almost 14 pounds and is 25 inches long and will be 3 months on August 20th. I'm glad to see everyone is doing great and enjoying their new bundles of joy ... have a great day... ↑
Oh Renee I am sorry to hear that! Wow, yeah hell of a way to come back of vaca. Sarahnicolesmom so glad everything worked out! That must of been some scary stuff! Hey guys I posted this as a note on facebook but for those of you that are not on it I wanted you to read this. It fits allof us to a T~~~~~~~Before I was a Mom
I never tripped over toys or remembered words to a lullaby.
I didn't worry whether or not my plants were poisonous.
I never thought about immunizations.
Before I was a Mom -
I had never been puked on.
Pooped on.
Chewed on.
Peed on.
I had complete control of my mind and my thoughts.
I slept all night.
Before I was a Mom
I never held down a screaming child so doctors could do tests.
Or give shots.
I never looked into teary eyes and cried.
I never got gloriously happy over a simple grin.
I never sat up late hours at night watching a baby sleep.
Before I was a Mom
I never held a sleeping baby just because I didn't want to put him down.
I never felt my heart break into a million pieces when I couldn't stop the hurt.
I never knew that something so small could affect my life so much.
I never knew that I could love someone so much.
I never knew I would love being a Mom.
Before I was a Mom -
I didn't know the feeling of having my heart outside my body.
I didn't know how special it could feel to feed a hungry baby.
I didn't know that bond between a mother and her child.
I didn't know that something so small could make me feel so important and happy.
Before I was a Mom -
I had never gotten up in the middle of the night every 10 minutes to make sure all was okay.
I had never known the warmth, the joy, the love, the heartache,
the wonderment or the satisfaction of being a Mom.
I didn't know I was capable of feeling so much, before I was a Mom ↑
Hey guys, Reneenay, I'm very sorry. This is a lot to take all at the same time. Try to take things one at a time, if you can... ChattyKathy, you are on the right track! They say it's 2 steps forward, one step back right (or something like that!)? Sarahnicolesmom, glad to hear from you! And glad that the both of you are OK! I decided to take Victoria to the pediatrician this week. She has been so fussy for the last 2 weeks. Although today was not bad at all. I just want to make sure that everything is ok and that she doesn't have like an ear infection or something. It's like if she's having a growth spurt for the last 2 weeks. She eats and sleeps fine, although fussy on the breast, no fever, but men, the afternoons are tough. Nothing will please her. So I just want to make sure. Reneenay: I was able to actually put my dd down today for her nap (she will usually sleep only in my arms during the day). I put her in her swing and stayed by her side and sang to her and held her hand!!! She did cry a bit, but after 5-10 minutes it got better, she eventually started to suck her thumb (that's her new thing, she found it all by herself!) and eventually slept (for only 20 minutes, but still). I was so exhausted that I just lied on the couch instead of doing the million things I have to do... ↑
