My dear wife is 7mo and I'm scared of her. She is so mean these days. I know it must be the hormones. She's always screaming and on the verge of telling everyone off when we go shopping. Is anyone else dealing with a pyscho mom-to-be? ↓
I am a psycho mom-to-be, and there's not much your wife can to to control her temper. We just start to feel so miserable, too hot, too big, too tired...the list goes on and on. I was a lot bitchier during my first pregnancy than I am this time, and most of it was directed toward my husband (I was asleep when my first daughter was conceived). This time I am mellower, but I've had the same urge to tell people off when I'm shopping, in fact I have told people off...and it makes me feel better. There's nothing you can really do to calm her down, just tolerate her for now, and know that she'll mellow out after the baby's born (or at least once the baby sleeps through the night). I actually apologized to my husband after I had my daughter, and thanked him for putting up with me. Of course I took it all back when I got pregnant this time! Good luck, and it will get better. ↑
Psycho mom-to-be here too...hehehe, I yelled at a shoe salesman on Saturday for telling me that they don't make a particular size of shoe, and that when I bought that size before, I must've been buying kids shoes...it was pretty funny, in retrospect, but man it made me so mad. Your wife probably knows that she's being unreasonable and ridiculous...and in all honesty, that's probably making it worse. It's HARD when you realize you can't control your emotions, cause it kinda feels a bit like going crazy. And, to be going crazy on top of feeling like a beached whale, while having a growth kicking you 24/7...the last trimester is NOT pleasant. Plus, I know I (unreasonably) resent my husband, cause HE gets to sleep through the night and doesn't have to pee every 20 minutes and HIS ankles don't swell up to the size of softballs. ↑
For David hang in there things will get better I was also nasty with my husband We can't help it hormones are raging and your whole body is changing she does'nt mean it just try to stick it out remind her that shes beutiful and that your amazed that shes so strong to be able to bring your baby into the world try and help her remember that there is a end to all the fustration. most of us just need to be reasured that were normal I use to yell one minute then cry the next for no real reason hang on and good luck ↑
I feel you mines went nuts to she like then she cus me out then she love then I just be like what the hell is going on im a little scared my self here she comes ↑
hey jay... i think its realy normal for pregnant moms to be carnky, I went thru the same thing with my wife. And thankfully, it wore off after our baby was born..hang in there buddy.... ↑
I am a psycho-mom, I have terrible road rage and I get angry off of everything. 34 weeks pregnant/8 months. I am sooooo sorry...but blame it on hormones! My finacee ignores me or laughs about it...he is not scared of me (at least he admits it) but he tries to make things bette for me. He knows life is really hard when a women who is pregnant for the first time. He treats me out to dinner when I'm having a bad day or massage my back, takes me for a ride, baby shop with me...things that makes me happy. Find things that make your wife happy, treat her out. If your not scared talk to her tell her you feel really uncomfortable when she screams at other shoppers. The main thing for your relationship is to TALK! ↑
sometimes medication is needed. That was the case for me. Depression set in very early. You may try talking to her doc.alone!!! My husband did before I would have killed him but I'm thankful now. ↑
Dude whats wrong with you??? My wife has been pregnant for the last 2 years and she's sweet as pie. Actually she doesn't even want to go into labor???? ↑
for David..hey bro..im the same way.my wife is 8 moths pregnant..our 1st baby boy..she is so mean bro..some days i feel like running away..but i guess it normal for them to be like this..sometimes she tells me so many things that i feel left out..i guess we have to hang in there bro..i hope that when she give birth she not like this....Lady u girls think that she is going to change??good lock bro... ↑
This is not our first child! I love my dear wife but she is horrible. I returned to work 3 weeks after our son was born (i am a firfighter) so I feel I am on vacatio now being gone from the house 24 hours. , coming home scares me. She ruthless she's very aggressive, she's not taking care of herself, she leaves the house all night to come home in the morning. She has changed os much since she became pregnant. And things were awesome prior to pregnancy. She's a cop and used ot be a firfighter so I know its not my schedule? I need help ↑
Dude your not alone trust me, im 20 and my girlfriend is 19 and she is about 2 months along and man let me tell you all she does is yell and scream at me, no matter what i do. I could come home with a dozen roses and she would look at them and probably yell at me because i didnt include baby breath. Will it stop after? i have no clue this is our first child, but all these people in here say it does so hang in there, guess we will both have to. ↑
My baby mom to be is mean ass shit to i dont know but wat ever she wants ill jus do it....but when in her first months she was unsupportable and i couldn't take it was so crazy i thought i was doin something wrong but then i find out dat it happens and we have to deal with it... it gets scary sometimes and sometimes it sucks... but we just have to hang in there plus its harder for me cus im only 17 and im still in school ↑
Mine says she is not sure wether she still wants to be with me and stopped saying she loves me. Every time you try to show affection, try to put my arm around her or pretty much touch her in anyway she gets mad and stops me. But yet if you don't give her a good night kiss she gets very pissed. But yet we still run around together of course I have to put up with all the criticize . I do everything I think might help her, I fix little snack trays for work buy her flowers ext... but of course I get yelled at because I spent money on the flowers. Does this stuff end? is the second trimester a little better like they say. Please give me some reassurance. Oh and by the way before she got pregnant we were planing our future. ↑
yea this is crazy, right when my wife got pregnant i had to deploy to iraq ive been away her whole pregnancy not to mention when i get back we had plans to move to my duty station, im hoping that her hormones, moving away and me not being there is the reason she says she doesnt love me and dosent want to be with me anymore. i got 4 months till i go back but i dont know wat to expect from her... is this normal?.... ↑
worried dad - wow! Thank you for being over there. I know it sucks to be away. My dh was TDY 4 months and I found out I was pregnant a week after he left. So speaking from a military wife's point of view, it's hard. I know of what she is going through. She is worried about her future, the move, the baby, her body, you. Everything at once plus all the hormone changes. It's easy for her to say she dosn't love you because you are not there right now. Give her time and a little space. She'll come around. Is she with her parents? If she is isolated, that could make matters worse, make sure she is with family or friends while you are gone so she has a support network until you return. I hope it all works out for you. It did with my dh and me. ↑
ur welcome js and yes se is with her parents right now, we been married about 8 months and both of us young, she is due in a few days and i hope she does come aound cuz its hard to picture being without my wife and son ↑
Oh thank you thank you thank you for this discussion board. I'd actually split up with my girlfriend because of her behaviour just before she realized she was pregnant. Now I know! It's gonna be a long haul ahead but if there's light at the end of the tunnel then I'm up for it. (Being a daddy is going to be so cool!) ↑
My wife has been better than most I think. She is pretty level headed... but now she about 10 days away from having the baby (our first) and I feel ya! All of a sudden, I cant do anything right. Us men have feelings too, needs... but I guess we just have to "man up" and take it! It'll be worth it in the end. Good luck ↑
I am the same way,extrememly mean and at the time i feel that "I'm Right" until all is said and done then i start crying for being so mean or i can go hours ignoring anyone who steps in my path,being pregnant is such an emotional roller coaster..i can't wait to be normal again!! ↑
At least you girls KNOW it is happenning to you AND can perhaps do/say something afterwards to make up for it?????? What if a girl (my girlfriend) just seems to be using it as an excuse for her normal behaviour? (We haven't known one another that long.) ↑
She can't help it at all. Maybe you could try to tell her how scary she is in a very nice way, so she can maybe at least see how upsetting it is, but you must be gentle and understanding b/c she can't really do anything about it. Bring her flowers, and just try your hardest to be very loving. It will be worthi it in the end, for both of you. ↑
I know how you feel my wife is the same way she goes off on everyone that crosses her way. Also everything you do is not good enought for her you try very hard to please her and at times she goes off on you. Its the hormones and its almost over and I bet we both cant wait. ↑
I was a tad off the deep end when I was pregnant. That was over three years ago and I still feel bad about it. I would just advise you to go with the flow, and take a break from the situation as often as you need to. You can always go for a walk or run to the convenience store for a soda, or whatever. It should pass after the baby comes. If it persists after that, then you need to talk!!! I hope all is well in your marriage and that you have a healthy, happy baby. Good luck! ↑
I need help! I am not being there for my pregnant girfriend if she start showing negative emotion I get ten times more pissed off, subjects like religion come up (me Catholic her Christian) and we just go at it like doggs but of course I must win. My ? is what should I do first before I go over board with my pregnant gf? what techniqe is out there so I could calm down without hurting my gf or my baby with stress? help... ↑
Just remember that your girlfriend has been hijacked by aliens. The real her is still inside so there's no use fighting her on anything. Avoid ever raising any topic where you think you will both disagree, do lots of nice things for her (buy her flowers... that sort of stuff) Try to do things that will avoid the stress in the first place.
And when things get bad ... go for a walk. Don't go drinking or anything else, that will only make things worse. Just go walk.
And talk to your mother, sisters and female friends. Ask them for advice and help.
(PS Catholic IS Christian. Besides, Christians, Jews and Muslims all follow the same God. Why argue about it???)
