Name: praying4baby | Date: Jul 22nd, 2008 12:16 AM
I was trying to find a forum to talk with other christians for encouragement, but I didn't have much luck. It would really do me some good to hear how some of you may have used your faith to stay strong and if your prayers have been answered. I would love to share my story, too! ↓
Morning girls! At the age of 5 I told me mother that I want to accept Jesus as my Savior and ever since then I've been a christian. My parents are pastors so I'm a PK (Pastors Kid). I love serving the lord! I'm a worship dancer at my church and I have used prayer to comfort me in this time of TTC. My best friend is about 20 years older than me and has been trying to get pregnant for almost 25 years now. Two weeks ago a minister who doesn't even know her told her that she will be pregnant before the end of this year! See her and watching her go through this stage in life has given me hope in TTC. I never complain about it to her because my 9 months of trying is nothing compared to her 25 years of trying, lol . I love the lord and I know that when its time for me to be pregnant he will let it happen. ↑
We are Methodists (Christian) and I prayed for the 15 months (and before) it took us ttc and it helped me through it. Then through all the pregnancy worries and infant worries. I am now 20 weeks w/ #2 and continue my faith. I wish you all luck and continued faith in ttc and you will have your dreams!!! ↑
Name: praying4baby | Date: Jul 22nd, 2008 10:58 AM
Thank you ladies! My mother-in-law keeps telling me to go ahead and start buying baby things because it shows God my faith, but I can't bring myself to do that. It's not that I don't believe it will happen, but I just don't want to get my hopes up about WHEN it will happen. I have prayed so much for this, I just don't know how much more energy I have for this. But it's good to hear the stories...especially the woman who's been ttc for 25 years!! How old is she now?? And clindholm, thanks for answering my other question, too! I will definitely keep testing and believing! ↑
Name: praying4baby | Date: Jul 22nd, 2008 11:00 AM
Oh and it's really frustrating when people left and right are getting pregnant around me...people who aren't even married and don't want children...I know of 2 or 3 people off the top of my head...why can't I have that instead?? I just don't understand, but maybe it's not my place to understand. ↑
praying4baby, I totally understand your frustration. I am christian and prayed for what seemed forever for my DD. It took me 4 years to concieve and not only my prayers but all my friends and family. I was surrounded by people getting pregnant without trying and some wanting others accepting their pregnancy. Some of my best friends would complain of there morning sickness and other pregnancy whoes. I told them I would give anything to be where you are. I concieved my DD thru fertility...I went in for an IUI and was told to take a pregnancy test on my 28th day of my cycle...it just so happened to be my 30th birthday. I had such a peace and knew I would be pregnant...I was, God has opened so many doors since my DD has been born....I know he is the reason I have my DD. I am now trying to concieve again and I am trying to remain positive. I found a wonderful prayer book at Lifeway Christian store that helps me when I get bogged down with things. Good luck lots of prayers and baby dust that you will have a baby soon. ↑
I too am a Christian. DH and I are to start trying for #2 after this cycle. Shortly after we were married I wanted to have a child but he didn't want to. Almost 5 years later we went on a missions related trip for 9 months quite a ways from our our families. We ended up not having the money to pay for bc and my body doesn't react well to the generic forms. I had tried to talk him into ttc but that didn't help so I prayed about the timing and that I would either just get pregnant or he would be ready to start trying. He was ok with me not being on anything. 4 months and a lot of prayer later I fell pregnant with our DD. Keep praying and depending on God. It will happen in His timing. ↑
Praying4baby ~~~ As a Pastors Daughter I have seen many couples get pregnant who aren't married or who are on the point of divorcing and BAM ----they're pregnant---- Others are familys that really can not afford children and BAM--- They're pregnant, and then there are us!!!!!! People who take step by step ways and do things right and BAM ----- BFN month after month. EVERYONE ELSE~~~~~~~ stop praying for God to make you pregnant. Instead praise and worship him and because he already knows the desires of our hearts. my father always told me that never to ask for things to happen because they won't. You have to have faith that GOD will make a way when the time is right. Instead what I do is thank him every night for the child he'll be giving me. you know what I mean? Its hard and sometimes its fustrating but things happen for a reason in life. ↑
Thank you so much ladies! This is exactly what I needed to hear! Clindholm--did you feel like you had any pregnancy symptoms when you got a bfn at 10 dpo? lillybug--I think I will take your advice and start thanking and praising God rather than beg him for a baby. jendean00--what was your prayer book called? I don't think we have one of those stores here. Thanks for the encouragement!! ↑
im catholic and prayer and my faith are very important to me although i find myself asking god all the time why?!i definitely dont agree and believe all of my religions beliefs and "rules" if you will. regardless of my views on my own religion i have to have faith no matter how lttle i have or how great it is because it keeps me going! god bless you all. ↑
Name: praying4baby | Date: Jul 23rd, 2008 12:19 AM
baby-patojo...i was asking you if you were pregnant yet :) thanks for being there! **hope-31...I believe faith is important, too, regardless of which denomination you are in. I understand asking God "why??", and i am trying to keep myself from doing that right now. I am trying to just accept that there is a reason I haven't conceived yet, and believing that I could still find out I'm pregnant this month. **big sigh** these comments are exactly what I needed! i appreciate all of you so much!! ↑
Throughout the years I have come to realize that almost all religions involve Faith. Faith is important! I found my self asking God Why???? alot until I learned that I should be better than that. I should know better than that too. but it is so hard!!!! lol I have this little book that you can find almost anywhere and its called : "The Prayer of Jabez." I'll post the prayer after this post. When it says "BLESS ME INDEED" is refers to those desires in your heart, the things you long for and ask from God. Its a great prayer to repeat when you pray. You'll notice differences in your life. When I first started saying the pray I didn't have a job. three weeks later I got a full-time job working for the state I live in with great benefits and paid time off. So i hope it works for you girls! ↑
THE PRAYER:~~~~~~~~And Jabez called on the God of Israel saying, "Oh, that You would bless me indeed, and enlarge my territory, that Your hand would be with me, and that You would keep me from evil, that I may not cause pain." So God granted him what he requested.
I Chronicles 4:10 NKJV ↑
Praying4baby- I had absolutely no symptoms, in fact I had the usual terrible af cramps for the week prior to when af was due (which is normal for me). I thought that cycle was a bust for sure. Symptons did not kick in until about 7 weeks for me. OMG Lilly- that is the prayer (Jabez) that I say everyday!!!! ↑
im pretty sure i am! i trust my heart, but today im going to the doctor for a blood test... im very nervous my appoinment is at 3:40 pm
can u please pray for me? im gonna need a lot of support... its not even 10 yet but i feel like crying im scared... i dont want somethign negative even though im "confident" but theres always a little thing inside me you know i know what i feel and everything i just need a backup... thats why im going to the doctor my fear is that that backup might be negative =(
so ... i hope to hear from you ladys!
God bless you!! ↑
Baby_Patojo~~~ May God bless you during the blood test! I'll keep you in my prayers! Clindholm~~~~ I also say this prayer! I love it! My father did a two month bible study class on the prayer alone! lol I've been having cramps since Ovulation! My Af is due on Monday. Hope it never shows ↑
Name: praying4baby | Date: Jul 23rd, 2008 11:31 AM
Schreck--wow that's a long time to wait for your dh to be ready! were you young when you got married? Lillybug--thank you for the prayer! I would like to find that on something I could put in my bedroom...I may go shopping :) Clindholm--I keep telling myself it's not too late this cycle even though I don't really have any symptoms. I'm 11 dpo today and this morning it looks like my temperature dipped, so maybe it's implantation? Do you have a fertility friend home page where you charted your bbt? baby-patojo--I will be remembering you today!! Are you going to the doctor by yourself? God will be with you! ↑
Hi girls- I so hope you all get your bfp's this cycle. I never did bbt (too confusing) I used opk's the first time and the second time I just knew b/c I got the very distinctive ovulation cramp, I am currently 20 weeks. Baby Potojo- good luck at your test and of course say your prayers. I used to work for the WIC program (federal assistance for babies and pg moms) and I would constantly see women having babies one after the other with out any effort, wether they wanted them or not. When I was ttc it was just terrible and I cried alot. Most of these people did not appreciate the little miracles they were blessed with. Just wanted you all to know that I know how you feel and it is so hard to stay positive month after month. Colleen ↑
I had recently turned 21 when we got married. DH was finally read when I started praying that God would give me patience to wait for His timing. I was reading in Matthew last night and came across 14:31 where part b says "O you of little faith, why did you doubt?" We need to trust Him!! He knows what is best for our lives and when the right time is. There are 2 couples in my church that were unable to have children. They both adopted. God gave them their children in HIs timing. ↑
schreck--I would not be opposed to adoption at all! Even though I would love to go through experience of growing our own little baby, adoption would give us a child without having morning sickness, changes to my body, and being put off work. I just wish I could know whether or not I need to do that...I am on clomid right now, and it's probably going to be a long road before we decide that adoption is the only option. I suppose this is when I need to just quit thinking what I can't control and just put it in God's hands!! ↑
Hi praying4baby! I'm a believer!!! I have been ttc for 2 years now and trust me when I say I know how you feel. I have endo and my dh recently got sperm analysis results that said he had 0 sperm! initially dh and I were devasted and I thought that we would have to consider other options...like adoption. BUT! I know that GOD is able to do anything!!! He has the desire to give me my heart's desire and so... I am believing God for a miracle to happen! I know it gets frustrating sometimes but God's word says for us to be fruitful and multiply! Therefore you will be able to conceive...just in God's time. Also...there were barren women in the bible and God blessed their wombs so that they were able to have children...so why wouldn't he do that for us. I just want to encourage to read and meditate on God's word daily...praise him for what is going to do...and wait on your miracle girlie!!!! Lastly, I read this book entitled "Supernatural Childbirth" that I got from the christian bookstore...It really helped me to realize that I was limiting God on what he could do. So you may want to read that as well. I have decided to decorate my nursery to show God that I am prepared for his miracle...even though I can't see when or how it is going to happen...so your mothers advice isn't a bad idea after all. After I finish decorating, I plan on using the room as my prayer room and I am also keeping a prayer journal for my pregnancy. Sorry If I rambled on too much....but I was touched by your story and wanted to give you some encouragement!!!!Keep us updated!!!! BTW...lilybug...thanks for that prayer!! I needed that!!! have a great day ladies!!! ↑
oh goodness, yes i would love to share my story of faith! This is going to be very long probably...but i feel that its important to share the good that faith can do and i hope it inspires you all to believe. this is not about ttc however, but more just an affirmation that prayers and faith do work! i had a miscarriage in feb 2007 and we were sooo heartbroken, i could barely get out of bed in the mornings because i had loved that baby with all my heart already...i was ten weeks and we already had names picked out and everything. i had a dream around the time that the heart stopped beating and my mother and grandfather were in it and were holding a beautiful little baby boy, this was before i knew that i was miscarrying...and it was such a beautiful dream but it kind of worried me in a way because the only time that i have had really vivid dreams like that was when my mother was sick and right before she died and she was saying she loved me and saying goodbye...well this dream was like that one, so vivid that i was ALWAYS remember it. i found out later on when i got an ultrasound the following week that the night i had that dream was probably the same time the babys heart had stopped. i didnt want to conceive for a while because it was just too hard for me to imagine while grieving so we were doing natural family planning methods. well....the cycle following my miscarriage we had one incident of unprotected sex around when i was supposed to ovulate and i just had a feeling that i was pregnant and told dh that....he said "nah, not just from that one time, it took a lot more than that to get pregnant the first time! if you are then its our miracle baby" sure enough.....our little miracle happened when i got a bfp april 2007. i was scared to death! instead of being overjoyed i began crying my eyes out because i just couldn't imagine that happening again to us. about a week later when i was about 6 weeks pregnant i was at a family get together (they didnt know i was pregnant yet) and i began getting terrible cramps and thought i had to go to the restroom, i went in and just started bleeding all over. it continued and was getting worse. i was calm and just accepted in my heart whatever was happening, i had a chat with god on the way to the hospital and just said that it was all in his hands and whatever happens i will accept in my heart. i was passing huge clots and thought for sure that i was having a miscarriage of course.....well, they did an ultrasound on me and although the tech was not allowed to tell me anything i saw this little tiny dot flickering on the monitor, i couldn't believe it and didnt want to get my hopes up...but....what else could it be??? they came in and told me that the baby was still there and had a heartbeat but the heartbeat was extrememly slow, i think it was 90 bpm, and they said that they thought i was in the middle of a miscarriage and the baby was probably dying and to expect to expel the remains. i REFUSED to accept that! i knew deep in my heart the moment i saw that little flicker that this baby was a miracle just like dh had said a few weeks before. at that moment when they told me that it was not a viable pregnancy my faith soared like no other, i wasn't giving up on this baby. that night i lay in bed and said over and over and over again "dear lord, please hold this baby in your hand and breathe life into my baby" i will never forget those words because i continued to say them over and over in the following months... i went to the doctor as a follow up and he did an ultrasound...i'll never forget that day...he was there and comforted me during the miscarriage and knew how sad we were...he looked up as he got the machine ready and said "please god let there be a heartbeat" (how many doctors would be that way? i LOVE my doctor, he is the best!) and then he proceded with the vaginal ultrasound....heartbeat was 160 beats per minute!!!! my baby was living and strong in there. i prayed so much during the following months. She was born december 11th, her name is anjelica and we call her angel because she is our little angel sent to us. if you read this whole story, thank you. i just want you all to know that your prayers are being heard and believe that your precious angel is waiting for you too and will come to you when they are ready for this world...have faith! :-) ↑
hey girls... i got a sad story to tell you, i went to the doctor i got a little lost on my way there but i made it..., they didnt want me to go trhough a blood test so they did the urine test 2x and came out "negative" i never saw them but the reason why they did it the second time was because i do have all my symptoms... when they told me that both were negative and asked if i wanted a baby and all i said yes, they ask a whole bunch of stuff, and out of nothing... the doctor said i dont know what but i coulnd t hold it back any longer so i started crying, and i explained to her it wasent possible so i dont know, i really dont feel like talking about it very detailed, but she saw me i guess pretty bad so she said she was gonna take a blood test ... so she send me to the lab the even bad thing was that it was closed.... so from then on i cryed and cryed and cryed... i dont know why.... but i felt miserable. now im doing a lot better and out of nothing my hope came back... but acording to the doctor she said i should be getting my period. or at least thats what i understood.. any hope from any of u??? what do you think????
the first week of August i will be a month late.
i havent had any symptoms this week ...
but any way ... my heart was in a thousand pieces today. i cant explain the pain.
some one please help me.... please tell me something... ↑
luvmyike--thank you for telling me your story! wow, your faith must be 10 times that of a mustard seed :-) I think it's a wonderful idea to use that room as a devotional room...I may go ahead and start looking for things, as well. We just bought a house a few months ago and I wouldn't let my husband put anything this one room that I wanted to use as a baby's room. Finally, he convinced me to use it as a guest room until we conceived. But he is not allowed to use the closet or store anything in there haha! You are so strong! I am seeing that I need to pray for my faith to increase so much more than it is now, I need to live God up more than I ever have. And whether he decides to bless me with a child or not, he deserves all the praise I can give him, and maybe he'll let me take in a child that someone didn't want or couldn't keep. I will use that room for my purpose yet! :-) **Margie--what an amazing story! I don't even know what to say to that...how comforting it must be, though, to know that your first child is in Heaven already waiting for you! And what an appropriate name for your dd! Your story reminds me that God can heal and protect everyone and everything, even a little flicker :-) **baby_patojo--I am so sorry to hear about your negative tests...trust me when I say that you will not feel like this forever! If nothing else, let this experience remind you how much you want to be a mother and pray for strength to keep trying and faith to believe it will happen!! ** Ok I'll finish sharing my story in the next post. ↑
