i ALWAYS go for the guys who are usually big pervs and only interested in sex....are ALL men like this? i can't find one half decent guy, i realize all guys want sex but i can never find even ONE that is half decent to me. Does anybody else feel this way?i cannot find one i can trust even a little. i want lots of kids one day but i don't want to grow old and not have more kids( i have one) and i also don't want to half 10 kids with various fathers because it's just not accepted by society. and being a single mother,who has time to date?i am sorry i am just so fraustrated with the jerks i choose. ↓
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Name: gummibear | Date: Jul 24th, 2008 1:02 PM
My best advice to you is to develop a network of good girlfriends. Join a women's group. It doesn't seem intuitive - you're asking about how to find a good man right? But, if you feel you're choosing jerks to date, girlfriends are great at screening those men out. Yes, a lot of women bring drama of their own, but that's why I said 'good' girlfriends. Also, you didn't say where you are meeting men. But good girlfriends will notice your dating and flirting habits and provide feedback on adjusting them to attract the guys you're looking for. In my experience, a LOT of men want to settle down and have families. I trip over them all the time, while the sexed up pervs usually stay away from me. Inspect the vibes you're giving out. And I don't say this to be mean or presumptive. I had a wonderful girlfriend, also a mother of two, who was extremely attractive on a sexual level. She had learned growing up how to attract men, but only sexually, so that the pervs came running. She spent over a year with a women-only group, a group filled with women she might not have hung out with otherwise b/c their interests & backgrounds were so different from her own (i.e. knitters and museum-hoppers in addition to clubbers and bar-hoppers). The other women insulated her from the pervs and she learned (consciously and subconsciously) to adjust the vibes she gave out. She also became more confident and comfortable with trusting certain men, while rejecting others she wouldn't have rejected in the past. Good girlfriends will also tell you if the issue is the guys your coming across or whether you're rejecting guys you ought to give a chance. And, for the record, no, not all guys are like that. :) ↑
