Hi - I just wanted to post again for you future ladies to follow up - I basically stopped having sex after we tried again at 3 months and it still hurt. So now at 4 months we tried again and it was fine! No pain at all this time around. So my suggestion is to give it a lot of time after the surgery to heal 4 months +. I told my dh that next time we are waiting a full 4 months afterwards but I feel relieved now. ↑
i believe eveyone is different we are all not he same we experience different things with our pregnancy but it's good to get different advise. as for me sex was not an issue because even tough it did hurt the few first time but we kept on trying the more i did it the less it hurt is like getting use to it again like a virgin like the majority of you said so just becareful and safe because eveyone is different ↑
I agree with Maria514, we're all different, everyone is going to experience this differently. My hubby and I tried 4 weeks pp and it hurt sooooo bad, we stopped. We tried again the next night with LOTS of lube, and it was a bit better, but still sore. I think basically if we just keep at it, it will eventually get better. The thing I'm finding is that I'm just not "in the mood", or at least am very rarely. Has anyone else had this problem? Is it from the hormonal changes? During pregnancy I couldn't get enough, but now I could care less. I'm just so tired from recuperating from surgery, dealing with a newborn, feeling flabby, I feel about as far from sexy as I could get. And it's almost like I feel like I have nothing left to give at the end of the night. Does that make sense? ↑
I'm having all the same issues. I had c section 7 months ago. Sex is still painful, although it is getting better, every time we try we are able to go deeper inside vagina. My husband wants me to go to OB to check for infections, but I thought I would search online to see if it is common or not. ↑
I agree with everyone here!!! It's painful! I had my c-sec 4 1/2 months ago, and it is STILL painful. We didn't try to have sex until 6 weeks, and that first time was like having sex for the first time all over again. For me, it hurts with deep penetration, and it feels like there is an 'open wound' up there, even though I know there isn't anything. From everything that I have read about, Pelvic Floor exercises should be done to strengthen everything. Especially if you are like me and the baby sat VERY LOW! I too wondered why it hurt so bad when the baby didn't come out of my vagina. Thanks for all your responses ladies! Makes me feel better to know I too am not alone. Sex is getting a little better. The more we do it, the better it feels. But, I still get EXTREME anxiety before we have sex. I hope this goes away so I can enjoy sex before getting pregnant again. ↑
hello- they held your bladder outside of your body while they cut open the uterus- things got moved- you have a scar that is not healed yet- your muscles, blood vessels and nerves were cut from the surgery- does your husband massage you and your tummy? Take care of yourself! when you mean hurt ...in the vagina, in the pelvis? surgery takes longer than you think to recover. the uterus was incised, and a baby came out, your cervix was indirectly affected-
try having your husband place his clean finger inside of you, and with other hand place over your scar area- breathe into the connection- he does not have to move his finger or hand, but can move hand on top of tummy to see if there is a connection in pain level for you- breathe in love and light- be gentle with yourself- do scar massage and take care!
I'm going through this too. It's been going on for 10 months now. I'm still breastfeeding and got my first period back last week ( I didn't miss that!!). I have to use pads as using tampons is even painful.
I've had two Caesarians. This particular problem only lasted 3-4 months with my first but this time is much worse. I've seen doctors etc. only to be told that it's merely a waiting game. My husband is extremley understanding but it's starting to bring me down. I miss the intimacy of it all. The pain is incredible for me. I'm happy to know that i'm not the only one!
Thank goodness I found this site. I had a c-section a year ago. My son was breach and I tried all the different techniques my doctor suggested to turn him, but he was too big and a c-section was scheduled. After a year, I am still having problems. My right hip makes this popping sound when I lie on it and sex is painful still. I thought there was something wrong with me and my husband thinks I'm not interested in him anymore. I want to be intimate, but I starting feeling anxious about intercourse when I remember the pain that comes along with it. I thought that by now, everything would be back to normal and my husband and I could resume our normal sex life, but that hasn't been the case. I am still searching the internet for a solution to my problem. I just want the pain to go away. ↑
