i am 24 , and married. since i am married i have been suffering a lot. i have been living on my own without my hubbys support till today. he is a very carefree person but as we came to face problems i tried to sort things out by chatting with him with love but seems like it didnt work out. i tried my best as an honest wife. every now and than when i am hopeless in life i go for long walks and cry at night. the beginning of this year i went to my husbund just to spend some time with him. but he is so busy he prefered his friends more important than me .i had so much to share with him but he doesnt listen to me . finally on march i got preg to my first baby. i told him so. all he did was nod his head ! cox i am an epilepsy patient i first was scared cox i may have a fit and loose my baby. my fear was right. cox of depression i had the worst attack and it coxed a miscarrige . two weeks i was in hospital but my husbund cudnt even check on me . it all seemed like he didnt care. after loosing our first i wasnt hopeless. i thought i will try for another . cox a baby may change his attitute was the most reason. but it was hopeless. no matter how much i wanted my hubby he doesnt want to be close to me . so i gave up and asked him for divorce. but he didnt divorced me even. so i kept ignoring him by working in hard in office. after amonths time i met a guy whom was totally hopless cox of his wife . no matter how much he loved her she wasnt . the worst is they have a baby boy whose 3 of age. but still cox the wife is in love with someone else she and her mother have been fighting against him for money. when i came to knoe his situation i tried my best in building his confidence and helping him out with his situation.but things changed between us within no time. we fell in love and my husbund even cam,e to knoe my sudden change. i tried again to talk with my hubby but still it didnt work out.. so i gave up and concentrated on the guy whom loves me for whom i am . now i am preg to his baby and i told my hubby why it happened and for whom it is. he didnt wanted to listen to me as usual. so i asked for his divorce. i am now almost 7 weeks preg. i told him and he said i was a bitch and was mad at me . he didnt took notice all these months for wot i said about building our relationship. i started an affair cox my hubby was continuously having sex with other woman but i had no proof to blame him. cox i am innocent he took the advantage of me. i told my parents several times i am dont wanna marry him but i was forced . i had no choice. today though am married and pregnant to another man i fell in love with i feel like i am a single mother! my hubby have a child to another lady without marriage when he was only 18. i never made a fuss out of it . now that i have no one i have been thinking of aborting cox i cant take responsibilities all by myself when i am an epileptic patient! this baby wasnt even planned. i am half scared to abort even. cox aborting a baby is like killing myself. i know having this baby i myself hav to work hard to raise my baby. now even though am married my hubby doesnt spend for m e. i myself am doing everything myself! what shall i do ? shall i abort my baby ! ↓
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Name: socurbaby7 | Date: Jul 8th, 2008 8:07 AM
umm .. well what happened to the other guy... is he not going to support you at all??? and i mean it is your choice... your baby.... if you dont think you can handle raising a baby on your own maybe think about an open ended adoption or something??? Goodluck ↑
Name: Cat24 | Date: Jul 15th, 2008 9:33 AM
well the first thing i would think about is actually getting a divorce started properly so you can start your life afresh, away from that vile man. once you have done that i would have some serious talks with the father of your unborn baby and find out where you stand with him. it is not fair what your husband did to you but likewise it is not fair to get your own back by getting pregnant by another womans husband! you will have to decide if you will love your baby and be a strong independant woman because you sound fairly weak at the moment. it seems you rely heavily on men to make you happy and when it doesnt work out you then consider aborting the baby involved. plenty of disabled and epileptic women bring up children, i know one who has 4 children all under the age of 7 and she does a fine job! ↑
