STUPID STUPID HUSBAND WON T HELP

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lovesing - August 10

Ha! I have heard that one...

 

mum2bubba - August 6

One word: Divorce. Seriously. You may as well be a single mother, you already are looking after your child as well as a man child. Show him the door. That's what I'd do.

 

BuckeyeGirl00 - November 12

First off I'm glad I found this site. I know I'm not the only one now. I have been married 4 years but been with my hubby for 10 years we were HS Sweathearts. I am 28 and he's 29, we have recently started talking about having a baby but there's some uncertainty on my end see I have a hubby that loves Video games always has and I would never take that away from him, he does things when I ask him but I wish I didn't have to ask all the time. Anyway my uncertainty stems from him knowing that a baby takes priority over games he tells me can can juggle both but I have my doubts a new game starts at $60 and all he can say is I can think of is preordering his games and making payments which is smart but with if we needed that money I can't get a sense of security from him on where his priorities ly and that scares me, I love him he is good to me and we have fun together but like everyones elseon here I'm the keeper of the house, I love it when out of the blue he does things around the house and wish he did that more and I do thank him when he does. But having a baby is something I so want I just get mixed signals from him with how much responsibility it will be all he says us I want kids but I'll never stop playing games, well stopping him is not at all my intention I play them with him sometimes, I just need to feel from him that the games will come after a family and family must be first. I have no doubt he will make a good Dad I've seen him with kids that just love him. I'm just so scared he won't sacrifice buying a game for me or a baby if the need came about. Another thing that is sad is we know a married couple with kids and both parents are gamers and they play more than being parents what I can say from that is my hubby is not that bad and I don't think he would get that way I just need to feel he understands sacrifices that could have to be made for a baby. This is a difficult thing for me and I've read all your stories on here it makes me feel better that I'm not alone.

 

fatherof6 - January 11

Ladies, I came to this forum doing a search for how can I help my grumpy pregnant wife be more cheerful... I saw this discussion and wanted to just say help your man to understand by talking to him. We love to fix things, to work out issues etc. Give him something to do, a list even that would be helpful if he will agree to it. Some of you do sound like you married lazy guys, I don't know that you can change that but you can at least make your concerns known directly. We don't like or understand hints, just give it to us straight! Hope you can all get some help, my wife is pregnant with our sixth child and I know how rough it is to be pregnant from watching and talking to my wife about it. Hang in there, ask for time for yourself from your husband and remember how much he loves you, we do we just don't know how to express it while you are pregnant and generally aren't interested in us physically for 12+ months. Guys really do show and experience love in physical affection and it's super tough as a man to go through pregnancy where your wife suddenly is repulsed by your touch, let alone even the thought of s_x. my two bits!

 

moonflower - February 26

My heart goes out to all who have a husband who is not supportive. I have been married for five years and I'm 26. I have three older brothers, a sperm-donor father and a deceased step-dad. If I only knew then what I know now I never would have gotten married. My husband changed soon after I married him and only thinks about himself. I have worked seven days a week working 12 hours days. He has his own car and expects me to drive him around but throws a fit if I want to stop at one single place for two minutes. Even when he didn't work he didn't lift a finger. And yes, he plays video games. I am never getting married again. I pity the women who would date any of my brothers and my husband is so immature I really miss my step-dad who would laugh at him if he were alive. I think if you are pregnant no one needs to be telling you that you are too emotional either or it so tough for other people having to deal with emotional pregnant women. If you weren't emotional you would probably leave and take all his toys. Take us for granted, please. There are a few man worth dedicating your life to and they are scarce. So, for all of those tired of hanging on, use us up and set us free.

 

moonflower - February 26

My heart goes out to all who have a husband who is not supportive. I have been married for five years and I'm 26. I have three older brothers, a sperm-donor father and a deceased step-dad. If I only knew then what I know now I never would have gotten married. My husband changed soon after I married him and only thinks about himself. I have worked seven days a week working 12 hours days. He has his own car and expects me to drive him around but throws a fit if I want to stop at one single place for two minutes. Even when he didn't work he didn't lift a finger. And yes, he plays video games. I am never getting married again. I pity the women who would date any of my brothers and my husband is so immature I really miss my step-dad who would laugh at him if he were alive. I think if you are pregnant no one needs to be telling you that you are too emotional either or it so tough for other people having to deal with emotional pregnant women. If you weren't emotional you would probably leave and take all his toys. Take us for granted, please. There are a few man worth dedicating your life to and they are scarce. So, for all of those tired of hanging on, use us up and set us free.

 

moonflower - February 26

My heart goes out to all who have a husband who is not supportive. I have been married for five years and I'm 26. I have three older brothers, a sperm-donor father and a deceased step-dad. If I only knew then what I know now I never would have gotten married. My husband changed soon after I married him and only thinks about himself. I have worked seven days a week working 12 hours days. He has his own car and expects me to drive him around but throws a fit if I want to stop at one single place for two minutes. Even when he didn't work he didn't lift a finger. And yes, he plays video games. I am never getting married again. I pity the women who would date any of my brothers and my husband is so immature I really miss my step-dad who would laugh at him if he were alive. I think if you are pregnant no one needs to be telling you that you are too emotional either or it so tough for other people having to deal with emotional pregnant women. If you weren't emotional you would probably leave and take all his toys. Take us for granted, please. There are a few man worth dedicating your life to and they are scarce. So, for all of those tired of hanging on, use us up and set us free.

 

Sflo214 - November 21

Omg it sounds like you described my situation the the t! The only difference is my husband works nights so it’s kinda even worse. The only thing he does is walk our 6 year old to the school in the morning which is directly across the street from our home. After that he checks out. I beg him to come home eat and get some rest because the kids would love to spend some time with him before he goes to work. Instead he eats, showers and gets on his phone and devoted that time to all things UFC. I have a 4 year old and 15 year old with heart condition so he’s home schooled. I have really bad back problems from spinal arthritis, herniated discs, sciatica, and a lot more. I’m about to be 39 weeks pregnant. I had the worst morning sickness that lasted my entire pregnancy up until about a month ago I threw up at least 6 or more times a day. With all that plus the extra pain on my back was amplified due to the weight of the baby. I’m in excruciating pain every minute and I still have to take care of our kids alone. When he is home he’s asleep if not on the phone. On his days off he sleeps until about 10 or 11 pm and is up all night “catching up” on all the UFC crap. Our kids have to throw themselves on him to get any attention and then he’ll play with them for a short time but never make an effort to stay focused on them. If they go to the table to get a drink and come back to continue playing he is already back on his phone or the tv and they just get tired of begging for his attention and end up going off to play with each other. I have to cook still and can’t even stand up for a while 5 minutes so it takes forever to make even a simple meal like spaghetti. He won’t offer to help brown the meat, wash a dish, do a lid of laundry nothing. I have high blood pressure my Dr. was going to induce me at 37 weeks because it was so high and he was concerned about the baby. He decided to send me home and if my blood pressure stayed high that night to come back but thankfully it lowered a small bit. I’ve been on strict bed rest for the last two months but that doesn’t mean anything to my husband. I asked him to help me sweep the bedroom because we have no vacuum. He won’t do anything but I thought maybe he would help me at least sweep, he ignored me the whole night. I finally had to get up and do it myself while he watched me in pin and continues to watch his ufc. My back is pulsating in pain as I type this and he was supposed to be home early tonight to start his maternity leave (I’ll be induced on Saturday And have a Dr. appt tomorrow) so he promised he’d start his leave and be home by lunch which is 11 pm. He puts that job before us, always works holidays and never fights for time with us. Tbh I shouldn’t even care because when he is home he’s not here he’s in His own zone. Voiding us all out. I have the nesting instinct and I try my best to do what I can but he won’t lift a pinky to help me achieve anything. He also won’t help me up out of a low seat or when I’m in bad pain offer to help me to walk to the next room. My son will help me and my husband won’t even. When we go to the Dr. and I’m in the waiting area and they call us he’s always on his phone and doesn’t help me, the other mothers and husbands gave him an ugly look the other day and he stuck his hand out to help. It was very embarrassing for me. The Dr always helps me up after examining me and it just sad to know everyone knows better but my husband I am starting to thing he does it to be mean. After 3 kids he should know by now how to treat his pregnant wife let alone wife in general. I know it’s been so long and he’s used to this behavior. I hope and pray this changes because how can our family live this way forever. I feel like a single mother. ????

 

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