Infertile After Uterine Cancer

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Annaliss - January 31

My husband and I have been always dreaming about children. But unfortunately I was diagnosed with cancer of the uterus. The uterus, fallopian tubes and ovaries were removed. At first I was crying a lot, I had a depression and I was even attending a psychologist. My husband supported me and cheered me up as much as he could. I felt so guilty, I knew how much he wants to have kids and I let him down. I was afraid he’ll leave me. And I actually thought he have to do so and find another woman, who has no problems with fertility. But my husband gave me so much love and support and we decided not to give up. We choose surrogacy as the best way out for us. But we are from France and this procedure here is illegal. We’ve been thinking about clinics in USA first, but their prices are huge! That’s why we are looking for clinics in Europe. What should we consider? Any tips?

 

Annaliss - February 22

Hello everyone who is following my thread! I'm so grateful for all support I received here on this forum. All this means a lot for me. As you know my husband and I are looking into surrogacy option. In our country surrogacy is illegal. So we're thinking about going abroad. Because of this, we will probably have to dig more and look for not only details about surrogacy process but also about legal aspects in different countries. That's why we are thinking about meeting with the lawyer in a couple of days. I think this is the best thing to start with our search. I hope the lawyer will share information about laws and rules considering surrogacy abroad. We've already made a list with some questions which we would like to ask the lawyer. Maybe you have some advices what is needed to be asked? I will appreciate if you help us with this task. I'm a little bit nervous. I really hope what the lawyer will help us to clarify some questions. I hope after our meeting it will be easier to find reproductive center where we could go to start our surrogacy process.

 

Annaliss - February 22

I should say there is something on my mind which bothering me. I really want to share it with you. Maybe you can relate to my situation and you will understand how I feel. As you've noticed I wasn't very active on the forum last couple of weeks. The reason of it is that wife of my husband's brother gave birth to a wonderful girl. This is their second baby. My husband and I went to their house to visit them after delivery. Though I should say it was really hard for both of us. I'm happy for them and for their children. They have really amazing family. I wish we could also have children. I'm sure they would make our life different. So we went to visit them. When I saw a little baby girl I started to cry. She's so beautiful tiny little cutie. I was crying because I was happy for them. Also I was feeling sorry both for myself and my husband. I've noticed that when my husband was holding baby girl in his arms, he was also about to cry. This was a very tough moment for us. When we get home we didn't talk at all. Each of us was thinking about our infertility and our desire to have children. At least I was. After our visit my husband seems different. He doesn't talk that much. He comes home late from work. When I talk to him it seems he's somewhere else. To be honest it scares me. He doesn't talk to me. I started to think up stuff in my head which make me feel nervous. I understand this is hard for him to see that his younger brother is having his second child. I understand that old blame is on me. I'm so scared that he may decide to leave me because I can't give him what he wants the most. That's why I do everything so our surrogacy procedure could start as soon as possible. I hope that our journey will give us strength to keep going till the end.

 

Kylie01 - February 22

Hi dear! I'm so sorry about your situation. But I'm happy to know you battled cancer! Unfortunately I've also faced infertility. My dh and I wanted to have children more than anything else. I've got pregnant when I was 22. I was warned about risks. My doctors told me I'm crazy if I leave a baby. My heart could not stand pregnancy. It might cause problems not only to my health, but baby's health as well. Also doctors told me there is high possibility I might die. All this scared me and I was confused. After long discussion with my dh we decided we should make it.

I don't know if I regret about this decision. I don't know maybe I would regret my whole life if I made an abortion on early term. Unfortunately doctors made me to terminate pregnancy on 6th month. I had dyspnea, edema, blood circulation disorders. I felt pain in chest. My heart was aching not only because it was hard for it to work for two, but also because I knew I should make my choice. I had to choose either I will live or my baby and I will die. Unbearable pain had never left me. I think it will never fade away.

We also decided to go abroad to have surrogacy. The clinic provided us with everything needed, so we felt absolutely comfortable in foreign country. We were met in the airport. We were provided with a taxi and it was transporting us to the clinic and to our apt. Btw, housing was also provided by the clinic. The whole process was under their control. They found surrogate mother for us in 2.5 months. We paid approximately $30,000 for everything. We didn't choose a surrogate mother by ourselves. Her appearance doesn't matter. The most important are her health and ability to bear a child. So our doctor chose sm for us.

Surrogacy is perfect option in your case. Be very careful in your search. There are hundreds of fake agencies. They take money away from miserable people and continue to live happily. That's why I advise you to contact clinics directly. Good luck, dear!

 

 

wellspring1 - February 26

Hello,
That's really great that you so strongly fought cancer. To deal with this surrogacy is the best option to fight infertile  and have your own child. In India Surrogacy is legalized process at affordable cost compare to other countries. I would suggest to do surrogacy in India.

 

FloraRustin88 - May 19

Hi Annalis! I'm extremely sorry for your health condition. You're really a fighter! This is not your fault. Stay strong! So, yeah!  Wish you all the best! yes! I know some countries don't support surrogacy and related laws. So, yeah! Don't be disappointed. Well, have you tried considering Ukraine? Because it's pretty famous nowadays for it. Last year my cousin also had her procedure there. She lives in the U.S. But, she couldn't afford it there. So, she went to a center in Ukraine. It went successfully for her. So, yeah! Wish you all the best! Stay strong! xx BABY dust to you. I hope you get better! you can defeat cancer dear! xoxo Sending you a lot of LOVE! xx

 

Rachel966 - May 21

I am also infertile due to hysterectomy cancer and there were no chances of having a baby so i went for surrogacy. I'm from Japan.We moved to Europe to find our heaven.
Surrogacy is ban in Japan.And i'm infertile due to some cancer reasons. So we moved to Europe to find surrogacy related clinics. We consulted many clinics in Europe. Than we came to know about clinics in Ukraine and we moved to Ukraine.
In ukraine we found a very good clinic. 
Now we are having twins with the help of this clinic.The clinic gave us a very good surrogate mom.With the help of that mom we are having our two twin daughters.
We are so excited and happy.
Feedback and suggestions much admired.

 

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