Cytotec For Missed Miscarriage

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DanaLee - August 16

Hello, Id like to share my story of taking Cytotec in hopes it will help out some people who may be going through the same situation. Sorry this story is really long. First of, I'll tell you that I have one daughter born in 2008 - unplanned and uncomplicated. We have since had two missed miscarriages from planned pregnancies, one in March 2012 and one just now August 2012. I am 29 years old and consider myself healthy. The first was detected by my midwife being unable to find a heartbeat. I had heard a healthy heart beat at my 12 week appointment. For this appointment I was 16 weeks, 6 days, she heard nothing, she had another midwife try and she heard nothing also, my 4 year old daughter was with me, my midwife joked with her about the baby hiding and didn't make it obvious if she thought something was really wrong. At this point I was thinking, ya.. its ok.. the placenta is in the way, and I didn't want to scare my daughter. She scheduled an ultrasound for me for the next day. We went in thinking nothing could possibly be wrong.. They brought the baby up on the screen and there was no heart beat, just a crumpled little baby. It was devastating to say the least, I was completely shocked and saddened.. my first thought was how am I going to tell my 4 year old, who was really excited to be a big sister. We had gotten past the "12 week rule", how can this be happening! Because I was farther along, the baby was measuring between 14-15 weeks, they suggested D&C - I wasn't cool with that, our other choices were to "wait for it to happen" - no thanks, walking around with a dead baby in my belly wasn't a pleasing thought.. or take pills to make it happen. We chose the pills. After sitting in the emergency ward for a few hours, and telling the same sad story over and over we were told to go home and they would call us when they had a room. Three excruciating days later we were taken into hospital - the maternity ward - which at first felt like a cruel unusual joke, but later became respected. It made sense.. I was after all, having a baby. I took 2 cytotec pills every 4 hours from 3pm til around 1am. They gave me diarrhea and the cramps were intense, they were very mild at first.. (I took tylenol and advil which did nothing). I felt like it was manageable though. The nurse checked my temp and my blood pressure every hour. I slept on and off from 8-9pm on-wards, around 2am the cramps became like contractions, coming and going every minute or so, I was rocking to escape the pain. I felt a "pop" like feeling, what I now know was the fetus/sac breaking away from the uterine wall, and the baby moving downwards, I knew I had to get up out of bed, so I had my husband help me get to the bathroom. I sat on the toilet and I knew that the baby was going to come out. I had to hold onto him (husband) to allow myself to relax and let it out. So, out it came.. into the toilet. I looked down and it was dangling, in its sac with the cord hanging from me. My husband rang the nurse, she came and helped me walk back to the bed - she held the baby still dangling, on a pad now - she said it was important that the baby and cord didn't separate from the placenta. I laid in bed bawling my eyes out for a good hour and a half, the baby on a pad between my legs, I was unable to look at it out of fear. I knew again that in order to move things along I had to stand up and move around. The nurse and my husband helped me back to the bathroom, where I passed the placenta out onto another pad the nurse was holding. I sat on the toilet, crying and crying - the cramps were no comparison for the absolute and terrible loss I was feeling. The nurse said when we were ready we could come and look at the baby. I cleaned up and we came out and sat in the room. She had removed him from his sac and displayed him on a pad. I held the pad and was shocked at how calm I felt. I was sad to see him (you could tell he was a boy), but also relieved, if I had a D&C I wouldn't have had this chance. He was the size of my whole hand, finger tip to wrist, with closed eyes, nose, ears, fingers, toes, everything. We said our goodbyes and he was cremated at the hospital. I got my period back in April, I was excited to start trying again. We were pregnant by June. At my 10 1/2 week appointment I heard the heartbeat and I asked the midwife if I could go for a "dating" ultrasound - to be nosy and to see a heart beating. It was scheduled for when I would be 11 weeks, August 8th. My husband and I went together, exciting. I had it in the back of my head that it could happen again, but didn't say anything. I told the tech about having a previous miscarriage. She put the thing on my belly and I knew right away that there was no heart beat. I looked away immediately. She said, sorry, it doesnt look good - shocked again, at least this time my daughter had no idea and I wouldn't have to break the news to her. We opted again to do the cytotec but this time at home - baby was measuring 11 weeks. A week after the ultrasound, I took the pills, 5 va___ally, at 10:30am - my daughter away at daycare and my husband home with me. By 2pm I was cramping mildly.. I laid in bed and watched a movie, wanting the pills to dissolve. My mom showed up around 3:30pm, so I got up and moved around a bit - this made the cramps much worse, I laid back in bed and took one tylenol and one advil, by 5pm the cramps were coming like contractions, every minute and almost unbearable - I had no bleeding yet, just some brownish discharge. I again felt the "pop", the fetus/sac separating itself from my body. I knew I had to get to the toilet - I called my mom up and asked her to take my daughter for a walk to the store for candy as I was pretty sure it was going to come out now, I didnt want to scare her if I started crying hysterically. As soon as my daughter heard the word candy, she was out of there. I sat on the toilet, had my husband stand in front of me and relaxed my body, letting everything come out. There was a big gush or water/blood, then the fetus, again dangling. I reached down and pulled it out to look at it. It was much much smaller then the 14-15 week old (the actual measurement was 9.5cm), this one was about the size of my pinky, and not formed at all. No discernible features. I looked at my husband, he looked at me and we decided to flush it. I wasn't as sad as last time. I did much of my crying the day before and I felt good that I was at home, Anyways, after that I sat on the toilet a bit more, letting blood and clots come out, cramps just like a heavy period - totally manageable. I got in the shower, passed more clots.. I put on some clothes, underwear and big pad.. It felt uncomfortable to let loose into a pad so I did most of my bleeding and passing of clots into the toilet. I went to bed around 10pm - exhausted. I wore a depends diaper for fear of ruining my mattress. The cramps were pretty bad in bed so I took another advil and tylenol. I was up until about 2am with bad cramping and some trips to the toilet to pass clots.. After that I was able to sleep. The next today (today, August 16th), has been ok - mild cramps, some light bleeding, maybe one clot, very tired and thirsty though. If you are going through a missed miscarriage, I feel your pain. I had a friend tell me once "when someone dies you grieve the past, their life etc... but when you miscarry, you grieve the future" and its so very true. You have lost a little one that you would have had, the milestones, the kisses, the love, the pain in the ass parts.. Its gone. I wanted to say that the cytotec is not as scary as you think it is, or might be - there are rare cases of intense bleeding etc., but the usual outcome IS manageable, the pain, the bleeding, its not so bad, so try not to be too scared! Have someone with you if you can, and have lots of water to drink so you don't dehydrate. Try to eat something light before you take it - toast with butter, soup.. nothing heavy. If you want someone to talk too about it, please reach out to me! I am honest and detailed. Sincerely, Dana

 

rosyrose - December 22

hi :) i have experience this too. :| bb stopped growing at 5weeks, discovered in 8 weeks. opt for the pills as i like it to be as natural as possible. It came dangling in me too, I tot it doesnt want to leave me..it is our first little bb afterall. i took the pills on 22nov and it pa__sed out in 24nov. the light bleeding continues till like 12dec and stopped for a few days. light bleeding came back in 16dec. and light bleeding like spotting is still around now (22dec).. my friend says i should see the doc as it shouldnt last more than 2 weeks.. how's your post m/c like? I am quite worry if it is hurting my body by too much and too long period of bleeding..

 

DanaLee - December 22

First let me say sorry for your loss - it is so so hard. May you carry on to have a healthy happy little baby! The fact that you stopped bleeding and then started again suggests that you may still have some of the "tissue"/baby in your uterus. I would try to get an ultrasound to make sure that everything has cleared out. I bled solid for a week and a half, then it slowed down and stopped.. I was much further along in the pregnancy and so the bleeding lasted 3-4 weeks, but definitely didnt stop and start again. I had ultrasounds a few weeks after also, to make sure nothing was still there. I hope this helps! Dana

 

rosyrose - December 22

Hello Dana, Thank u for ur help :) I guess I should book an appointment soon. I did a check up on 03dec and gyne says everything is out and well already. And that I can continue to TTC and exercise again. But notice when I run/exercise, more bleeding.. Just worry and hope everything will stop soon.. how are you now Dana? TTC again? Hope everything is well For u :) Rosyrose RL

 

rosyrose - December 22

Hello Dana, Thank u for ur help :) I guess I should book an appointment soon. I did a check up on 03dec and gyne says everything is out and well already. And that I can continue to TTC and exercise again. But notice when I run/exercise, more bleeding.. Just worry and hope everything will stop soon.. how are you now Dana? TTC again? Hope everything is well For u :) Rosyrose RL

 

anonymous0213 - February 6

This is my experience with miscarriages and cytotec. I found out I was pregnant the day before new years eve. My boyfriend and I had been having problems with our relationship but needless to say we were excited. I had two consecutive miscarriages prior to this pregnancy so of course I was worried. I went to my first prenatal appointment right away and considering my history she scheduled a transv____al ultrasound. When I went to the ultrasound there was no heartbeat. According to my dates I should have been 7 weeks along. The u/s tech didn't confirm miscarriage but didn't seem too hopeful. My doctor called me later with the news saying that the radiologist was 100% sure the fetus was dead and the baby was measuring 6 weeks and 6 days. My doctor wanted to be sure as well so she had me do hcg tests which confirmed that it was a missed miscarriage. I should also say that during the ultrasound the radiologist found out i had a septum on my uterus which puts you at high risk for miscarriages. Although it's so very hard to lose a baby i now know the reason why this was happening and its comforting to know it can be fixed with surgery. Anyways, my doctor prescribed me 800 mcg of misoprostol. She told me to take it orally and nothing happened. I called the nurse and my doctor prescribed 800 mcg again. This dose i took v____ally at 9:30 p.m. I was so nervous as i had ready horror stories on the internet. I also took rapid release Tylenol about 1000 mg as my doctor did not prescribe any pain meds. I put a heating pad on to get ahead of the pain. At about 1 am i woke up with cramps and thought ok this isn't so bad. Let me tell you, it gets far worse. By 2 am i was having such bad gas and cramps i was almost pa__sing out from the pain. I went and sat on the toilet and had diarrhea and became sweaty and nauseous. I ended up throwing up and stayed on the toilet. I began bleeding about 3 am but nothing heavy. Finally the terrible cramps subsided a bit and i pa__sed a large clot which i believe was the fetus. The rest of the night was a blur but i pa__sed more tissue and another clot. I finally left the toilet around 6:30 am and fell asleep. This all took place Monday night/tuesday morning. Today is Wednesday and i still have a little bit of cramping and bleeding but nothing that concerns me. Im hoping i have pa__sed everything as i just want this to be over. This has been very hard on me emotionally. I had no one here to comfort me as my boyfriend and i broke up and i couldn't tell my parents about this. My boyfriend promised he would stay up with me and talk with me through everything but of course he didn't. He doesn't seem to care much about how im feeling or the fact that he lost a baby. Either way, its hitting me very hard this time. I feel for all of you who have had miscarriages as its not an easy process to go through. Best luck to all of you!

 

DanaLee - February 6

Anonymous I'm so so sorry that you had to experience that, and alone.. Know that you aren't alone now though - so many women have gone through it and you can find comfort there. And you know now what is "wrong", so you can hopefully fix it and move on to have a healthy beautiful baby :) Rosey, as for myself - we are expecting again.. We went through a lot of tests and they found nothing wrong. I've been taking progesterone this time around so I'm hopeful it will make a difference.. I'm still early on, only 5 wks.

 

DanaLee - February 6

Rosey have you started to try again?

 

nb2013 - February 21

Thanks Dana for your post it was very helpful for me. I just took cytotec on 2/15/13. 4 pills v____ally and the two more 3 hours later. I believe I pa__sed most of the baby sac etc on Friday. It happened so quickly. I have a follow up appt tomorrow. I have been steady bleeding everyday nothing heavy. Yesterday I pa__sed a clot n bleeding was a little more. I stopped taking pain meds n now have bad gas n pains in my lower stomach. I wonder how long does the bleeding last? opefully I will have a us tomorrow to make Sure everything is pa__sed. I have heard horror stories of ppl dying from having somethjng left inside. I'm at the point where I want it to b over. The more days I bleed the sadder I feel. I had a natural mc in 2010 and I have a healthy 6yr old no complications. Just nervous about not being able to carry a baby since the last two pregnancies failed. Just wanted to get the out. It really was nice to read everyones stories. Soery for your losses and I wish u all healthy babies in the future.

 

nb2013 - February 21

Thanks Dana for your post it was very helpful for me. I just took cytotec on 2/15/13. 4 pills v____ally and the two more 3 hours later. I believe I pa__sed most of the baby sac etc on Friday. It happened so quickly. I have a follow up appt tomorrow. I have been steady bleeding everyday nothing heavy. Yesterday I pa__sed a clot n bleeding was a little more. I stopped taking pain meds n now have bad gas n pains in my lower stomach. I wonder how long does the bleeding last? opefully I will have a us tomorrow to make Sure everything is pa__sed. I have heard horror stories of ppl dying from having somethjng left inside. I'm at the point where I want it to b over. The more days I bleed the sadder I feel. I had a natural mc in 2010 and I have a healthy 6yr old no complications. Just nervous about not being able to carry a baby since the last two pregnancies failed. Just wanted to get the out. It really was nice to read everyones stories. Soery for your losses and I wish u all healthy babies in the future.

 

nb2013 - February 21

Just wanted to add this time around I was 10 weeks whn I went for my us. Baby was measuring 8wks and no heart beat. Options were to wait n let it happen, d&c, or pills

 

zen108 - February 22

Hi! I had a D&C on 7 Jan 2013 for a missed miscarriage. Baby no heartbeat at 6 weeks, 4 days. It was the first for me. I bled a little after the D&C and that's it, no more bleeding nor cramping. 5 weeks later, on 15 Feb 2013, I had very bad cramps and it felt like contractions (I never felt contractions before, so I am not very sure). Every 2 minutes, the pain came and finally I went to see my gynae. After ultrasound, found that there was was leftover tissues from the D&C and she inserted Cytotec v____ally and that night itself, I started cramping and bleeding started. I was told that my uterus was trying to push it out naturally, that explains the contraction pains I had earlier. I bled for 3 days straight after that. Now, I am wondering when my period will return. It's been a week since Cytotec. Can someone tell me when exactly my period will return? It's been 6 weeks since D&C and 1 week since Cytotec. Thanks.

 

DanaLee - February 22

nb2013 - Im so sorry to hear about your loss, were you taking any special medication because of your previous miscarriage? I too have a healthy child, 4 year old, uncomplicated pregnancy.. not even planned! We are expecting again and I am terrified, Im on 5mg folic acid, prometrium (progesterone supplement) and taking a baby aspirin once a day - fingers crossed it all works out. I am only 7 weeks right now. Are you going to be trying again eventually? After the second miscarriage I lost hope for a while and took a 5 month break.. As for the bleeding, it should stop within a week or so.. Good luck to you for the future! zen108 - My period came back after 4-5 weeks after pa__sing every thing. No one will know exactly when you're period will come back, but if I had to guess Id say another 2-3 weeks :)

 

nb2013 - February 28

Da___lee - no medicine but I plan to try again at some point and I may have to take meds to prevent a third mc. Still light light bleeding here n there no cramps though. I go back to my gyn tomorrow. I'm nervous so would like to wait on getting preg again. My husband has other plans. Best wishes on your pregnancy! Zen108-sorry for your loss. No period for me yet

 

DanaLee - March 7

looks like another loss for us :( this one started on its own, 6 weeks only. Crazy but I cant wait to try again.. Hope you are all well. XO

 

zen108 - March 7

Hi DanaLee. So sorry to hear you've miscarried again. Hope you stay positive and pray the next round will be a successful one. I am still waiting for AF, 2 months post D&C and still no sign. And very anxious to try again. Hope it come soon.

 

nb2013 - March 7

Dana-Sorry to hear abt ur loss. I'm glad u r in good spirits to try again. I can't wait to hear about your successful pregnancy when it happens. It will happen. :) as for me I'm just spotting now. I thought it was over but last night it came back. I go to the dr every week for blood work. For some reason she hasn't done a us to make sure I pa__sed everything. I'm just ready to get back to normal.

 

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