Pregnant And Problems W The Boyfriend

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bridget - January 1

I was only seeing this guy for 2 months when i became pregnant. i am very happy about the baby but me and my bf keep fighting. Now he hasnt touched me in a month and claims he feels guilty having s_x cuz he thinks it will hurt the baby. but i think he is not attracted to me now i'm pregnant. yesterday he said he's only with me still because of the baby. anyone in the same situation?

 

nina - January 17

I understand how you feel. I just found out I'm pregnant and everything has been fine.....then last night my boyfriend and I got in to a discussion that upset me and made me wonder whats going to happen. how are things now?

 

nikol - January 18

I have a feeling that my boyfriend is still with me because of the baby too. Sometimes he acts like an a** and it's so clear he doesn't give a s**t about me and the baby. That's why on some of the other posts I've said that I'm going to be raising this baby alone. I think I'll be single by the end of this month. We've been dating a couple years and finally I got fed up last month and I told him that if he didn't get serious about having a life with me and the baby by the end of January that it was over. He has yet to make any steps at all towards this goal. All he's been doing is going out and drinking with his buddies and barely spends anymore time with me. Anytime I try to discuss plans for the baby he changes the subject. I've decided that in the long run I'll probably be happier without him. You might want to consider that too. He can still be a part of the baby's life and give you child support. It will be hard but it might be for the best. Maybe a miracle will happen and he'll realize he's making a mistake by treating you that way. Either way I wish you the best of luck. :)

 

babygirlsmami - January 20

Well, tonigh he came over, haven't seen him in a week and he doesnt stay over here anymore. we got into a fight tonight cuz he was playing his video games for 8 hours straight till i shut it off at 4am and i was very p__sed. he then got p__sed and left, and said he doesnt want to be with me. I just find it so hard and boring to be alone with out him. i like hanging out with him, and i have insomnia so i'm up to 4:30 every single night, unless he's sleeping with me. luckily i make good money so i see it could be a lot worse, but i get so lonely here and cant exactly go look for someone else, which would definitely be the case if i wasnt pg. i hate being without a man or at least someone i'm dating to give me some attention. its so sad to be doing this on your own. very sad

 

bondt007 - January 20

to babygirlsmami, I'd like to help you out in any way that I can. You sound like you deserve better than what you've gotten. I'd like to show you better things and a better life. My Yahoo ID is gamemastertommy and I hope to hear from you.

 

Ashley - January 20

My boyfriend is the same way!!!! I'm 18 years old and i'm pregnant this is the 3rd time i have been pregnant by him. I lost the other one's now this one is o.k. and i just found out the other day that he was at work and he works at jiffy lube and he left his number in some girls car and she called the cell phone and i answered and i told her she can have him and she asked if he was an a** hole and i didn't lie he is sometimes and now i'm still pregnant and he tells me he loves me and wants everything in the world to do with me but i called him last night and he didn't answer the phone and i found out that he was hanging out with that girl so i told him i could raise my baby on my own i just don't want to be run over by him.I love him and care about him but i'm hoping that when i give birth that he will want to be around the baby and me all the time like he said he wanted he said "i don't want a split up family" he sat outside for 3 hours infront of my house and said he wanted to work on us should i listen to him? What should i do ?

 

MiMi - February 2

im in kind of the same situation me and my boyfriend havent been the same since i found out i was pregnant i mean at the beggining it was like well exciteing now i think its hit him and he isn't too sure.. u shudnt be with a man that only with you because of the baby because u could find happiness! hows things

 

marie - February 24

yeah i have the same problem but i just couldn't take it anymore and told my bf to leave and that he would never see the baby and now hes begging me to get back with him.

 

bondt007 - February 25

I'm sorry that you ladies have had problems with your boyfriends. I've always wanted to be with a pregnant girl/woman to show her true love and happiness. Cause I can't stand to see a pregnant lady be hurt by her man. I'm available if any lady is interested. I don't play games and I take things seriously regarding any woman and her child or children.

 

maren - February 25

bondt007~ i think your comment about how you "have always wanted to be with a pregnant woman to show her true love and happiness. Cause I can't stand to see a pregnant lady be hurt by her man. I'm available if any lady is interested. I don't play games and I take things seriously regarding any woman and her child or children" That is very inapropriot for this topic these women are not looking for another man to run to they are looking for advice and suport. This is not a personal add in any way shape or form, and for you to think that just because you say you cant stand to see a woman treated this way that these women who have had unpleasant experiences are going to drop everything they have to make your little fantasy come true is a joke. You comeing here to suport them and tell them that you cant believe a man would treat them that way is appropriate but not trying to hit on them.

 

hello - February 25

Hi Bridget, your b/f sound immature. I am sorry to read about what you going through. You only knew him for 2 months before getting pregnant. Sadly, the first 6 months is usually the honeymoon period....lol...sounds like you are past the nice period and he's now showing his true colors. You don't have to be in a relaionship with this guy b/c you're pregnant. It may be best for you and him to end the relationship and work on being parents. Now is the time to try to get along for the baby's sake. You never know, you and he may work out the relationship faults later. I wouldn't worry about this right now. Your pregnancy health is what's important now. Take care

 

kianamariebee - February 21

Men really do suck now I understand why there are so many single mothers out there. My own mother being one. I wish I was strong and independent and actually felt like I could do this all on my own but now im not so sure. Im in my first trimester so it is really easy to lose my baby but I have alot going on im depressed and im having eating and sleeping problems. My boyfriend isnt supportive at all he says hes happy but I can see through it. He disrespects me and verbally abuses me everyday. I have thought about leaving him but I dont have it in me I do love him but I want what is best for my baby and he has too many problems. Another thing im struggling with is he is all I have and I have nowhere to go, I have no job, I have no family anymore, and I have been with him every single day for 3 years now. My grandmother died on Valentines day and he was nice to me for the first part of the day then he went back to being rude and saying uncalled for things. What should I do? I am so scared of losing my baby.

 

kianamariebee - February 21

Men really do suck now I understand why there are so many single mothers out there. My own mother being one. I wish I was strong and independent and actually felt like I could do this all on my own but now im not so sure. Im in my first trimester so it is really easy to lose my baby but I have alot going on im depressed and im having eating and sleeping problems. My boyfriend isnt supportive at all he says hes happy but I can see through it. He disrespects me and verbally abuses me everyday. I have thought about leaving him but I dont have it in me I do love him but I want what is best for my baby and he has too many problems. Another thing im struggling with is he is all I have and I have nowhere to go, I have no job, I have no family anymore, and I have been with him every single day for 3 years now. My grandmother died on Valentines day and he was nice to me for the first part of the day then he went back to being rude and saying uncalled for things. What should I do? I am so scared of losing my baby.

 

kianamariebee - February 21

Men really do suck now I understand why there are so many single mothers out there. My own mother being one. I wish I was strong and independent and actually felt like I could do this all on my own but now im not so sure. Im in my first trimester so it is really easy to lose my baby but I have alot going on im depressed and im having eating and sleeping problems. My boyfriend isnt supportive at all he says hes happy but I can see through it. He disrespects me and verbally abuses me everyday. I have thought about leaving him but I dont have it in me I do love him but I want what is best for my baby and he has too many problems. Another thing im struggling with is he is all I have and I have nowhere to go, I have no job, I have no family anymore, and I have been with him every single day for 3 years now. My grandmother died on Valentines day and he was nice to me for the first part of the day then he went back to being rude and saying uncalled for things. What should I do? I am so scared of losing my baby.

 

kianamariebee - February 21

Men really do suck now I understand why there are so many single mothers out there. My own mother being one. I wish I was strong and independent and actually felt like I could do this all on my own but now im not so sure. Im in my first trimester so it is really easy to lose my baby but I have alot going on im depressed and im having eating and sleeping problems. My boyfriend isnt supportive at all he says hes happy but I can see through it. He disrespects me and verbally abuses me everyday. I have thought about leaving him but I dont have it in me I do love him but I want what is best for my baby and he has too many problems. Another thing im struggling with is he is all I have and I have nowhere to go, I have no job, I have no family anymore, and I have been with him every single day for 3 years now. My grandmother died on Valentines day and he was nice to me for the first part of the day then he went back to being rude and saying uncalled for things. What should I do? I am so scared of losing my baby.

 

kianamariebee - February 21

Men really do suck now I understand why there are so many single mothers out there. My own mother being one. I wish I was strong and independent and actually felt like I could do this all on my own but now im not so sure. Im in my first trimester so it is really easy to lose my baby but I have alot going on im depressed and im having eating and sleeping problems. My boyfriend isnt supportive at all he says hes happy but I can see through it. He disrespects me and verbally abuses me everyday. I have thought about leaving him but I dont have it in me I do love him but I want what is best for my baby and he has too many problems. Another thing im struggling with is he is all I have and I have nowhere to go, I have no job, I have no family anymore, and I have been with him every single day for 3 years now. My grandmother died on Valentines day and he was nice to me for the first part of the day then he went back to being rude and saying uncalled for things. What should I do? I am so scared of losing my baby.

 

kianamariebee - February 21

Men really do suck now I understand why there are so many single mothers out there. My own mother being one. I wish I was strong and independent and actually felt like I could do this all on my own but now im not so sure. Im in my first trimester so it is really easy to lose my baby but I have alot going on im depressed and im having eating and sleeping problems. My boyfriend isnt supportive at all he says hes happy but I can see through it. He disrespects me and verbally abuses me everyday. I have thought about leaving him but I dont have it in me I do love him but I want what is best for my baby and he has too many problems. Another thing im struggling with is he is all I have and I have nowhere to go, I have no job, I have no family anymore, and I have been with him every single day for 3 years now. My grandmother died on Valentines day and he was nice to me for the first part of the day then he went back to being rude and saying uncalled for things. What should I do? I am so scared of losing my baby.

 

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