Pregnant With An IRRESPONSIBLE Partner Losing Faith

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PregnantandStressed - March 20

Help! I don't want to be a single parent, but my significant other is so irresponsible. He even managed to get a DUI this week. He doesn't work and blames others for his problems. We have tried working things out, but his behavior has changed quite a bit (for the worse) since the pregnancy. He never lied in the 3 years I dated him, but suddenly it has become a compulsive habit. I am learning that he is at bars and he fails to disclose this information to me. I don't know what to do to make this situation work anymore. When I tell him I want him to move out until he figures himself out, he accuses me of throwing everything away and not thinking about a family for the baby. I'm just tired of being the financial and emotional backbone. I don't want my child to have to go from one home to another every week, but I don't feel like the father is even trying to change for the better anymore.

 

Grandpa Viv - March 20

Sounds like a manipulative freeloader to me. Can you visualize him as a responsible wage-earning father any time in the foreseeable future? Please find a way to free yourself of this burden, and establish an independent life for yourself and your baby. There are probably guys waiting in the wings to ask you out once they know you are free. GL!

 

RebeccaT - November 16

TO ALL WHO LET THEMSELVES BE FOOLED BY A FOOL,I DONT KNOW WHY ITS OK FOE A SAUDI GUY TO HAVE s_x B4 MARRIAGE BUT ITS DIFFERENT FOR A WOMAN,YET THEY ARE THE ONES WHO WANT A VIRGIN ON THEIR WEDDING NIGHT AFTER CORRUPTING ,,HOW MANY VIRGINS ALREADY,,RIGHT...IT ISNT FAIR AND THEN WHEN THEGIRL GETS PREGNANT ITS ALL THE GIRLS FAULT,,NO..ITS..JUST AS MUCH THE GUYS BECAUSE THEY ARE TO BE A MAN AND SHOULD BE STRONGER AND IF HE LOVED THE GIRL IN THE 1ST PLACE HE WOULDNT EVEN ASK HER TO GIVE OF HERSELF LIKE THAT,,,AND THEN TO NOT CLAIM HIS OWN CHILD,,WHEN HE DENIES THE CHILD,,AT THAT TIME,,ITS UP TO THE WOMAN TO DECIDE WHATS BEST FOR HER,,AND IF SHE CHOOSES TO NAME THE CHILD AFTER THE FATHER SHE HAS THAT RIGHT BECAUSE THE FATHER GAVE HIS RIGHTS UP WHEN HE DENIED THE CHILD-SPERM DONOR,WHAT EVER YOU WANT TO CALL HIM,,HE SURE ISNT A MAN,,THATS FOE SURE,,AND IF ANYONE OF YOU NEED A PLACE TO GET SETTLED HERE IN THE USA ,,IM A MOM & GRANDMA I CAN HELP AND UNLIKE THESE FREAKY s_x CRAZED GRANPA,S WHO JUST WANT TO USE YOU AS A s_x OBJECT,,I CAN REALLY HELP YOU,,,AND GIVE YOU THE GUIDANCE YOU NEED LIKE ANY OTHER MOTHER WOULD DO WITH A DAUGHTER....hottamalemom59atyahoodot.com.....IF YOU HAVE NO WHERE TO GO BUT HAVE THE MONEY TO GET HERE CONTACT ME...SOMEONE WHO WAS THERE B-4

 

RebeccaT - November 19

i have been thru this with my own parents,and when I got pregnant with my 4th child ,her father drank away 17,00 dollars of money that could have helped us get a starter home,,he had 4 other children by a previous marriage and he asked me to marry him,but when one of his other children came to him for money and he turned them away,,I could see this happening to my unborn child,so I decided not ,to marry him & Im glad I didnt..because he later married his best friends wife,who had 3 daughters and 2 of them still lived at home,,one of his sons got 2 of the daughters pregnant,,even tho not blood related,,,but still ,I dont feel it was right...He never sent child support until I went to court on him,,and all it took was proof of a birthday card he sent to her..

 

Lakeri12 - October 4

Hey Rebeca. I'm pregnant my first I'm 19 I still have goals and dreams that am determined to accomplish but I have no family support actually I have no parents my siblings would kill me if they found out and the father is very irresponsible he just doesn't care at all I just need a change I don't even have a stable place I'm stressed out and terrified of starting to show with everyone in my case I need a way out. What do I do!? 

 

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