Need Answers Before I Get Knocked Up

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saydie1202 - April 9

Grandpa Viv   All is ok, still scared about being knocked-up but only my school councelor knows.  Almost out of the bag as I had morning sickness at school and almost got sent home.  The school would have called my mom but the councelor took me to the sick room and help me get better so I could go back to class.  Councelor said they can not do anything to my ex bf as he is under 13 also.  It is considered just to kids having fun and making a baby

 

Grandpa Viv - April 9

Saydie, I guess you have decided to continue with the pregnancy and not tell your mom until she figures something is amiss. Best of luck! Keep in touch and let me know of your progress. 

 

saydie1202 - April 10

I guess I will have to tell mom.  Councelor can't do any more .  Mom will expect me to have a baby and then give it away.  She was forced to have an abortion whenshe was 14 and has regretted not have her baby

 

Grandpa Viv - April 10

You won't know that for sure until you tell her. Maybe she will leave the decision up to you. Anyway, you are now far enough along that you should be scheduling your first doctor appointment. 

 

Grandpa Viv - April 15

Saydie, I can't wait for your weekly update. What stories do you have this time?

 

saydie1202 - April 16

Secret is out.  Mom caught me having morning sickness on friday morning.  She did not have to go work and I did not have school.  She told me that she was going to make me do a home test if I told her I was not pregnant.  She said she has raised her kids and will not raise my baby and eleven is to young to quit school.  She will not force me to have an abortion as she was forced to have one when she got knocked up at 15.  But I can not bring the baby home.  I really need some advice as I'm scared about the baby.  What will happen to us if I keep her.

 

Grandpa Viv - April 16

Saydie, I so sympathize with your quandry. Your counselor was right when she said this was just a consequence of two kids fooling around. Mom will not force you to have an abortion, and actually cannot force you if you want to continue the pregnancy. I feel she will not stop you from having an abortion if that is what you decide, but you have to raise the subject. Ask her and get back to me!

I don't see how you could possibly keep the baby unless you have a sympathetic aunt or grandmother who would take you both in. Anyone wanting to adopt would not want a 12 year old mom complicating the picture. Being a 12 year old on the streets with a baby to look after is not an option. Your choices are adopt or terminate.

 

Grandpa Viv - April 22

You would be close to ten weeks by now, Miss Saydie, close to one quarter the way through. How are you and mom handling it all?

 

saydie1202 - April 22

grandpa viv   It's been a hell of a week.  I got kicked out of school, I'm what they sent me to something called medical home school.  I will have a home teacher twice a week starting next week.  Went to doctor and he sent me to another doctor first doctor said Im a high risk pregnancy and she does want to be my doctor.  He took a gallon of blood for tests and said I don't have STD but need iron and may have pregnancy diebietes.  makes me measure blood pressure twice a day and do blood sugar measurement before each meal and makes me take vitamans and iron pills.  Mom said I still can not bring baby home.  Mom tot Jimmy's mom that he knocked me up.

 

Grandpa Viv - April 22

That must indeed have been an extremely upsetting week, and you still sound pretty uptight about it. I'm sorry they would not let you finish the year at school. Pregnancy is not contagious. Perhaps they thought life would be difficult for you in class once the word got out, or that interruptions for nausea would be distracting.

I'm glad a doctor is now involved and that you are taking prenatal vitamins and getting anemia under control. The blood pressure, sugar and diabetes are part of the high risk monitoring that you will have throughout the pregnancy. Seriously, Google "preeclampsia" to read what might be in store. It may be that the first doctor thought it would be wiser to end the pregnancy. It's still not too late.

I don't think anyone should be beating up on either you or Jimmy for what has happened. You are both too young to have any real appreciation of the risks you were taking. At some stage you will need a gracious come-back to those who give you odd looks or even mean comments.  "Yeah, I know what you're thinking. We were just fooling around without knowing what we were doing. Now we have to live with the consequences. I hope it doesn't upset you too much. We have a crowd funding site for the baby. Would you like to make a donation?" 

 

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