Husband Wants To Stop Trying For #2

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Mamaofone12 - July 20

my husband and I got pregnant at a young age. We were 20. Now, we have a healthy 2 year old. Well, for the past two months we have been trying to conceive baby number two. Yesterday he has sprung on me that he isn't ready. He said he's scared that we won't be able to do it. 

My problem with this is I am so heart broken now since we have been actively trying. I have goals for my life, too. As bad as it sounds, I don't want to be a stay at home mom forever. I would like to have 2 kids close in age so that I can go back to school and start a job. He said he wants to wait until our son is 4 but to me it's now or never. I really would prefer not to start over with a newborn. That would only prolong my dream to go back to school. So my question is, am I being selfish? I'm so completely heart broken. I don't even want to have sex with my husband because it is tearing me apart. 

 

FloraRustin88 - May 19

Wel, it's just a difference of opinion...Don't feel bad about it. Well, you guys just have to decide what's better age difference should be for your both children. Stay strong! Solve it rationally. I think 4 years is fine. Rest is up to you. Stay calm! 

 

Catherine1214 - May 19

The fear of becoming mom for the second time usually happens in the women. They are scared of the failed conceptrions, pregnancy complications and also the fears of handling a new child once he is in the world. There is no reason of your hubby getting scared. You are deaperate to have a second one and your husband is scared. I think instead of getting confused and frustrated, it is better to talk to your partner. Sometimes conversations can make the things better. I wish you all the best in this journey of parenthood.

 

tara42 - July 6

Hello dear! How are you doing? Your fear is natural. Fear of becoming a parent for the second time is due to the thought of complications and all. I think that you and your husband should think rationally. Decide the age difference between your children. You shouldn't be against him. He is just scared, try to calm him down. Sometimes a good conversation is all you need. I wish you a happy parenthood.

 

lella12 - July 7

Hello there Dear!! So sorry to learn your discouraging story. Extremely this issue removes a considerable measure from a lady. We should be solid like a stone to adapt up to the majority of this. Indeed, there is a reason we are being tried. Since no one but we can hold up under the agony. As indicated by your case, I trust surrogacy is preferred for you over IVF. As IVF is a difficult system. It doesn't have much achievement rate as the surrogacy. The IVF involves luckiness. The facility I am investigating for myself is extraordinary. It offers boundless attempts. So your cash doesn't go to squander. You should take a gander at the web. You will be fulfilled. I

 

emma95 - July 7

Hello dear! How are you doing at your end? Your fear is natural. Fear of becoming a parent for the second time is due to the thought of complications and all. I think you and your husband should think rationally. Decide the age difference between your children. You shouldn't be against him. He is just scared, try to calm him down. Sometimes a good conversation is all you need. I wish you a happy parenthood.

 

matinajohn785 - July 7

Hey  Dear! Hope so you will be fine. I just read your post. I can understand the situation you dealing with right now. I think you should discuss it with your husband about it. Clear all the things and make a decision in the light of your husband's view. In this way, both of you will be satisfied. That's my opinion.

 

annataylor1 - July 7

Hey Dear. If its bad to think about your dream then everyone should be selfish. Dear, you should convince your husband should Things will definitely get better. Just don't lose hope and try to persuade your husband to try to conceive.

 

lindaswank - July 7

Dear, sometimes there comes a situation when you have to sacrifice your dreams for your loved ones. I will not persuade you to sacrifice your dreams for your pregnancy. But you may ask yourself what is more important to you. another baby or your dreams. Hope so my words will help you.

 

gemi - August 6

hi Amafolone! Don’t need to be worry dear. I will suggest you act upon on your husband advice and you should wait. and now you can start your job. Otherwise, if you will not wait then maybe you will indulge in some disease like me. almost my situation is like you. but after 5 years when I wanted to conceive then I have to face some complications. Then I visit a clinic named as lotus. There the doctors operate on me. but don’t know why they operate on me? now I have become infertile after two babies. I am so depressed that due to lotus I have to face the worst problem of infertility. They are only sitting to make money from us. The doctors don’t have any experience. So, dear, I will suggest you keep my advice In your mind before taking any decision.

 

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