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Hi,
I'm 18 years old and have graduated high school. I am going to a university right now. My boyfriend is 21 and we have been together for 3 years but been best friends for even longer. So we've been in each others lives about 5 years altogether. He has an amazing job, with great pay and fantastic benefits. We will be moving in together soon. i have got to experience so much in my life already, and im so lucky to have this amazing life. I want to be a mother so bad, and i know it will be tough, but I would like other people's input-- do you think im too young?
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HAHAHA I'm so glad you're here. I'm going to give you my opinion going off of my my own experience. :) No, I don't think you're too young. If you want kids, you want kids! It's that simple. The question is, is your BF ready for it. This is the fun part, the part that I failed to do, and wish I had some one tell me this before I got married to my first husband, and my second husband! :)
A lot of men aren't good at helping out. I know some men help out, but others don't. You're job, is to find out what type of man you have. See if he can cook, sweep, mop, wash dishes... does he do this all on his own? Does he expect you to do it all without any help? This is all important because this is what's going to save you through your pregnancy, when you can't do most of it for whatever reason, and when your baby is born. A baby can be so sweet and loving, but can also be tiring. If your boyfriend isn't ready to do his part in the relationship, then I think you might want to rethink who you start your family with. In my experience, I've married lazy men. They seemed really nice and together at the time, but when it came down to me having my c-sections, and waking up to a crying baby at 1 in the morning, both of my husbands decided to pretend not to hear the baby, because they knew I would get up eventually, C-section and all. A lot of women where I work have issues with their husbands... I can think of one girl who doesn't complain, but she has help from family. I don't have help from my mom or either one of my sisters, so the only person I can rely on is my husband, who does not do such a good job. All I can do for now is pray for a miracle. Good luck, and I hope you find a way to figure out what kind of guy you have. :)
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I agree with you Navymom. When a woman decides to have a baby she needs to have the utmost support from her partner. I too had married a lazy man and it was eventually the downfall of our marriage. When a woman is not being supported emotionally and being helped with everyday tasks then the burden is heavy. I am lucky to have found an amazing man who cooks, cleans, does yard work, and does dishes! I am in heaven...lol. You just need to know what you are getting into. Good luck!
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