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When I was younger, I always thought the perfect age to have a child would be 25. Well, 25 came and went....and so did that marriage. We certainly can't always choose the timing of events in our lives - but I think more often than not, it all happens as it is meant to. Now I'm with a wonderful man I plan to grow old with and at the age of 30, I finally feel totally prepared (in every sense) to become a mother. I'm not pregnant just yet - but I'm hopeful. :-)

I'm 37 and our first child is due in 9 weeks. Dh and I have been together for nearly 18 years! We were laughing the other day that we could almost be grandparents by now if we'd had children when we first got together. (Although we still feel and look like we are in our late 20s!) But I'm happy that we waited (although it took us a year of ttc after a m/c) because I feel like we've had the chance to do a lot of things (like travel, graduate school, starting a farm, and becoming successfully self-employed), strengthening our relationship, and getting to a place in our lives where we are relatively stable financially. I was probably ready at about 32-33 to start having a family but dh wanted to wait, and I wanted the decision to be mutual so we waited another couple of years before ttc. I have friends who started their families at 24 and others who are starting them in their mid 30's - I don't think there's a "perfect" age for everyone - I just think starting a family is a big decision (when it's a decision!) and that it's good to have self-awareness and a clear picture of reality when making that decision.

I had my son 2mo. before my 21st birthday, I'm currently pregnant and due 4mo. before my 32nd birthday.. sooooooooo I'll let you know..lol

i always wanted to have kids at a young age. well it certainly didnt work out that way. 21 came and went and then 25 came and went well i finally got pregnant at 28 after trying for 10 years with dh and finally going to a doc and having iui. then a week after i found out i was pregnant we had to terminate because it was a tubal pregnancy. well now i am 29 and i hear dh's family telling me that i better hurry up because i wont be able to have kids after 30 and i recently decided that as long as dh and i know the risks and as long as we believe that no matter what comes our way such as downs syndrome if we can handle it then it isnt his families business. we have discussed it extensively and we believe in our hearts that we can handle it no matter what happens so we are happy and will be trying again in may. 35 is actually the age when they really start worrying about downs so i still have a few years to go. who knows maybe i will have twins and not have to worry about trying to get pregnant again..lol..wishfull thinking i guess since i need to worry more about getting and staying pregnant than how many i will have. anyway i think that it depends on each of us and on circ_mstance. sometimes what you have planned isnt what you end up with. take care

I started wanting to have kids RIGHT NOW when I was about 22. Now I'm 36, and pregnant for the first time. What happened? I could not even find a man who was willing to get me pregnant, let alone one who wanted to be in a relationship with me. It's very hard to get pregnant without a cooperative man around, let me tell you. I thought about sperm banks, but frankly the thought just creeps me out. I need to know who the person behind the sperm is, whether or not we have a conventional relationship. I'm happy with where I'm at now in my personal life, but I'm no more financially stable than I was 14 years ago. I think you just have to take it as it comes, and wanting kids doesn't always lead to having them.

I have always wanted 3 kids I have one that is 7 and right now I'm 38 weeks and miserable.I'm 28 and I really don't want none after 30.I want to enjoy growing with my kids which is why I've made my decision to have them while I still have the energy to chase them.

I was 19 when I found out I was pregnant with my first son. I wasn't in a place to have a baby then, but I think it was the best thing for me. I was recovering from being anorexic, I wasn't full up to the weight I should have been. I can say since I have had him I feel like a new person. I feel blessed every day that he is here, I couldn't imagine my life with out my lil guy. I am 22 and this Oct going to be having my 2nd child and I am perfectly healthy. I am finishing my gr.12 this June with scholorship's. I can say I am very proud of myself for where I am at today. I actually am happy that I'm not 93 pounds and my children will never see that part of my life.

To be completly honest, I waited until i was more mentally ready in my 30's, b/c every one of my friends except a few whom have had childfen in thier early 20 seem to have absolutly no tolerance, and its seems they missed out on thier so called fun years...so now it seems they want to make up for lost time , but cannot dues to having young children.. I didnt want that..i had a great time in my teens...a super awsome time in my 20's..college..parties..late 20's..getting stable, finding a job a mate, and a home..and now my baby...I see my friends whom have had thier children in thier 30's, seem like they have sooooo much more patience and enjoy being a mom..so those were my reasons...

I am 28 and I have not been ready to have kids until now. I feel like now is the time and my husband feels the same he is 31. I think it is different for everyone. I feel if I had one before now I would not have been emotionally or mentally ready to be a mom.

i am 27 and working on my 3rd... dd came along when i was 18 so i waited 8 years before i thought i was ready not only financially, but emotionally for #2. I always told my husb that 30 was my cutoff. My husb parents are the same age as my grandparents bc they had him later in life. He has told me that his parents never really did things like went to his sporting events etc... we want to make sure we can do all those things. But that is just me, i know ppl out there have completely diff views. In my expirience ppl have been less accepting seeing a younger person starting a family. I know I have had some looks my way, but then again i do look quiet young for my age (or so i am told) just my 2 cents! :)

Aliana I dotn know if you will read this as it has been awhile since I last posted. My children are fine and perfectly healthy unfortunatly the boys are rambuncious boys and always seem to find trouble.

Hi Ruinous79, well I have the same age in common with you.. I am 27, only i haven't succeed yet in getting pregnant. I started TTC nearly 2 years ago. I don't think age is an issue.... who cares whether your 20 30 or even 40. I think as long as your healthy and you want ot have children.... I think your comment about being 60 and seeing your child graduate is completely improper. I mean, whats so wrong with being 60???? and seeing your kid graduate.... what happens if your current kids finish school early and get a job and then decide they want to go back. and finish school and wow.... its when their 40.... your then 60.... you telling me that your not going to be happy seeing your kid graduate..... think about what your saying here....