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I think you have plenty of time to have as large of a family as you like. Especially since your boyfriend is so young. My opinion, for what it's worth, is that you should definiety wait. I am 33, just got married, and am worried about the same thing. You have 14 more years than I do!

Some peopl say that if you don't go to college right away and then you start having kids that it will take you forever to go back, if you go. But I personally put my family first, im more of a family person than career. But my worry is more about your bf being so young. Its bad enough men don't act their age in the first place but a 16 year old boy being a father on purpose? I would wait until he is a little older. I don't know if he has a good enough job to support you both but if he doesn't and you guys want to have kids soon, i suggest he get one, just in case something happens during your pregnancy that prevents you from working.

Thanks for your input pms74 & mizaditude, but I think that you missed a part of my question. We want to get married and start a family when he moves in with me in the spring of next year...he will be 18 yrs. old then...with this new information give me your opinion plz!

oh sorry. Well in that case i'd still make sure he is ready not to be able to go out to parties and things like alot of 18 year olds do. Make sure he knows that his life isn't over but it will definitely be different and he has to put the baby first instead of himself. You probably already know this but guys don't understand this sometimes,lol. This is really a decision you'd have to make for yourself. Before you have this baby you need to make sure that if you guys don't make it, that you will be able to financially care for it on your own. So if you having your degree would ensure this, i'd wait. Like i said before, would he have a good enough job to support all of you if you weren't able to work? Also does he plan on going to school once he graduates from highschool? If he does than i think you guys need to wait because its hard enough with one parent going to school but with both of you guys going to school and working (if you both work) you guys are never going to be able to spend time with your child. My fiance is going to school now and he is bothered by the fact that he doesn't get to spend much time with us because of school and work and having to study. And as a mother, i know it would be hard not to be able to see your child. If your already going to school and you don't plan on getting pregnant for another year or so anyway, there would be no point in getting that far and then putting it on hold. If you get pregnant unplanned, thats different but since you'll already be started with schooling i think you should just go ahead and finish before having a child.

Thanks mizaditude your advice has been very helpful and I think that I already knew everything that you said, but I needed to hear it from someone else. I am going get my bachelor's degree and by that time he should be almost halfway through college and maybe then we can start thinking of marriage and then a baby! I am just an old soul in a young body and am ready to have a family of my own. Plus if him and I are still together after all of that we will definitely be more stable when children come into the picture!

Im glad i could help!

I am 33 and pregnant with my second child. I can't tell you how helpful it is that we waited until we had enough time together as a couple and have enough financial resources to have our babies. For one, it is great that we can afford a babysitter to go out on dates. It is also great that I got to a point in my professional career that I can start back with experience after my babies are in school. I would only have started earlier if I knew I wanted 4 or 5 kids. I just want the two. I am actually a young mom in my town. Most women here start over 35. I am also a family person, but I believe that the core of a good family is a strong marriage and relationship with your spouse. We had five years of marriage to work out our differences and have our big fights so that when the stress of a baby showed up (lack of sleep, lack of free time) we were better equipped to handle it. Good for you for getting educated. What a great example you will be for your future children. If you are that interested in babies and families, perhaps a degree in child psychology or social work is for you!

I actually am working toward a bachelors degree in Elementary Education...you read me well CoLark. Thank you for your story, it really helped me feel better about waiting.