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I hope it's not too old. I'm 30 and 13 weeks along with a planned pregnancy but still don't feel mature enough, but I always said "by the time I am 30."

In all honesty, your body will tell you when you're too old to have a baby, either you won't conceive or you'll miscarry it naturally etc. You're not at a high risk until after 35 though, and several upon hundreds of women give birth way later then that.

I don't think there ARE actual statistics that say when is a good age because there are so many variables that determine that fact. The number may be different for everyone. A person who wants many children may want to start earlier than 31, but someone who just wants one or two, 31 might be the best age for her. I am 33 and just had my first child. I am a great mom! It all depends on YOU.

I came over here looking for a thread like this because I am 31 and am really starting to worry that I'm getting too old. I never even thought about babies in my 20's. Good lord, if I had had children during that age range of 18-22 it would have been taken away from me, LOL! I went to college and established a career, then the thoughts started to creep in around 28. Since then we've had 5 miscarriages with the most recent one 2 weeks ago. I'm getting really scared now that we didn't start sooner, but we just weren't ready then and never saw having these problems. Everyone around me keeps saying "you're soooo young!" (I look younger than 31 by a long shot) but I don't feel like it. I know many women who had their children anywhere from 33 to 39 years of age. I know one who had an "accident" at 43. I don't know, it kind of shocks me when I ask people if 31 is TOO OLD??? I mean, wow--I don't feel old at all so this is scary :-(

Mich, I have a 4 month old son. I conceived at 30 and delivered at 31. And I am happy I waited for more than 4 years of marriage to go by, as me and DH could do a lot of things together, get our careers started etc. Of course after 35, it becomes progressively more difficult to conceive, but I bet those ladies appreciate pregnancy even more than us.

my mom had me at 31 and i'm her first, my sis is three years younger and my bro would be 6years younger but he died the day after birth from injuries (he was born early as a result of a car wreck) i think the age diff was ok...too bad she was crazy, but the age diff was fine haha. i'm almost 20 with a 5month old so i see the pros and cons of both having a baby earlier and later and honesly both have their benefits and disadvantages but both work out fine. good luck

YES you are too old - you are ancient - now what do you do? Age is nothing but a number - and MATURITY is what is important --- clearly your maturity level must be questioned as you are almost 31 years old and asking total strangers if you are too old to have a baby you are already pregnant with (perhaps a question you should have thought of a few months ago!!) Goodness ladies - this is not a stupidity contest!

I think you're never to old to have a baby.I'm 35 & trying to have a baby.But good luck!It's a gift from God.

Geez you guys should I just cash my chips in now and buy myself a plot at the local graveyard or what?? I am older than all of you on here...just turned 40...and 23 weeks preggo. It occurred naturally and against the odds because my dh had a vasectomy reversal more than 10yrs after he had the original procedure done while he was still married to #1. It may help all you women to understand that pregnancy well into ones 40s is NOT a new idea? Whaddaya think women were doing prior to the industrial revolution? They were either pregnant, nursing, or weaning children all the way up until the time when their bodies simply quit having that capability. Most women had a ton of kids because many of the kids died off in infancy or childhood....so she needed to keep producing children in order to produce enough viable offspring who could help out about the homestead. It's only in this modern day and age we have come to view women over 35 as "old" Well lemme tell ya something.....we are NOT old, infirm, headed to the wheelchair as so many younger women want to believe. Neither do we get confused as "grandma" if we walk into public places with babies on our arms!! Geez! I hate it when women dog each other over this stuff. Many older women judge younger mothers too of course...which I find just as abhorrent. In fact....I ALSO despise the blatant cla__sism seen all over these pregnancy sites where fellow posters belittle one another for being too poor when they have children....as if kids won't have good lives unless they grow up in Some ridiculous suburban house with picket fence and an SUV in the driveway??? Christ how materialistic are people becoming???? MANY children of poorer families grow up with far more integrity and genuine compa__sion than those kids of our pop...aka...disposable media culture. Working cla__s people make better parents in many ways than rich, white, suburban yuppies who are too freakin weak to DISCIPLINE their precious little angels. Working cla__s parents have FAR more b___s and courage and I for one, respect them. Sorry for the rant but so much of the stuff read on here feeds into these ideals. We need to live and let live!!! And by the way....31 is NOT EVEN old!!! Ok done now:)

Geez, Docbytch you have got quite a sensitivity against those thinking 40+ is old. Every post I see you on, you're ranting on this very topic. See someone about that would ya! You sound like I was years ago when I went atheist and had wild rants against wacko Christian types who put their whole lives in the hands of a ghost instead of personally taking responsibility for their own lives. I've softened in 20 years. Give yourself a break already!

And Mich, you gotta be kidding me?! Do you live under a rock? Come on out...check out the over 35 board with women who are giving birth at 40 and over to perfectly healthy babies..sometimes a little too over 40 but don't get me started.

Countrymom.... I have the right to my own opinion as do you. You perhaps don't recognize my brand of sarcasm. And though we are only 1-2 yrs apart in age, it seems clear that each of us has taken different paths and learned different lessons along the way. I can rant and rave all I want. Have been pretty frank on these boards about it too. Maybe I am too blunt for your taste? Yeah well I've gotten myself in a few pickles over the years from being a wee bit too up front. But we all gotta live with ourselves at the end of the day and be happy with the way we are. No one else lives our lives right?

Docbytch, I was out of line on this one and I'm woman enough to admit it. Please accept my apology. I do notice that aging/age happens to be a topic of great sensitivity for you but it's really none of my business.

Countrymom...apology accepted. I'd be willing to bet we all have sensitive issues. Yes, I was a young mom...and hate to see young moms judged or criticized. ..for I have walked in their shoes. Also broken the stereotype...The teen forum has several heated posts of mine!! Now I am an older mom...and frankly find myself also sensitive to the judgments and criticisms older parents tend to receive. Perhaps due to my unique experiences on opposing ends of the age continuum....I really wish in my heart for women to support each others efforts in pregnancy, raising children in a myriad of styles (none abusive), and simply living our lives. Thanks again

Mich I will be 32 when my first child is born.