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Times have changed. I had my daughter when I was 18 and am now expecting #3. I am the only one out of all my friends that is married and has children. Seems that women are waiting to begin a family, so I don't think there is a too young or too old. Age is but a number. It's your maturity level that determines if you are in fact ready to begin a family or not.
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Sometimes you find out who you are as a person through learning to be a good parent. I was 17 when I had my first and now at 24 I'm expecting my 3rd daughter. I was a teen that wanted to growup too fast and so be it that is what happened, but that is also what helped to define me as a person. I am a mother, that is who I was meant to be and that is something I will never regret, now that I know who I am I have the rest of my life to explore!
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Crystal83...you're absolutely dead on. I could say the exact same thing. God only knows what the hell would have happened to me had my dd not been born into my life at age 19. I was headed on a road to disaster....that little girl of mine helped WAKE me the HELL up! My entire adult life has been defined by her presence. I may never have done the total turnaround for the better had she not been my motivating force. Now, having a baby at 40 and married on top of it (never thought THAT would happen), it will be interesting to me to see what this whole experience of raising a child will be. Better? In some ways. But I love my dd fiercly, and even though she is 21 yrs old now...she is every bit my baby as will my son be. Stay tuned:)
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That's awesome docbytch! I hear you, I don't know what kind of life I would be living right now, not very productive I can tell you that!! My kids are my life and I love it, I still get to have a life of my own once in awhile too! GL to you on your soon to be new addition doc!!
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It's due to stories like our own Crystal that I have a basic faith in the ability of young parents to be GOOD parents. It is unfair for older moms to judge younger moms by some "invisible standard" Frankly...not a ONE of us...younger or older...richer or poorer....will make the correct choice all the time. Parenthood is, in itself, a learning process. My dd made me who I am today....and I am a better person for it. Of course now I've FORGOTTEN what to do with a baby! It's gonna be like doing it all over again for the first time now. Will I make mistakes? Yes! Will I have triumphs? Yes. And so will we all. Let that very knowledge humble those souls who wish to "point their collective fingers at others" Good luck to all of us!
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Wow the ignorance of some people is astounding. Yep I am 21 and already expecting. I also have 3 years of college, have been married for 2 years, have a steady job that pays for my college tuition and my husband's college tuition, we have a two year old car, we own our home-- should I go on to point out how suited we are to be parents? Gee whiz, I am not some stupid kid. I think I know who I am as a person. No, 30 years old is not too old. My husband happens to be 28 and I know he'll be a great father to our first and to the rest of our babies, too. The nerve of people to judge someone based on their age is sickening. Man this got me riled up.
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Haleyjr, some women know who they are earlier than others. I knew who I was at 18! Lol....I was on the road to self discovery long before a lot of girls my age were and still are! I have gal pals who are in college and not married who STILL haven't foudn themselves! In fact, they've lost themselves and are in a state of distress! I understand your concern, but as this IS a forum, please don't be quick to judge those women on here who you think are "too young". We are all here for the same reason: Because we want to be mothers. Also, it isn't a "regional thing". Frankly, that seems like a very uneducated theory. If you travel the world or pick up a few books, you can see that women are different and coem from all kinds of different backrounds around this world. Who we are should have NOTHING to do with our age.There is no SUCH thing as a PERFECT age to have a child...because it is JUST a number. I believe the same thing for when one is 40 and pregnant or not pregnant. You're not old until you say and think you are.....and you aren't too young unless you YOURSELF truly know and think you are. I hope you have a happy and healthy rest of your pregnancy.
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haley: just because someone is young doesn't mean they don't know themselves. each person grows up at a different rate. and 30 certainly isn't too old to be trying. my big sister is 31 and having her first baby and she says she's not done yet. igrat: who says people from 11-17 are too young? other than the obvious 11-15. but honestly, even i can't say someone that young is too young. i don't know that person and you certainly do not either. and when people agree to get married, it doesn't matter what either party has or does not have. had your husband not been willing to accept your son as his own with you, then he wouldn't have been worth the poop on your shoe. pba: haley wasn't making an observation just because she threw in "to each his own". she was pretty much saying anyone younger than she is is too young and she threw that last part in to make it seem like she wasn't trying to talk down to the younger ladies. that's like insulting someone and then saying 'no offense' to protect [your] b___t.
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