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I also think I could care for my baby and see to it's needs and give it the love my birth mum never gave to me!thanx xx

i understand your desire. iam 29 now, but i was in your boat at 15, and had an awful birth mom aswell, and wanted a baby really bad to love. welp, i didn't get preggo, and i was lucky, because at 19 when i did have my 1st child, i realized how very hard and expensive it is to have a child, and how important gaving the right dad for your baby is. unfortunately my son got ill and pa__sed away last year fri=om cancer. now 29, iam holding my 4 week old child right now, and it is extremely hard even with a great hubby and at my old age, lol. i know waiting a few years seems like an eternity at 15, but time moves faster with each pa__sing year trust me. iam not saying a girl your age is uncapable of raising a great child, iam just saying, you will miss out on soo much. much more then you can even see right now. i don't judge you like some others may. i fought for attention my whole life, and for love that i just never got, and it's sooo difficult, but you do make it through! w/b if you wanna chat more, i yoyally understand how you are feeling. i remember the feeling well. hugs:)

Thank you for ur advice and i understand what you're saying, very sorry about your son, but good luck with your baby i'm trying to stop thinking about it and wait but its VRY hard! lol xxx

shorty, you are very welcome. i think you are a bright girl, and heck we ALL want someone to love, and who will love us back. some women had great lives with caring people around, and those are the type of people who can't understand why you want a baby, but i can. and at 29 now (30 in a few days, ughhh, lol), i can tell you now, only cause i can look back, that it will change. you will find someone who will love you, and you will both want a child together, to show your love to one another. a baby right now won't make you feel complete, and if you have one with the wrong guy, like i did at 19 they are in your life forever unfortunately. he was the biggest loser on the planet! i didn't care back then. i had noone love me my whole life until 24 when i met my hubby. it won't take you that long, i fell into a deep depression over my son being ill, and had alot of problems. lets say i didn't get out much at all! you will find that guy, and fall in love, and it does happen! even if you just wait till 18, you'd be surprised how much you will know then vs. what you know now. it's crazy! noone could have ever told me that back then, but a few years does make a huge difference. you'll have kids hun! life doesn't end at 20, it keeps on goin, and goin! i know at 19 i was mature enough to have kids, and that is looking back now at almost 30, so just wait alittle while. it isn't to long to go! hugs:) ps- thanks for your sympathy about my son! you are a sweetie!

Once again thank you for your advice i've been thinking lately and decided it's best to wait at the moment and try and finish school first.I had a hell of a bad year last year and things nearly got too much as I had so many problems at home and at school, but this year i'm determined to put all those problems behind me- which in fact included a pregnancy scare at 14!it was with a lad who I loved who was 16 but unfortunately he didn't love me, we are still friends although he doesn't know i had a scare thankx again lv n hugs :D xxxxx

I had a baby at age 15 .It was hard for me because i did'nt have any support frommy parents. Now I am 20 and my child is about to turn 4 in january. I had to leave school to work to support myself.I love my son but If I could turn back time I would have waited a little longer.

WELL I ALL WAYS WANTED A BABAY AND I TELL PEOPLE THAT I WAS PRECANT WHEN I WASN'T SO WHAT SHOULD I DO

I wouldnt want to be lying to people about being pregnant. Thats one of those things that will come back around on you. I cant stand it when people do that. Shorty my advise is that if you "Think" that you are ready to have a baby you might need to hold off. Wait till you KNOW that you are ready. Most guys that age are not going to support you if you get pregnant. You may meet a rare guy though. I have seen so many of my friends who are pregnant struggling to do it on their own. maybe when you could babysit you would be around babies. You seem like a great kid.

I think shorty summed up her reason for wanting a baby. "give it all the love my birth mum never gave to me". Honey, having a baby isn't the answer. You have such potential in the world and with a baby this young, you'll not do yourself or any child you bring into the world any good if you spoil your life. Take it day by day and wait.

That's wonderful Shorty..u can built a small army quickly by have a kid every 2 years at such young age..so maybe 7-8 kids by age 30?

I totally understand where you are coming from. I am 21 and I am trying for a baby but I thought I wanted one at around 14 or 15. The main reason I wanted a baby I think was to be treated more like an adult by other family members and to have somebody who loves you unconditionally. It never happened and I am very glad of that now. I didn't have a boyfriend so it would have been a one night stand and I would have ended up in a tiny council flat on benefits or living with my parents and having them bring up the child. I don't know if you have got a job aswell as going to school but if I was you I would finish school and get a job you enjoy. Make sure you meet somebody and fall in love with them before making the huge decision to have a baby with them. You will be so glad you waited when you have got a boyfriend there to support you and a home of and a job of your own. And just think and it is not that far off maybe two or three years.I hope everything works out well for you.

Thanx for most peoples advice i've got a p.g scare at the mo, but it's probably nothing, i wouldn't lie about being pregnant if you're not, it isn't a good image xxx

Hi Shorty, I remember wanting a baby as early as 12 years old because there was a lot of abuse in our family and I so desperately wanted someone to love and to love me back- the thing I didn't know was that when you have a baby they don't love you- they need and depend on you- the love from them comes much later. Unfortunately many people (young and old) romanticize having a baby. I was wondering if you are still in school and if so does your school offer the "Baby think it over" program? If they do and you could access one of those dolls that could give you a "trial" run to at least see what you can expect from a newborn so you can make a more educated choice (or you could set your alarm clock to go off every two hours (day and night) staying awake for at least 30 minutes in between (to simulate the time it would take you to feed a baby). I had a baby when I was 15 so I won't say you can't do it and be really great at it, but just make sure you really are ready emotionally and financially- it's a lot harder to meet Mr. Right when you are tied down with a baby, can't get a sitter, don't have the extra money to go out anyway and the friends you used to have move on without you because they have their freedom to do all those things and you don't. There are pros to having a baby that young- for instance my energy level back then was thru the roof so I had the stamina to keep up with a toddler. The generation gap was much smaller so I feel like I was able to relate to her better when she was a teen. My daughter is now 23 and when we go places together, everyone thinks we're sisters and she likes it that she has a mom that's still young. We're also both pregnant now which is kind of special sharing that experience together, we can relate to eachother's aches and pains better than our husbands can! Good luck in what ever you decide to do.

I had a baby boy at 15. I wouldn't change him for the world, but it is alot of work. If i could turn back time i would have waited until i was alot older.

girl don't do it have the baby whan get married !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! because I had one whan i was 12.

you are welcome shorty! i believe you are making the right choice to wait. the desire may "pop up" on you again, but try to brush it off for now. we all wanna be loved, heck, i'll luv ya shortly, and be your pal, i have no problem with that, i just so want you to be happy and feel good about you! i know i did NOT at 15. good luck hon and w/b whenever i will check up on you:) sherry