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Well I'm 21 and I got pregnant a month after turning 21. I'm 2 years married and my husband and I were together for 2 years before that. I've been living out of state from my parents completely on my own with my husband. No I haven't been to college but I have a friend who has a 4 year old daughter that she had at 17 who is in college and doing very very well for herself. Some people are just ready sooner. I wasn't a drinker or a partier before the pregnancy, nothing about having a child is restricting my plans for life. My son was entirely planned and my husband is thrilled that he will be a father soon. He is in the Army so all medical costs for the pregnancy are fully covered. So, do I think 21 is too young? Not at all! If you feel you are ready and want a baby then, more than likely, you should be ready. Age is a number, base it on your mental and emotional capacity.

Been there. I am 27 and STILL get looks when I say this is my third. God only knows what thought srun through their heads, but I don't care. My life, my choices and no one can judge me.

if you have to ask, then i would guess it is too young,,,,,,FOR YOU. i would guess if you even have to ask that question, then you aren't ready. but in general do i think it is too young, NO. when you are ready, you are ready whether you are 20 or 40. I just happen to be 34 and 7 months along with my first. i was't ready at 20, hell, i wasn't ready at 30, even though i had a good job, degree, strong relationship, i wasn't emotionally ready. as someone said, i wanted to take the road less travelled- experience more of life (nintendogirl, that comment doens't mean just travelling.....). but to me, doesn't sound like you are ready if you are on a board asking if it is too young. if you were sure, you wouldn't have to even ask that question- you would be secure enough in your decision to not even listen to what folks might say to you. Us "OLD BATS" as someone referred to aren't all against young people having kids, so just like you don['t appreciate being generalized, older moms get the same treatment. but because i am older, i don't let it bother me, it is what i and DH want that matters. people can make rude comments all day long and it won't bother me, because i know when i am ready and that is what matters, no one else. i would agree i didn't truly know myself well until i was at least 30. it comes with age. but doesn't mean you can't still be a good parent at 20 if you are truly ready- emotionally, physically, financially and in your relationships.

Why are we seperating older women from youger women, Ladies we are all the same just some are a little more mature than others. No need for name calling, or criticism. Nintendo Princess, I agree with most the women on here, if you are ready, well heck go for it, Long as your aware of what your in for. It will no longer be 'ME' it becomes 'WE'. Its a brand new person joining our World, It's up to you how you want to raise them. God forbid lol the right way! Iether way ladies, I dont believing in 'finding yourself' My Great Grandmother is still alive at 99 Years old, lol I asked her 'Nan do you have any regrets, things you wish you could have done, did you become everything you wanted', You know what she said to me? 'Never!' I made my decscions for a reason, I chose my own choices and my own path thats what has been mapped out for me, now i watch my children and their children and their children make their own paths'. That came from someone who had her first child at 20, her last at 37, who to this day, still Drinks like a fish, Gambles and Swears (and continues to insist she has never farted a day in her life Lol!). So how can you justify age as being an indicator of maturity, you cant. I am 21, going on 22, I have been with my partner for 4 years, we bought a house, we own our cars, we covered by every possible insurance available. We have strict savings plan (including a coin jar), we have travelled the world, we have fought, Loved, and cried together. We have a cat, a rat and a puppy, We started the road to responsability, now we want to include our lives with someone else. At 21 Years old we have had nothing but support from all. My Neighbours are 30, they rent, they drink, they smoke pot, but because they are 30 have they found themseleves? who knows? But they are happy! My other halfs Step brother and his Gf are 18, with a 12 month old, are they happy, Sure! No matter what age we all make our own choices and choose our own paths, so instead of critising, lets be supportive, lets lend an ear and lets learn, and we will learn to work towards building our futures based on what we experience! I wish nothing but the best to all Baby Dreams, Older and Younger, Be who you want to be, and do what you can to ensure a happy and healthy future yourself and your children! Baby Dust Xoxo ***

I think it all depends on your situation. If you dont have a job, and arent financially stable, then no. Allot of people want kids and have them at a young age while still living with there parents, and to me, thats the wrong way to go about it. As far as the "missing out on so much" issue - You will miss out on allot if you partied and hung out with your friends frequently before getting pregnant. However, this wasnt the case with me. I started everything really young. I partied allot (underage obviously) starting at age 15, met my now husband at 16, finished school at 17, and started my job (that I'm still with and I'm 22 now) at 17 (almost 18) I had my first son at 20, and I'm pregnant again (scheduled c-section tommorow) with my 2nd son. I have no regrets what so ever. I didnt miss out on anything. Prior to getting pregnant with my first son, I was already married and didnt "party" that much anymore. Most of my friends my age have kids as well. So It really just depends on your lifestyle if you are ready or not.

I think if you have eveything in place it is a good age. I am 21 and am pregnant with my first. I feel that everyone is different and there emotions are different as well. I have been with my husband for 6 years now and we are ready. If you are in a good place in your life the time is right. God decides who and when and age doesnt matter. A child is a blessing no matter how old nor young. People who think they know really dont. So more power to you. Good luck and God bless.

I know exactly how you feel , right now I am 19 I'll be 20 before the baby is born. I hate how people aren't excited about you being pregnant because you are younger, but yet if you were 30 everyone would be excited. It is not fair , its a baby and a blessing no matter what the age.

No I don't think that it is too young, I had my son when I was 20. I think that being pregnant at 21 is just fine. Some people are just rude, they judge people without knowing anything that is their fault. Not yours. Good Luck with the baby:)

I also dont think it is the age that matters. You have to be ready and in a good situation. I was 19 when I got pregnant with my DD, had her when I was 20. I am 21 now and my DH and I are TTC for #. We have known each forever, grew up together. And have been happily married 2 yrs now. But I get the LOOKS all the time when we are out with our DD. Oh well. At least I can support my child unlike soooooooooo many people

Age is just a number... I am 20., and I am ready for one mentally, but when the finances get low I worry, so i am not about to go out and TTC just because I want one (and I really want one.) I grew up in my grandparents house, and since I was little all I have wanted was to get married and start a family... but I can wait as long as I need to as long as I know it will happen some day.... but not everyone my age is ready... a lot of 20 year old girls are selfish... (all the people that used to be my friends in high school) If any one of my old high school pals were pregnant I would really worry... they are still kids... when you have a child, and this is what a lot of people my age don't realize, you no longer live for you... you live for your child... I hate those parents who go out and buy beer when there child is at home with no milk.. It just bugs me... If I was poor, and had a child, I would feel my child, and go hungry if I had to so that my child could eat.... its just... ugg... have to stop now... just said my part..

Haley... I'm 23, got married at 21 and had twins at 22. Its more about maturity than age. Some 25 year olds are not ready! Some 20 year olds are!

hahaah! I get looks from ppl when I say we're newlyweds at the ages of 21 and 22. We met at 15 and 16 and started dating when I was 18! We got married 9/15/07 and are 8 weeks and 4 days pregnant! Lol! Their eyes get so big, and when we say we want at least 10, it seems as though their eyes are going to pop out!!!!!!! I either get answers like, " Wow, you're so young!" or " I would have never guessed you were so young!" Truth is...no one knows who you actually are, or where you've been! At 21, I've experienced my fair share of life and I've learned very much. Yes, there's so much more I'd like to do....but with my husband and our children! Age is a number that is over-rated! I've met so many women and men who are older by age, but not wiser or more mature. In fact, they are less of the women and men that they try to make themselves out to be! On the other hand, I know young people who really ARE too young...so its different for EVERYONE.....but seriously...age shouldn't be a factor. Maturity is something that comes with age, yes, but it also comes with knowing oneself, which can happen a lot earlier, especially if you are honest with you are and are comfortable in your own skin!

It's your choice regarding if you're too young. Generally, when you have to question yourself, then the answer is yes, you may be too young. Have you experienced the college life, sororities, careers, life in general? Have you fulfilled every dream and vision that you wanted to complete? I'm only 24, however, I look back at myself and thank God that I didn't have a baby at the age of 21. Are you married? Are you sure you want this? You may want something today, but in a few months, are you going to want this? Do you think at 21 you can HONESTLY give your baby the BEST life ever? Just think about it before you decide. Also, think about being a single parent, it's not guaranteed that the guy will stay around. If he does, GREAT, if not, you will be "Stuck" with the baby. Don't get me wrong, a baby is a blessing. Just make sure that you are ready.

there are many young girls that dont really know what they want... deciding to have a baby is not something easy.. you have to change diapers, stay up all night, crying all the time, not going out when its too cold, not going out partying... having kids too young limits you to do things in life that you really wanted to do.. I mean having kids is a blessing, i know that.. But once you have the baby its not easy, its a big challenge and you have to take care of your child at least until he/she turns 18 years old... you definitely are too young because youre not even married, no economic stability... etc etc..you say your always wanted kids... do you know what it takes to have your own???? you probably took care of somebody else's kids... but consider how it would be for you at such a young age to have your own kid 24/7..... Think about it first and try to ask yourself... Do I want to do other things first?? such as going to college, travel, meet new guys... i mean you said youve been on and off with your BF.... its not a secure relationship.. once he leaves you forever with a child, how will you support this child?? Will boys like to date you being a single mom? Will you be there all the time for this baby? Now i am your age, im also 21.. but i definitely want to enjoy other things first... Yes, we all have different opinions.. but think of other things you'd like to do.. like get involved in sports, or travell... i dont know.. watch tv. lol... dont have a kid just because you always wanted one, think about what it will take... Good luck

first off this is an old post read the dates....but to say guys don't date a single mom is bs! some of my closest friends got pregnant in highschool (not purposefully) and they aren't with the fathers anymore but they are either married or happily engaged. Guys who are turned off by single moms aren't worthy of a single moms time...and to say that a woman can't make it on her own is downgrading and u being a woman should never doubt another womans ability or strength.

Waiting is a great thing 28 would be the perfect age! Go to college, travel and have a great job to support that little one. Have no regrets. It would be very hard to travel with a baby also missing college because your kids are sick won't fly with the professors!