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Waiting is a great thing 28 would be the perfect age! Go to college, travel and have a great job to support that little one. Have no regrets. It would be
very hard to travel with a baby also missing college because your kids are sick won't fly with the professors!
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Well, I will jsut say that I was 19 when I got married and had my first baby at 21. I am now 24 and I have 3 children and I Love being a mom! I can't say that I do/did things right all the time. I expected my now 4 year old to be perfect little angel, I now have learned that children will be children. LOL! :) So I know for sure that starting out that young was not the greatest thing ever.... because if I would have just had my first now it would be so different. BUT on the flip side, if you don't have a husband or steady boyfriend I wouldn't recommend it, children are hard to raise WITH a dear husband or boyfriend supporting, but if there isnt a man involved to help out with finances or just for a break then I wouldn't suggest it, becaue I still have my bad days and my dh is WONDERFUL! Course I wouldn't recomment having your children like mine a 4 yr old, a 2 year old a 13 month old and *hopefullly* one on the way. My house is a living zoo...
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I am 22 and i have a 3 year old and a 10 week old. I have been with DH for 6 years and married for 3. I don't think 21 is too young. Traveling over seas going to uni etc does not teach you how to love your child, change nappies, feed a baby etc. You know i had my 3 year old when i was nearly 20 and i thought to myself after i had my 2nd child, maybe i wasn't really ready as i am much more relaxed with my 10 week then what i as with my 3 year old. I then realized that at no matter what age NOONE i prepared for the changes that a child brings and i am more relaxed as i have already done this before. I would hate to be 30-40 and having my 1st child or still adding to a family as i will be 50-60 when the kids leave home. The way DH and i looked at it, have kids young that way by the time we are in mid 40's we can travel and most of our house will be payed off when the kids are old enough to look after them selves. They always say life begins at 40 but i think thats going out the window as people are having kids at an older age. No way would i want to be 50-60 and talking about what we a going to be doing when DH and i retire and the kids are still in their teens. At the end of the day do whats best for you. If you have kids young like now, when your in your mid 40's you will have your life back and another 20-30 years to enjoy it. Traveling can wait, i never thought there was a rule at what age you have to do that. Uni is not for everybody, just as long as you and you partner are very stable and have a good income then go for it.
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YES! Sorry, but we are not living in the 1950's anymore. You have a lot of growing up to do in your 20's and why rush? To me, life is hard enough, being a parent should come with time, and at 21, you are still very young. Divorce rate is VERY high for that age too. If I got pregnant or married when I was 21, it would have been a big mistake. We all think we know what we want at that age, but you change as you get older.
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missesbee: there are plenty of couples in their 30's, 40's, and 50's and so on that fail in marriage as much as couples in their 20's. granted younger people make more decisions without obsessing over it, they tend to think with their heart. not always a bad thing, and to be honest, i got married when i was 19 to my first husband and it was a big mistake, but i'd do it all over again if i knew it would lead me to my husband now that is absolutely the perfect man for me. of course i would have kicked my ex's b___t a lot sooner, but hey lol. there are 21 year olds that are far more mature than 31 year olds and older. it is all in how they choose to see their lives and how they choose to live it. sorry, but you're wrong.
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