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i was just going through reading a few posts and have become really annoyed. i was a teenage mom. got pregnant at 16 had a beautiful son at 17. that was the hardest thing in the world to do. i woulgnt say that it ruined my life - i would say it changed it, i would not change anything. however, i am now 28 and still in college. i just finally found a man who i want to spend my life with. so -------------------------------------------------------what p___ses me off is all the little girls on her 13,14,15 year old babies who want to get pregnant. of course the majority of us are begging and pleading with them not to try and get pregnant. but, then you have the other 13,14,15 year old babies encouraging them. the fact that everything the write is mispelled because its cooler to write eboniclly - sorry not trying to offend anyone- how in the h__l is a girl going to teach her child anyhthing when they cant even spell. and whats even more- arent even old enough to get a job at mcdonalds! i know this seems petty but it really p___ses me off to see such stupid people on here trying to give advise.- ok i feel better
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couldnt agree with you more!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I don't even go on the teen posts anymore because I get so enraged. Are the parents completley clueless?
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Also you forgot to add that they ask questions about how things are with a baby, and when you give them the truth, they get mad and say you are just trying to scare them.
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One more thing. It has been proven that the rate of child abuse increases dramatically if you are a teenage parent. I will never forget the story of Tanner Dowler and his short life with teenage parents. To find the story type in, Tanner Dowler death in Google search.
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I agree too! If they don't have money for condoms then they should have s_x b/c it is way more expensive to have a baby than to pay for condoms or wait!
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Baliezer - where exactly did you get these 'facts' that it has been 'proven' that that the rate of child abuse increases if your a teenage parent????
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TEENPREGNANCY.ORG sweetie. and you can also view other astonishing facts about the NEGATIVE impacts on teen pregnancy.
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It is under the "why care" section.
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I agree I was 18 when I had my first and I have not whipped either of my kids and I am now 23. So the whole teenage abuse is bull c___p. It all depends on the way you choose to raise them and If you are abusing your kid while being an teenager then you have refused to break the cycle of abuse or you have started the cycle of abuse either way its really up to the parent not statistics
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my point to start this thread wasnt to start a controversy on whether or not teens will abuse there children. i dont think thats relevent. the point i was trying to make is that 13,14,and 15 year olds are encouraging eachother to reproduce because the think having a baby is cute and fun but i dint think the realize how incredibly hard it is. babies are not fun and cute when they are waking you uo everyy two hours for at least 6 months. its not cute when you run out of diapers and since you arent old enought o work they have to depend on there parents. i know that teenagers love their babies as much as older mothers do. i know i was one of them. i just think that if the younger ones were really made aware of who much work really goes into raising children they would wait
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i think the whole teenage parents and child abuse stems only from the fact that teenage parents are generally under more stress emotionally financially ect and are less mature or even less able to cope with the drastic change in their life and often times the fathers aren't the greatest....but that can all hold true for 30year olds, its just more common in younger people...they don't have the job experience or education to make much money which adds stress and a whole list of other things. i am a 19 year old mom of a 5month old and my boyfriend is 25 and we would NEVER hurt our son, i think the problem is in PREMATURE PARENTING and that can occur at all ages, but yes younger is more likely. the fact is, often the abuse is more emotional than physical anyway (which does not make it any better) because some teen parents later resent their kids for 'stealing their childhood' and they go out and act irresponsible, which hurts their kids and teaches them poor behavior and so on. my parents planned me in their 30's and were not ready, i was raised by other people and in "residential treatment facilities for at risk teens" and was forced to be the 'grown up' most of my life. when i found out i was pregnant i had to come to terms with the fact that i would always be the mom....i always had been(unfairly) and now i always will be, happily. i had to let go of the desire to be carefree and irresponsible and had to learn to be grateful for this role as i used to resent it. i will not allow my son to raise or mother me, that is my joy now and his is to be taken care of and taught to care for himself. my background make me a likely candidate to be an abuser and i understand that, i know where i came from, but my actions and counseling and faith tell me i will be going somewhere much better with my own family. statistics are just that, statistics, and as teen moms you don't have to become one, although i will say a baby will provide much more joy in your lives when you are ready for one, there is nothing wrong with waiting because that child will be with you the rest of your life...so have a full life of your own before you share it, you'll have much more wisdom give your little ones if you do
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