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To Lost and Confused.... As you are aware from my story, I got pregnant when I was 17 and had my son at 18 and it was the best thing that ever happened to me. I honestly beleive that if God would not have blessed me with my son, I would be dead or living on the streets somewhere. Before I got pregnant with him,. I was doing drugs and drinking all the time , living off of my parents and doing things I had no business doing at all. I know in my heart that me getting pregnant was God's way of making me slow down. Here I am 6 years later with a great job of 5 years, my own apartment with beautiful things in it, my own truck, etc.....I would have never accomplished half the things that I have if I didnlt have my son. He is the light of my life and although his father does get him every other weekend, he does not pay child support (he chooses to not work) Yes, it is hard at times but you find a way to make it and I know that God will never give a person more than they can handle. Don't get me wrong, I am Pro Choice but give that life inside of you a chance.... Hope that helps and good luck with your decision!

Ann, i can somehow relate to ur situation, because being an adopted child myself and an ex-single mom, i know what it's like to be both ! Adoption is indeed a very loving act a mom could do for a child, but being adopted ,u always wonder where u come from and who you really are, i find myself very lost at times, even though i have a very loving adopted mom, i often wonder who i really am.... I also know the struggle of being a single mom,as i was for 2 yrs b4 i met my hubby. but if u get some help from ur dad as u mentionned,i'm sure once he sees baby # 2, his heart will fondle ! Besides , u shouldn't feel guilty about that, i'm sure if u could, u too would help ur dad if he was in need, wouldn't u ? Now , regarding ur b/f, i don't want to be too abrupt, but i think he's being a little bit selfish, he sees himself old at 33? what about ur need , ur feelings etc...now he has told u how he feels about the baby, has he ever asked u how u felt ?don't only think about him, don't be selfish, but don't make him feel good if ur not gonna be . At the end, he'll get what he wants,& u'll end up feeling guilty about terminating the preg. and maybe getting depressed. Think twice, and look at the situation in every angles ! Good luck and be strong !

Yes because to me it's wrong to take a life out of this earth. God blessed you with this child and you just can't throw you blessing away. If he was a real man he would had thought of the possibility of him become a father. He should take car of his responbility.

Yes we think that you are doing the right thing cuz at the end of the day he aint worth it and if he does not want to stand by you, you have always got ur family which we both think they would stand by you also stuff the rest of your work people cuz its your life and no one can make you do what you dont want to so what ever the choice that you make, make sure its what you want not what other people want! Take care hunnie. XxXxX

When I was 18 I got pregnant my first time having s_x using a condom. The condom broke and he didn't stop when he KNEW that it had broken.Three weeks later BFP HPT and blood test at the county clinic. He wanted me to have an abortion. Said "it wasn't worth it." because the s_x only lasted like 10minutes. (Like that was MY fault right?) Anyway I didn't know where to turn and I was so scared...so I had an abortion. I later married that jerk (Who is still my DH.Been married for 6 years now) but I still cry and regret having that abortion. I have a 3 y/o daughter now with my DH and he wants more.After seeing our baby he was hooked. We were young and dumb, but we could have made our way with a young family. The abortion was the biggest mistake of my life. and although I know God has forgiven me I will never forgive myself. I MC in April of this year and we are trying again now...you never know if this could be the last for you...or just the begining of a big fabulous family. You don't see Life's Cards until they are dealt. I can't tell you what to do but I can tell you the pain with abortion is not limited to physical...that pa__ses after a few days...but the mental anguish is a lifetime...I will be praying for YOU to have the strength to do what YOU feel is right.God bless you and your babies!!

Tell him to go to Hell!! If he don't want the baby then he doesn't deserve it! The baby would be better off without him, because later in life the father might not treat him well because he never want him in the first place.

Don't worry Ann those two posts are from a sad person that tries to wind people up. I have seen them in many posts, don't take no notice. Good luck with your new baby! If he didn't want a baby he shouldn't have had s_x full stop. He brought it on himself and is acting like a sulking child. He will soon learn that he should take responsibility.

Ann, I do believe that you have the right to choose, and you have already chosen to have one child when you were too young. The decision is ultimately yours, but you have to also think about the repercussions that you are not only going to place on yourself, your current child, and the ensuing one. If you choose to have the child against your boyfriends wishes, I will have to let you know that I feel it's immature and utterly self centered of you to do. You BOTH consented to have s_x, you BOTH consented to do it with or without a condom, and it's BOTH of your decisions to aid in a child's life or not. The problem here is that you are going to loose the guy by dragging him through the mud of the court systems and ultimately he will have to bear the suffering of paying your bills with no itemized listing of where the money is really going. I admit that these are harsh realities, but too many women out there feel that they can pop out children in order to slap a guy with child support. This isn't a one-sided decision, but a two sided one. The power of the woman is to make the RIGHT decision that benefits ALL parties, not just herself. As for taking the pill and using a condome, both of you are responsible, you allowed him to enter you with out a condom, and he allowed himself as well. Regardless of the failed pill or a broken condom, not one party is as fault, but both. The risks were taken and allowed. I have spoken my piece. Thank you for listening. (and yes, I am a female.)

Oh my goodness! Bless your heart!!!! I feel for you I really do. As said above, it is your body and you should have this baby if you want too. I myself had an abortion about 15 years ago and I am still truely devastated by my decision. I was so scared and I allowed someone (the dad) to talk me into it and I will never forgive myself for that. I also have recently miscarried twice so yes you are very blessed by God to have conceived this child. As always, everything happens for a reason. As for your BF, he will juwt have to get over himself and think about you now, if he can't do that then he is not worth your time sweety. You do what you know in your heart is right. Remeber you will always have a shoulder (so to speak) here with us. God be with you and good luck :o) Keep us updated. BTW, when I was born my Mom was 39 years old.....she is now 69 so age is excuse, at least I think not. It's all the love in your heart and your willingness to share it.

Ann, you know what you have to do. Dont let him tell you what to do. Abortion is never a good decision. I heard it hurts like hell too. Have the baby. Eventually he'll realize it's not a mistake, its a blessing from God.

u know I'm your age and I have a 6yr old also and I had, had 2 abortions previously but I'd like to have another child now so if I were you I would at all cost follow your heart and I do regret doing what I done, so please think long and hard before u make up your mind and your children will be there when no one else is.............

Sounds to me like you've already decided to keep your baby. I support you 100%. If he wasn't ready to have more kids, perhaps he shouldn't have had s_x! In my view, he is forcing you to choose between him and a baby. If you keep the baby, he may not stay. But you won't resent yourself, or the baby. he may even get over his anxiety and decide to stay. If you abort, you have him, but for how long? You may come to completely resent him for it. There are services in your area waiting to help you to raise this child, with or without your partner! Plus, family will be supportive (I hope!). You've got a gift. Some of us would die for this gift. I'm sure you would too. Enjoy your miracle.

Hi everyone...just an update for anyone who is interested. :) I am now 16 weeks pregnant and counting....I have 2 weeks and 2 days until I have my sonogram to find out the s_x of the baby!!!! I am so excited about this little life inside of me. I told my parents and my mom was upset at first but I think she is getting excited now about the thought of another grandchild. I told my 6 year old son too and he is completely beside himself. Every day he has to kiss my belly and talk to his little brother or sister and he asks "how big is the baby today" He can't stop talking about everything he is going to teach it and how he is going to be the best big brother ever! As far as the ex bf is concerned, we've talked a few times but nothing major has changed. He hasn't told any of his family yet because he says he is embara__sed that he's 33, not married and having another child and didn't use protection. I wonder if he will tell his child to it's face that he was embarra__sed of it when it was born? He is such a drama king and I am completely sick of it. I have washed my hands of the situation and if he chooses to be there for the baby when it's here then great. I have enough to worry about without adding the stress of him. Well, I appreciate all of your support and I'll be sure to update you all when I find out the s_x. I hope everyone is having a healthy pregnancy and taking care of those "little people" inside of you! God Bless!

congratulations ann,you definetly made the right choice.

I'm so glad you decided to keep this baby. Can't wait to hear what you're having. Congratulations!

To have your own child is the most wonderful thing in the world, now a days its a gift to be able to with out help. I my self was single with a four year old at the age of 28 when I looked at her I had so much love in side for her I had settled for a life with just her and was happy to do so I knew no matter what, I would have MY CHILD for life and would never be on my own. It will be hard but I think you sud keep YOUR baby if your fella really loves you he will understand.best of luck