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To have your own child is the most wonderful thing in the world, now a days its a gift to be able to with out help. I my self was single with a four year old at the age of 28 when I looked at her I had so much love in side for her I had settled for a life with just her and was happy to do so I knew no matter what, I would have MY CHILD for life and would never be on my own. It will be hard but I think you sud keep YOUR baby if your fella really loves you he will understand.best of luck

Wow! You're story is such an inspiration! I already have two kids (two different fathers, BOTH abandoned me as soon as I told them I was pg). I definitely know what it is like to 'Go it alone'. Now that I am 35, and faced with the possibility of being pg with my 3rd child. I have told the perspective father-to-be already about my 'symptoms' and my 'fear' that I might be pg. He asked me why didn't I just wait until I knew 'For Sure'? I told him: 'Why should I worry about it alone?' If I turn out not to be, then we can be relieved together. If I turn out to be pg, then we can sit down and talk about that. He already told me that he is dead-set against abortion, and so am I (this would be his first child, and he is a 'tad' younger than I am). But if it becomes apparent that I am pg, will he change his tune? I honestly don't think so, but one never knows do they? I for one, am keeping the baby no matter what, and I do believe that I finally found a 'Man' that will stick by me no matter what. Good luck to you Ann, and you really have made the RIGHT decision. God will truly bless you (he already has, right?) and He will ALWAYS be with you through thick and thin. Always.......

First of all you are not the worst person in the world. I believe that you should have the baby. It would only make you feel like the worse person in the world if you didnt. I don't agree with abortion and I don't agree with him wanting you to have one. You are already a single mom so dont be afraid to raise another on your own. If he wouldnt be there for this baby then he wasnt worth it to begin with.

Ann you are definately doing the right thing . When I got pregnant with my 4th child my boyfriend at the time told me to get and abortion or he was going to leave me but as for me i was not going to have one whether he liked it or not and now we are happily married going on our 5th baby but him and I both are hoping for twins! So stay strong, if he loves you he will get over it ! Good Luck!

Dont even let him do this to you. Stress can make you lose the baby, also. If he loves you, he will support your descision to keep the baby. That baby is you and him. If he doesnt want it, he doesnt want you. If that is the case, he doesnt deserve you or the baby. You have morels. Keep them. Lose him.

Its strange but if u knew all along that he is trying to get back to his ex while all along having s_x with u...why did u let him use u for s_x? Maybe u got pregnant just so to prevent him from patching up with her..to keep him all to yrself? I know I sound mean but why would u want to entangle yrself s_xually and emotionally with a man whose heart is with someone else? He obviously is still holding on and hoping she would give him another chance to get back together..if not he would not have any qualms about the baby with u...it seeems he is crying over the fact that if u have the baby and his ex finds out..his hopes of getting her back is dashed and he cant bear to lose her ..it seems u not yr baby is worth more to him than her. I definitely think u should have yr baby..u dont need this loser ....keep yr chin up and everthing is goona be fine. Take care.

Ann is NOT reading this anymore. Does anyone look at the dates on these posts?

Hey E! it does not matter if Ann reads it anymore or not. Its not just for Ann but for everyone in general particularly woman in the same situations. I have the same problem as Ann and in my 5th week now, I did consider abortion but after reading the thread I changed my mind. You ladies have been a big help and this forum is truly great. The community here are really sincere and helpful in giving their honest views regarding any issues brought up. Thanks again ladies, I am so very glad to have found this awesome site and all the best in your pregmancies.

First of all you need to put yourself first. If he is gonna make you feel guilty for something that is not your fault, it just shows he does not love nor does he respect you. If you want this baby you shouldn't have to fight to keep it. Get him out of your life, it may be hard at first but later on he will realize that he was the one who screwed up not you. Telling your parents might be hard, I know it was hard for me to tell my parents but parents can be surprising at times. Tell them when you are ready to and do not force yourself into it. If you honestly feel stronly about having this baby do not let him swade your mind you will end up regretting it for the rest of your life. No man is worth forcing you into a decision you do not want.

Ann, Hi I am a 23 year old who is pregnant with my 1st baby. It is a wonderful and enchanting experience. I feel that you my dear are doing the right thing. He did have s_x with you and he knows that chances of having a baby on the pill or not.This is a miracle and it is your body. He should understand and except you and this baby with open loving arms. Let me just tell you that i was pregnant before and went in for the ultrasound but there was no heartbeat.I was devistated. But girl you heard it.It was your beautiful baby's heartbeat, please keep this baby! Goodness some women can't even have babies. Good luck and i will be praying for you. God bless crystal

A baby is god's wonderful gift. We have been trying for 10 years with no success. My biological clock is ticking so fast. But we wont give up trying. I do envy all the pregnant ladies but at the same time feel happy for all of u. Ann, take care and cherish that baby of yours. You have no idea what I would do to be pregnant and one day hold my baby in my arms.

i think you shold keep the baby when i got pregnant with my 2nd child my husband said no more he wanted me to abort but i did not and our daughter changed him so much she was the love of his life and he begged me to terminate follow your heart i did

You are not wrong in not wanting to have an abortion. However since there was an agreement or rather understanding that he didn't want to have any more children, hence you being on the pill, then you should absolve him of any responsibility. You want a child, he doesn't, you knew that. Hey, dump him and have the kid, children are much more cute and loveable and I am a man saying this. Seriously though, tell him, so he doesn't throw-up 4 times or God forbid choke and you know what and leave a 14 yr old without a dad. Tell him, you have to break up and you won't tell the kid who the father is, the responsibility is what scaring him, i think. Just to put things in perspective just imagine you have 3 kids and your husband decides to go adopt one, and you don't want another, your hands are full as it is with 3, then he comes home with a child. I hope this helps, If he is the kind of guy to spend a lifetime with, he will come around, if he doesn't, then you don't want him around, because he will always come back at you with "....I told you id didn't want to have any more kids..." I wish you the best and pray for a healthy child, enjoy your pregnancy

A guy can vomit blood, cry crocodile's tears, threats or whatever, nothing would ever make me kill my precious baby.

Yes i think that you are doing the right thing. I just have one thing to tell you. I understand that you wanted to have another child and he told you that he didnt want to have anymore because he didnt want to start over with kids. If he is not giving you support right now while you are pregnant, it may be possible that he won't after the baby is born. My advice to you is when you have this baby don't try to make him be a father to the baby that will only push him away. If he choose to be one after the baby his born, let him. But know that you still have to be strong and not be weak if he does, he may not stay around. My cousin made that mistake with the person she was messing with. The one person who was hurt form all of the mess was the little girl. When you see him at work, don't feel sorry for you hold your head up high because you appreciate the blessing to you have been given. He is the one that is going to miss out. So you be proud of you decison and your gift!!! Just give your baby the love is deserves.

Zee, I did not think of it that way, and you are right.