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I'll cut to the chase on this one. Basically after my girlfriend got pregnant, she started pretty much disliking me. She shuts down on me all the time giving me the complete silent treatment, sometimes for days at a time. This caused a few large arguments and she has moved out. She doesn't talk about her problems, and it takes a minimum of a week before she'll finally speak out about one or two things, talk about it for about 10 min max, and then say she doesn't wanna talk anymore. I've tried to give her some space, but no matter what I do, she get's p___sed at me. If I try and talk, then when I don't try and conversate, etc. Everyone keeps telling me to have patience, but this hurts so bad that I went almost all of last week not being able to eat anything, because of stomach pain. I don't cry, but must admit, have found myself with tears a few times. She says she's trying, and I try to explain to her what this is doing to me, but she says she won't feel guilty once her hormones are under control, and what she does is justified - I shouldn't do "dumb shit". Then I find out from her mama that she doesn't like for me to talk with other people because she wants us to try and work it out on her own. All of her fammily knows I'm a great guy, and pushes for her to try, but she just gives them att_tude whenever they try. Just the other day she got a summer cold, and volunteered to go to my house while I was at work. She wanted me to rush home from work and take care of her, but I couldn't leave early. Honestly at first I was happy she decided to come back for a day or two, but as the day went by, I started getting more and more irritated thinking about how she won't humble herself and expects me to just act like some lost puppy that will just do everything she wants just because I'm happy she's talking to me at the moment. So I talked to her mother first, just so I could get the frustration off my chest since I know she get's p___sed whenever I express my feelings, but she got mad about that and went home. When I asked her what was wrong, she said she's irritated because I conversate with her mother more than her, and I might as well just marry her mother. - She moved out because she wouldn't conversate with me and I would get upset. I'm extremely lost.
The most recent event occurred just last night. At about 9:30 pm I visited her and since I had the house to myself, and it's been over a month since we really had a peaceful time, I asked if she would like to spend the night at my house (she's staying with her brother and mom in a 1 bedroom apt.) so we could bond a little and I could massage her feet as she had been complaining about foot pain for several days. She said she didn't know, and waited until 12 midnight to finally say yes. Now the whole time I was waiing, she was going out of her way to avoid me, and just having a (seemingly) extremely good time with her brother, mother, and nephew. She was hugging them, saying I love you to all of them, playing with them, and even spent the last 30 min of her time there trying to get her older brother to hug and kiss her. During that time if I said anything to or touched her, I got a cold "WHAT". Then as soon as she left the house she got this instant depressed look on her face as if she really didn't want to go, but was being forced. She didn't say a word to me the entire trip home, and as soon as she got there she got in bed. I asked her what she was in the mood for, she said sleep. I asked for a hug, she said no. I asked if she was mad at me, she replied "If I was mad do you think I would have come here?" I asked if she wanted to talk, she almost yelled no. The worst part is I have discussed with her how much it hurts me to see her playing and talking with everyone else, but then just shuts down on me. I told her it's hard to accept that it's just hormones, because the anger is singled out. I think she intentionally did all that stuff at her brother's house so that I would get mad and she would have an excuse not to go. She has shut down on me s_xually, emotionally, and physically and I feel like I'm breaking up almost every other day. I can't get her out of my mind. I can't eat or sleep or focus. I've tried explaining this to her and she bluntly says I can't help you, but every so often she apologizes about any pain she's putting me through, giving me hope again. I honestly don't know what to do anymore. The pain os more than I have ever felt before, and I feel like a big part of me is missing. If there is anyone that can give me any suggestions on how to cope, please don't hesitate. I am almost at the end of my rope on this and I really don't want to do something I will forever regret. There is so much more info I left out and would appreciate a convo with both males and females. If you are interested please contact me, vail (underscore) teal (at) yahoo, or befriend me on face book - user name vail teal.
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