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No, he has to have the last word... That's all that is.

"He just can't get enough. Can he?" Pot, Kettle, Black.

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oh my gosh. Kristi, are you crazy? Do you mean to sound insane? From an outside perspective on this conversation (if it can even be called that) you have moved from sounding defensive to just sounding weird. My advice, Stressedtoo, don't say anything else to her, she's probably lying about everything anyway. I've always thought "you can't argue with ignorance" but in this case I will change it to "you can't argue with insanity". My advice to Kristi, go check yourself into an asylum and get some help, obviously you've been pushed over the edge.

Oh! It's OK Erika. You are SO not the first to say I'm crazy or insane. Even if I am ... is that REALLY such a bad thing? Politically correct? Not even close. A liar? NEVER! Insane ... eh, sometimes you do what ya gotta do. <blink blink> And DAMN do I have FUN doing it! :)

EricaG: Yup, figured that much. Thanks for the advice!

Just for the record: Here are a bunch of people that agree with me and a few that don't: http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts3353841.aspx

That's a good boy! I knew you'd come around. (One of these days I will let you have the last word ... but not today, b___tercup. Not today.) Go get that ball!

http://www.faqfarm.com/Q/What_do_you_do_if_your_wife_cheats_on_you and http://p199.ezboard.com/fb___hpillowspousalb___h.showMessage?topicID=8.topic and http://www.helpmeharlan.com/letters/J/0207/0207c.html and here is one that will put us at a draw: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=1006012617119

Post with no value to this discussion by kristi in 3, 2, 1 ....

Oh, are we still having a "discussion". Yeah right. I lost interest in discussing that subject with YOU forever ago. (Kinda because of your NEED to be RIGHT at all cost & inability to bend away from your "ALWAYS cheat again" to "SOMETIMES they cheat again". That’s all. Just a little BENDY action.) Now the “discussion” is about watching you jump through hoops & TRYING to get the last word. Try to keep up, Stressed. :)

"Oh, are we still having a "discussion". Hm, No we are not. I was refering to the discussion of the topic at hand as stated in the post that created this thread. This is really not all about you, as heart breaking as it may be I have news for you: There are other people in this web site, you are not the center of this thing called cyberspace. "TRYING to get the last word.". But I had the last word (stupid posts don't count you know?), I said that I stand by my opinions (once a cheater always a cheater) and that you are ent_tled to yours, doesn't mean we agree. Is there really anything else to be added to our "conversation"? After that I haven't seen you add anything, unless you think your inmature posts contribute iin some form to the thread. Anyway, back on topic: Here are some more people that think that once a cheater always a cheater: http://advicenators.com/qview.php?q=357764

Here are a couple of posts, from different people, that I found around the Web. They pretty much say in their words what I have said. Again, I will say this again: I don't believe myself to be the holder of the truth of the universe, I only base my opinions and conclusions on what I have seen at close hand. Anyways, here they are: 1. "That's no way to live--keeping both eyes open all the time. Trust is the basic foundation of a relationship. Once it's broken, it can be more than hard to earn it back. I also wouldn't deal with it at all. I can forgive, but not forget, so best to go our separate ways. I guess mainly because I would never do it, and if I did, I wouldn't expect someone to just allow things to continue~~but without any trust, always checking up on me, watching every move I make...((My first husband was one of the most jealous men on earth, so I know how all of that works))... How stressful would that be, for both people>? To each their own, though, but I absolutely could not be on either the receiving end, or the "other" end~~~~It would all get too complicated for me.." 2. Bikeman, interesting "take" on it. You do realize that cheating isn't to err right? It takes willful intention to cheat. It's not something that "just happens" after all. Yes, to err is human but to willfully err is carelessness. And that's not necessarily a fact of being human. My intention to bed someone isn't something that "just" happens. My clothes falling off and my landing naked next to them isn't something that "just" happens. My actually going through with it and having outright full s_xual relation with someone isn't something that "just" happens. My carelessness for having done it isn't something that "just" happens either...that is a character flaw... Just how I see it. 3. k... someone cheats on their partner....who really cares what excuse is given... Trust is gone and to be no more, what std's do they now carry because of their stupidity? Obviously they are not mature enough to end what they already have to step into anothers private world.... Whatever... you can all decide/think what you want. I know from first hand experience as the one who was cheated on... it is not a pretty thing. And as for working it out.. HA I tired as I was five months pregnant with his child at the time.... he disgusted me and I never touched him in any way after the fact. Nothing can keep you two together. Again.. I guess some things need to be learned the hard way. Damn.. I gave out way too much info.... at least it got my point across. 4. You are right once the trust is broken in a relationship from either side it is all over there is no getting it back. It dosen't even have to be about s_x! Trust and communication are the foundation to any relationship and without them you have nothing. You do not see the person the same way as before because you dont trust them. You can not live your life that way and be constantly woundering what your partner is doing. Yes you can forgive them and then go on your way. 5. Cheaters - I would never forgive, I would never forget. Cheating is in their character, it is not a one time flaw. Whether they ever do the deed again, they will always be looking to. I could copy paste thousands of posts from all over the web, if you care to look just go here: http://www.google.com/search?q=%22cheaters+will+cheat+again%22&hl=en&lr=&filter=0

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