Unsolicited Quot Advice Quot How To Respond
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My son is 9 months old and a peanut at 17 lbs (although his height is right on track with where it "should" be for his age). He's incredibly active, he's one of those babies that like to GO, the only time he's ever still is when he's sleeping.
Lately I've been getting a lot of grief about his size- he doesn't weigh enough, he's too small, etc. I get it from strangers and family friends alike. I'm constantly hearing how I need to feed him more (he's br___tfed and he eats like a horse), that he can't possibly be healthy because he's so small, even that I need to have him tested because he must have some physical disease.
Our pediatrician says he couldn't be healthier- he's just not a big kid and probably never will be (my husband and I are both only 5'6" and not exactly big ourselves lol). He's definitely not skin and bones- he's filled out in all the right places, just not overly so.
I know most people that express their concern mean well, and I appreciate that, but it's frustrating to be told over and over that my son isn't healthy and I must be doing SOMETHING wrong because he's not your typical chubby baby. Any ideas on how to graciously respond to these people? It's to the point I feel like getting a doctors note to photocopy that says YES THIS CHILD IS HEALTHY and sending it out in a mass mailing lol.
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I know how you feel. I just tell people he is a healthy active kid and i he doesn't get junk food. When my son hit that age he thinned right out because he started walking, so i told everyone "well, any extra weight would just slow him down, and he can't have that now can he?" It made them chuckle and they dropped it, so even if your son has always been on the skinny side, you could tell them that anyway :P I wouldn't worry about it, especially if your doctor isn't. Some kids are just thin, and some kids are just chubby. ( and some kids just eat way way too much junk)
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My friends had a little girl who was really tiny and they got that sort of thing constantly. To the point where they started to worry themselves. At work I would have people coming up to me and gossiping about their little girl. That would just p__s me off. Geez, the mother is only five feet tall and the father is a pet_te 5'7. You could tell by looking at her that she was perfectly healthy so exactly how big did they think the baby would be? That usually ended the conversation. She's nine now and still tiny and still very healthy. Very smart too.
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My daughter is very tall for her age, so since she could walk she's looked at least a year older than she is. I have had comments from people about how I needed to read to her so she could learn to speak clearly (when she was one and a half) comments about how other people's five year olds know how to behave (she's three), comments about how she's too old to wear diapers unless she has a mental problem. I tell everyone thanks for the advice and then my husband tells them to b___t the f*** out of his business...I hope it makes people think twice before offering advice. The only time I offer any advice is if I see a kid about to fall out of a shopping cart, or a dropped shoe or toy, and that's not really advice, it's common courtesy.
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