Hitting And Biting And Pinching

26 Replies
E - July 10

to kEEKEE - I just saw that thread and responded to it 2 minutes ago. I did not see it b4. I am also against hitting and spanking as a form of discipline. I have never felt that instilling fear in your child is appropriate for a parent. I never want my child to be afraid of me. That is my way and I am not preaching that to anyone here so please, no screaming at me:)

 

kEEKEE - July 10

Damn, I didn't mean to sound like I was screaming. It just p__s me off when women hit on their kids. I got overheated!!! I'm steaming here..I am very protective of kids. Its in my nature. I'm sorry, if you feel like I'm screaming at you. .......Soooooooooo Sorrrry!!!!......heeheee.....I need to stay away from kid topics about popping. I'm ready to b__w...heeeheee....Tons of hugs!!!!.............Smooches!!!!

 

E - July 10

I didn't think you were screaming at all:) I was directing that to future posts after I stated I am against hitting children. Smooches to all mommies!!

 

kEEKEE - July 10

Cool!!!! Speaking of toddlers...Mines is pulling my cat's tail....I got to go!!!.....Have a great evening everyone!!!!!

 

Toya - July 10

Like Stephanie, my baby is only 9 weeks old (thank God.:) ) so I have some months left before worrying about discipline. I don't know if any of you watch Nanny 911...but I love that show and the nannies are really great about enforcing child development tactics. One thing they did on Nanny 911 was get down to the child's level so that there is eye to eye contact and then they said "no". There is something about that close eye to eye...But parenting is trial and error...thank God children are resilient!...and parents too. :)

 

E - July 10

I love Nanny 911!! Most of the time it is the parents that need the discipline and the kids seem to behave better after the parents get their sh*t together.

 

Skyfeather - July 10

E no I am not angelas mother though I wish I was. She is my fiance's first daughter with his first marriage. Angelas mother is messed int eh head and leaves her with anyone including her own mother who abused the c___p out of her as a child and has been fired from many jobs because she has used excessive force with children. We are currently going to court trying to get dual placement of her with outlines that state that she can not be left at her mothers mothers house unless her mother is there to supervise at all times. On the note of hitting children, I dont hit we lightly "slap" which can be considered hitting yes. But to actually "hit" a child where a mark even if it only lasts for a few seconds is not somthing we do. Take your hands and lightly "play" drums on your desk. Thats a slap for us. Parenting and dicsliping children is each parents choice, but if you cause an actual physical pain then Im not for it personally. I grew up where I was both physically abused and verbally/emotionally and till this day I get upset if someone raises a voice even if not directed at me. But I believe emotional damage is worse for me it is, Id rather get hit because bruises heal but for me my emotional damage will always be there, but I will never hit a child

 

Skyfeather - July 10

On another note I think maybe we should end this post. Im not saying anyones views are wrong Im just afraid of this getting out of ahnd like Ive seen in in other forums on touchy subjects such as this. So far since Ive been here Ive seen everyone express there views and everyone either excepting them and not saying they disagree rudely or either they just dont touch the subject and I personally like the calm. I get enough rough see's in real life here when I deal with other people in person. Im anti social lol when it comes to people getting near me but I like talking.

 

Lisa - July 11

You might have to keep the cat food in a place that isn't accessible for her, or up high where she can't find it. I think the only way to prevent accidents in the home is to go through and child proof the house as best you can. She is still very young, curious and learning about her surroundings, it's up to you to keep her in a safe environment. Maybe you could just try diverting her attention away from dangerous areas? As you get bigger during the pregnancy you won't be able to react or move as quick, so that could help you later on. Being a parent is a very stressful job sometimes, we should do our best to minimise day to day stress so that we can have more fun and enjoy them while they are so young, its really only a short time that they are young.

 

Steph - July 11

Here's my advice..my daughter is seven, so I have been there, done that...:o) and trying for that again!! Hee hee... Anyways, fifteen months is not very old...but I can understand why you would want to slap her hand when she touches the outlet, which should have protectors on it. In any event, it was my experience that the best way (for my daughter) was to tell her no, pick her up and give her something appropriate to do. Fifteen months old is not very old and they are exploring greatly at that age, and it is your responsibility to make sure that your house is baby proofed so that there is nothing that she can really get in trouble for. Getting into the cat bowl is not something that I would slap a child's hand for, but screwing around with electric cords, i.e., biting them like my daughter did, I flicked her in the mouth hard enough to make her cry. She did that at about 12 months old, and the reason why I did it was to show her that doing that is not okay AT all and she never did it again. When it is something that is dangerous and potentially life threatening, then being more firm is appropriate. You don't really have to hurt them, but more so have severe disappointment/madness in your voice that they are able to tell that they did something wrong. I did the same thing my daughte was two and walked off the sidewalk into the street. I grabbed her and swatted her little behind because she needs to know that you don't go into the street. I don't think that it is very effective to say in a sweet voice, oh honey, no no, get out of the street and pick them up. (and I am not talking in the middle of the street, but two steps off the sidewalk). Anyways, there's my rambling. If others' suggestions don't work for you, then you should talk to your daughters doc and see what he/she has to say. Good Luck.

 

Angelina - July 11

Just for the record, we have outlet protecters on our plugs.She tries to pull them out.I try to redirect her attention towards something else but she kust runs backk and laughs thinking im playing.When i try the play pin punishment, she just climbs out unless i stand there pushing her leg off the side.It doesnt help to put her in her play pin when she does wrong either because when its time for nap she thinks shes in trouble.and another thing, keekee, i dont beat her .I just lightly pop her hand.Im not horrible because i choose to spank or hit my kids and you dont.Everyone has their own opinions about it.I dont have an anger problem either.Just because i pop her dont mean im hurting her or that im in an out of control rage and beating her.Its just a little pop and if you dont think its right then thats you.You are free to have that opinion.Just dont critisize me because we have different beliefs.

 

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