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You really need to be best friends. Compromising is so important but the #1 thing is trust....you need to have trust in your marrisge other wise...forget it, it is not going to work out. Oh plus respect....and try to keep the romance going...with kids sometimes the romance can go away.

I think the most important thing is trust

My mother always told me the key to their marriage is that my father was an out of town business man! It gave them space and a chance to miss eachother. I quess it makes sense they've been married for 27 years.

The first few years are hard! We got married June 7, 2003 and it has been quite an adjustment. We dated for 5 years before getting married but never lived together. It shocking how many things you don't know about someone until you share a home with them!

Well, this is my second marriage and we've only been married a year, but considering my first marriage lasted only 5 months, and was hell on earth, I think I'm doing ok now. I discovered that part of the secret of a happy marriage, is to marry someone you actually like! :)

I think lots of people argue the first few years of a marriage...after that it get kind of pointless, because you each know what the other is going to say, and because it's tiresome having your husband slinking around like a kicked puppy for days afterwards. Then, too, you realize you can't really change a man, so you just get used to his little personality quirks (my husband: not eating anything with sauce on certain days, spending an hour a day in the bathroom reading a book, owning 7 remote controls, 4 of which do the same thing and are backups for each other).

Always stay best friends first like you first met though out your marriage don't keep secrets, communicate communicate and communicate. Always remember that your spouse is your first love. never go to bed angry hope these suggestion help

I agree with monica. You really do need to be best friends. Mutual respect for each other and for each others space is a must, too. It helps to be able to do your own thing, and not always have to do everything together. We got married 6 years ago after living together for 3, so that helpd. We pretty much knew what we were getting ourselves into!

rofl Jbear. You know, right after the 2 year mark is when things changed for my husband and I. My DH and I cannot stay mad at each other for more than 30 minutes. Our main problem was communication. I had a fiesty mouth and he shut down all the time...Now it's like, we are best friends. I can trust him with personal issues that I brought to the marriage and I feel safe with him. Jbear you are so right, it took us 2 years to realize that we were having the same argument over and over again. I appreciate him so much more now, knowing all sides of him...not just the good ones.

I think it is just accepting somebody for who they are, supporting them, not finincially, and be good friends. Having two bathrooms helps too! I've been married 3 yrs and 3 mos!

Communication, honesty and some more communication. Oh yeah and throw some respect in there too. My dh and I have been married for almost 2yrs and when we are talking about everything we are happy. When we don't talk, we walk frustrated and disturbed. About the respect thing.....a lack of respect for one another leads to very unhappy people. We do not call each other names when we have an argument bc I don't think that that is helpful.

I think trust is such a big issue. I trust my husband and he trusts me. Laughter is another one. We laugh all the time. When we were about to get married, our pastor gave us some advice- Never go to bed without each other. Well, 5 years later we've only gone to bed seperately a handful of times. I think that was a very sweet and practical piece of advice.

I forgot trust, my brain does not work. Definitely the most important. What good is a marriage if you don't trust your spouse?

What is important for us is that we had a long history prior to even dating each other. We were friends for a year first, and took it further after lots of examination, and hot hormones. We have so much to laugh about due to the history we share with each other. It's nice that we did not meet in a bar and begin dating on such a premise. Any other man that I have met while "out" and went on an official date with, did not work out. We found out we were never friends in the first place.

communication and trust tie for the most important, i think. followed very closely by compromise and forgiveness. also, i think a sense of humor is important. if i didn't laugh about some of the dumb things that guys do i'd just explode.

I think the key to marriage is not getting a divorce...just kidding. DH and I have been together almost 9 years.I love him to death and he is my best friend.I trust him 100% and he trust me.We also give each other space.I think it's important for him to go out once in a while with his friend and he likes it if i go shopping with a girlfriend.My mom babysits Jesse often so DH and me can have some time together.It is important to be totally comfortable with each other.Sometimes we are both on the computer,in the same room but we still enjoy "being together".I am still so in love with him.He has his things and so do I,and with a problem we talk about it and if i am really upset I write him a letter....that way he can't interupt me and he gets the point better.