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Boy. you have a MIL from Hell!!!!! Damn, you haven't married her son yet...heeeheee....I hate to see what happens once you are married. I know how you feel. I am known as the B___h to my hubby's family. Just because I speak my mind. It sounds like you need to do the same. Sad but true.....Why did your MIL give your baby a bath? What is she trying to say. I think its rude....If my MIL would have gave my 2 month old baby juice, DH would had to hold me back!!! No a 2 month old should not be given juice. My peditrician said to wait until your baby is 6 months along for juice. Plus juice is unnecessary. Babies don't need juice. Juice can rot teeth( ever when babies don't have teeth). Infants don't need extra sugar. Breast-milk/formula is all a baby need for the first 6 months of life. Mil was in the wrong. You need to put your foot down. You are the mother not her. Tell her that. Yes, feelings get hurt. So what!!! She has over stepped her line. She needs to stay in her place. She is making life hurt for you. What have your bf done about this???

Nicole, it may be best to stay away from grandma. She seem to have issues. Grandma is not respecting you as a parent. I would find you a new sitter. Her smoking is enough to keep your baby away from her. Smoke is linked to SIDS. Her giving your child juice is interfering with your b___st-feeding. Your milk supply can go down when your son prefer juice. Juice do more damage than good. Newborns only need b___st-milk. It is time to make a serious choice. What is best for you and your son? Once your son is away from Grandma giving him juice, he should be able to start b___st-feeding regularly again. His skin would stop peeling/drying from the unnecessary bathing. No more worrying about smoking and being disrespected. The choice is your.

I agree with KEEKEE. Baby's do not need anything except b___stmilk/ formula until 4-6 months. Smoking is a BIG no-no to us around Amaya. It has been hard, but she isnt allowed to go to my grandmothers house because of all of the smoke. If they want to see her then they come to our house or a mutual ground. It is just unhealthy. Smoking is one of the beliefs of SIDS. Also, if she is giving him 3-4 bottles during a 3-4 hour period, that is WAY unhealthy, especially if she fits juice in there with it. If I were you I would try pumping so when he does latch on, once he is done you can give him a bottle of b___stmilk. If that doesnt help, take her to the doctor with you the next time you go and let her hear first hand how bad it is for baby's. I would make your bf talk to her and if he doesnt then I would for sure. I would let her know just how you feel and that you may be a new mom but you know what you want for you baby and that is that. If she doesnt like it then OH WELL! oh yeah, one more thing, depending on what type of juice she is giving him, he can either get dehydrated or constipated. If it is like prune juice then he will poop and pee WAY too much and not be able to keep anything in. And I think apple juice constipates babys. I am sorry you have to go through this. Good luck.

Well i dont have these problems yet but my advice would be to tell her you appreciate what she has done but she had her chance to raise her children and now its yours.Tell her if shes going to give the baby something then she needs to ask you first.I dont think babys that young are supposed to have juice.I dont think itll hurt him but with my first daughter i waited until she was 5 months.

I had to take my mom to the doctor with me so the doc could tell her that sleeping on her tummy is bad. She also thought Amaya needed cereal in her bottle from day one. Since she heard it from the doctor she now knows to ask me because I probably already know the answer. Things have changed since our parents had babies. Back then babys might have needed juice because formula wasnt great. they didnt know near as much as they do now. They also bathed babys more because they thought that is why they had cradle cap and baby acne (not enough baths) They now know that it is ok to go a few days without a bath for babys (although we give Amaya one every night before bed) Really though, b___stmilk is very sweet. There is no reason that any baby needs more sugar than they naturally take in anyway. I would ask her if she wants to go with you then she can ask all the questions she wants to or if she thinks you are doing a bad job raising him then she can let the doctor tell her SHE is the one in the wrong.

If it were my baby I would be keeping her the hell away from this woman just for the smoking alone. Who the hell smokes around babies anymore? Gross. It's normal for babies to adjust thier bm timetables around two months btw. My daughter did and she was only b___stfed. I'm now giving her rice cereal on doctors orders (he also said to give her veggies and fruit but I draw the line at cereal). I know it'll be tough for you but I would seriously curtail any outings without him unless it's really important. If she wants to see her grandson she can come and visit him and go outside for her cigarettes. That way you know she can't give him formula which, I believe, is screwing up your bf. You're going to have to be really tough about this. It comes down to her "hurt" feelings over the health your son, not to mention your future relationship with him. I really think you need to put your foot down now.

OH MY GOD Nicole! How are you even dealing with this. If I were you I would disappear for a little while. Do not bring the baby over there to your bf's mom and screen your phone calls. I cannot think of it now but did anyone ever see that movie with Gwenyth Paltrow and she had a baby and all the crazy stuff the mother-in-law did???!!!! You really need to stand up to this woman Nicole and tell her NO juice, NO bath, no anything that you haven't okayed. You are that baby's mother, not her! Best of luck to you. I think I would have killed the woman by now!

Oh yeah well my mil babysat for four hrs one day-never changed her(3mo) and I came home and she was covered in poop! dried on!!!!and my husband defends her till his face turns blue! She said she didn't know! I smelt her when I walked in the room! and my husband wants me to let her watch her again!!!!Huge Fight for the past 2 weeks!

Oh ladies, can i ever relate. My mil holds my son while she smokes, she tried to give him icing off a cake at three weeks old, the one time i let her babysit it was so we could go grocery shopping and in three hours she didn't change him OR feed him.. I could hear him screaming (he was three months old) from the driveway when we pulled up and all she had to say was "we were having fun". She is legally blind and decided to take my son on a walk one day, by herself, without even telling us. My hubby caught her half way down the road (our son was about a year and a half then) and told her it wasn't safe, you should have told us. She said "well if i told you, you would have said no" he told her it was because if he got away from her she wouldn't be able to catch him and he could run out into traffic.. she started saying that wasn't true, but just then he DID get away from her and ran into the street and she just stood there waiting for DH to go get him. She lets him do whatever he wants while we are there, even when i say no. She kept giving him french fries, DH told her not to, she just kept giving them to him saying "daddy said no, but your at grandmas and she says you can" he told her AGAIN to stop and she just told our son "grandma's not allowed to give you anymore fries, so you have to ask grandpa and he'll give you them instead". She had my FIL pull me aside when my son we four weeks old to tell me that "WE think you should be letting your baby cry for 15 or 20min instead of feeding him right away.. His lungs need to develope and he'll never learn to talk" This was after she had been saying it since the day he was born.. i tried to explain that if my new born baby was hungry, i was going to feed him, not to mention it made my b___sts leak. I have had nothing but problems with this woman since DH and i started dating. His dad, siblings, everyone else is so nice, and so wonderful and i love them so much, so i would never want to say anything to her to antagonize myself. Dh has said lots of things to her since day one, but she doesn't take him seriously in the least she just says "well i raised you, and two other kids, so i know alot more than you do".. which is beyond the point. ARG.. atleast i'm pregnant again.. she's so nice to me when i'm pregnant.. but we'll have a whole new world of problems once this one arrives. Oh well, 8 months of peace is still nice.

oh i forgot to mention.. to top it all off she was JEALIOUS that i b___stfed because i was 'taking him away from her'. and when she heard me burping in between switching b___sts, she would try to snatch him out of my arms saying "let me do that.. grandma does it better".