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The past week, I feel like I am losing it and taking it out on my husband. Part of me feels like it's his fault for asking such stupid questions, getting home later than he said, and not thinking of my needs, but the other half of me knows I am overreacting. Still, I feel like I can't help but feel disappointed in him when he asks me dumb sh*t. I take care of a baby all day and when he gets home, I need him to be on top of the game. I don't want to have to explain to him that when I ask him to "bring some C batteries home tomorrow", for Aja's new toys, that it means he may have to stop and purchase them first. He said, "What do you mean? Do I need to stop by somewhere and buy some?". I actually said, "NO! Grow them in your f*cking lab!". There is no excuse for my rudeness, but I feel so let down by this. I want him to remember to put a toy in Aja's crib if he is having some quiet time, and not to leave him with nothing to play with or touch. -- Thanks for listening. He feels so hurt by me and told me last night that he thinks I don't like him and "his heart hurts". That made me so sad bc I do like him most of the time, but not always.
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It's normal! We all go through it. I get so upset when I get impatient and annoyed with dh, I try not to, but I can't help it sometimes. He justdoesn't read my mind enough!LOL! My dh tries so hard and he loves Lucas, but I feel like he just doesn't get it sometimes. Because I am the mom and know how to soothe and give Lucas exactly what he needs without having to guess, and most men do not have the capacity, as well as they mean. It upsets my dh too when he thinks he is not making me happy or I am crabby with him. I overeact and I realize that he can't read my mind, and I should communicate myself a little better. Our poor Dh's, they do take a beating from us women. Just wanted you to know that you are not alone!
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awww. you two sound like me and my dh but in reverse. i'm supersensitive to anything he says, even though i know he doesn't mean it. and he feels bad when i get upset. of course there have been many times where i've snapped at him lately too. i think this is just a stressful time in our lives, with the new addition. it will get better!!!! just communicate and make sure you apologize when you fly off the handle at him, i guess. be extra cuddly and kissy if he feels like you don't care and keep telling him how much you love him.
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You sound just like me right after we had our son!! I felt as though he was gone all day and when he got home it was time to relax-well-when is my time to relax?? He got on the ball after the first year of arguing and sitting down to talk. It took a while to convince him that he doesn't remember a thing that I tell him-but now he sees as I have pointed it out sooo many times!! But don't forget, kids are for 18 years (hopefully) but your marriage is forever- always find a way to get back to that-that is what keeps me together!
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I was so happy the week I was ovulating...I was all over him, to put it lightly. Now I am a beast. PMS, maybe? He works really, and I mean really hard to put food on our table and a roof over our heads. I should be more grateful and recognize that he may be tired as well. Darn, I wish it was easier to let "The Dumb Things Men Say" slide...
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That's usually where the issue occurs, I am fine with him until he says something stupid!LOL!
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I think we all go a little stir crazy when we are on mom duty 24/7. I feel like I am always asking my fiance to do things that he should know to do. It sounds to me like you need a night out with the girls or an evening alone with your hubby. Try not to get to down on yourself just try to put some time aside for eachother.
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speaking of dumb things they say..I hate....hate, hate when he comes home and says "what'd you do all day?' and I tell him same old same old, and he says "that's it?" This always starts a fight because before our son, I worked and made more $$ than him. But when I work, nothing gets done around the house, we don't see each other and we ended up fighting all the time. So I quite, and now I stay at home. But, every time this comes up, I turn into a b___h and rightfully so (I think) bc I bust my a__s around here to take care of our son-who is very much mobile and into everything, cleaning, cooking, and laundry-everything I do!!! And when he says-"thats it?" I get soo p__sed. I say, "do you want me to go back to work?? Because I can get a job if you think I don't do anything around here!!" Oh, and now that I am pregnant with our second, I have been real tired-so I have been slacking around the house, he says"I can't wait till you have the baby so things can go back to the way they used to..." Becasue he has to help more now, he understands but just says things that p__s me off....sorry, :) needed to vent!!
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I'm in the same boat as you. My hubby always tells me that he misses the old me. I've become so short fused with him since I had the baby (8 months ago... i know no excuse) that I'm always a b___h. I just can't help it. He's so stupid sometimes and it irritates me. And, I just don't understand why he can only do one thing at a time... it p__ses me off so bad. He's so not multi-tasked.
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cant stand my dh right now.....thats all I can say......
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They do say the dumbest stuff. He told me that he was coming home early the other day, so I said that I would like to get my hair cut and go shopping at whole foods, SANS the baby and him. He said that he did not plan a half day just to watch our son. WTH... That set me off. I have not had my hair professionaly cut since my pregnancy!!! I have no friends here, no family here, and never get out. Not ever! He goes out to lunch with coworkers everyday and gets to socialize. I sit on a computer with e-friends, no offense girls... The thought of a haircut actually made me feel like I was going to a friggin spa! That's how little I do. Needless to say, I went to bed early and very mad that night. He apologized, as he always does, but I want it to stop in the first place.
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Narc...I feel for you. when I was on maternity leave I felt just like that.....I finally got a haircut the other day and it made me feel great. My DH comes home late at night sometimes....and it gets on my nerves because I work full time and I have to come home fix my 5 year old dinner, while my 4 month old is crying his head off...i am running around like a chicken without a head.I have not been able to go out in a long time with out the kids. Yesterday I needed to go to target and after being there for 5 minutes he calls me because Caleb is crying and he doesnt know what to do ....so I have to rush home.
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I really don't know what the deal is with men.They can say and DO the dumbest stuff ever.I really get agravated when for instance I am trying to get our baby to sleep for the night and he starts yelling at the dog.That startles the baby right away and it takes me a while to get him back to relax so he can sleep.He knows it takes about 20-25 minEVERY NIGHT,can't he just be quiet for a little while.Oh since I am venting anyways,what really IRRITATES me is when Jesse starts crying he says:fussy!! hey fussy (in a nice voice a have to say),sh*t,if the baby is fussing it is because either he is hungry or needs a diaper change.he knows that,why can't he get off his b___t and do one or the other? Grrr,men!!
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My dh does that too. He calls to Lucas, "hey, little man, don't cry, its okay" Get up off your lazy a__s and figure out what's wrong with him. He doesn't understand you, you idiot! He needs something! Aaagh! Drives me bonkers!
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I hope DH notices the haircut I just gave myself...Took off 5 inches on my own. Someone please tell me the uneven look is in right now??
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LOl, Narcissus! Have you seen that Nestle Tea commercial, where the lady got a really bad hair cut? And her friend is saying, "it doesn't look bad!" The lady was bawling so bad? LMAO everytime I see it!
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I should take a pic of my bathroom floor and put it on my piczo site, lol!!
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