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????So your saying that im wrong for popping her hand when shes wrong? Im sure you must have kidc.What do i do? let her get away with it?

Angelina, I know you are doing what you think is best for your baby. As a mom and a teacher, I just want to share my own experience. My youngest son is 22 months old and gets into everything. When he does something that he shouldn't do I tell him firmly "no" and redirect him to something else. If he goes back to it, I repeat the same thing. If he does it a third time, I put him in a playpen for a minute. He typically doesn't do it again, until he decides to test it out again the next day. :0) Toddlers test you constantly. You just need to be consistant. Let me give you an example of why hitting is not a good idea. I have a family member that gives her kids a little smack whenever they do something wrong. Her children think nothing of hitting other children whenever they feel like it. People in my family cringe when they see them pull up to family functions. The most bizarre thing is that when her kids hit someone else's kids.....she smacks them. They learn by example. You can't explain that it is ok for you to hit and it isn't ok for them to hit back. You are right, you can't just let her do things that she shouldn't do. Just understand that she is still a baby and she needs to learn how to behave just like anything else she will need to learn. Things need to be repeated over and over before they stick. It wasn't meant to be a lecture just advice. Good luck.

I think Jennifer B is right. Angelina, you not only stated that you hit her hand but also her bottom when she removes her diapers. I know that is frustrating for you to have to repeat yourself over and over again but I also feel that removing the baby from whatever she is getting into or taking the item away form her is better. In regards to her diapers, can you put something on top so it is more difficult for her to remove them like little shorts with b___tons, even a little one peice swimsuit? Also remember at this time it may even be easier to distract her with something else, another item to play with etc...but please don't think that hitting is going to solve anything. It doesn't, it teaches her to react in the same way. That is probably why she is doing it to you. Besides she is to little to really to understand why she shouldn't do certain things.

Jennifer B. and Liz, thanks for not jumping down my throat about me popping my child.I know it will not technically solve nothing but sometimes it works.I dont pop her enough to leave a red mark or nothing just to let her know im serious about what im saying.She sometimes listens and redirects her attention to something else(like the kitten she loves to torture).Everyone is making it seem like im beating the girl or something.Everyone says "Go to parenting cla__ses!!!". I have been to parenting cla__ses.They are the ones who told me it was ok to lightly pop her and put her attention to something else but they also suggested popping not being in my best intrest because it can teach her to hit.I am not a bad mom because im only 17 and im pregnant again.I didnt ask anyones opinions about me being a good or a bad mom.and i want to thank yall for not preaching that im horrible for being so young or anything.Its nice to know there are a few good thinking moms on this site with respect and open minds.

Hey Angelina well I don't think popping your kid will help her learn that what she is doing is wrong. Like the other ladies have mentioned, when she does something wrong firmly say NO. And then if she does it again say no again. And if still she does it again put her in time out, maybe in another room or something without toys, so that she knows she is being punished. You will have to keep doing this every time this happens so that it sticks in her brain that what she is doing is a no-no. My daughter is almost, just almost 6 mo. and she crawls everywhere and tries to get into anything she can and anything she finds will go directly in her mouth. Everytime she does that I tell her no and just move her somewhere else. I know she doesnt understand this now but hopefully it will stick. I man these girls are only babies still you know. Well good luck.

Wow, well i dont think spanking is the right choice. It is just teaching them that if someone does something they are not suppose to then hitting is okay. If you cant handle one toddler then why get pregnant yet again? I wish you all the luck in the world, because you sure need it.

Well im glad we all have opinions about the popping subject.Im not going to sit here and aruge the right to pop the child i gave birth to.I understand that you all think i am wrong and thats fine.I planned on trying some of the techniques that you other moms were kind enough to give.I appreciate the moms who gave me good advice and im going to leave it at that.For all the moms on here who have jumped down my throat, please be kind enough to leave the subject at that and not try to make it seem like im beating the poor girl.

I read the funny story post. I definately suggest redirecting your daughter when she tries to eat the cat. lol

Before you make a comment to this girl, read her other threads. She hit this baby. Angelwhoever think it is ok to hit babies. She even try to sugar coat it by calling it popping. She get upset when people try to tell her its wrong. I wouldn't waste my time with this girl.....Good luck everyone!!!!

keekee how old are you? i read what everyone has posted on this and i noticed you said she was not mature enough to have a baby or even two.why is it that shes not mature enough to have a kid yet you are the one acting immature?she only has different ways of teaching her child no.just because she dont do it your way does not mean shes a bad mom.she asked you to stop ragging on her and move on so why not act your age and do it....unless you are the age you areacting....

We all Know Angelina wrote this last post.

You don't need to be beating her to be mistreating her.

Ok, before all you teen moms start having a fit, I don't think all Teen mom are immature. Popping is Hitting...When you hit your baby over baby behavior, you don't need to be a parent. Sugar coating hitting, by calling it popping don't make it right. I am 29 years old. I wasn't a teen mom. Good Luck!!!

Wow.I have to say im embarra__sed at how these women who say that are "grown" are acting.Keekee im 29 also and for some] reason i dont feel you are completely right.She is a teen mom but just because she is younger and she hits her childs hand doesnt make her a horrible mother.You are over reacting about her hitting her childs hands.I also hit my 18 months old sons hand when he touches things hes not supposed to.I could point at him and he yells like i beat him half to death.Im not saying spanking your child is right but i dont see nothing wrong with an occasional pop on the hands every now and then if they dont listen to anything you say.Now Angelina, im not saying go spank your child every time she does wrong.What i am saying is that i dont see anything wrong with it as long as you are not leaving any kind of marks.Good luck with your daughter.Oh, by the way.Do you know what yor going to have yet?

Damn u 24 weeks pg. with ur second kid? You know there is such a thing as birth control. Things are going to get harder with 2, you just have to stay calm and be patient. Dont hit your kids, later on they will lash out on you.

Let me just give another example of what hitting may do farther down the line. My stepson is 17 and high functioning autistic. He is very difficult to handle sometimes. His mother often hit him to try to get him to do what she wanted . By the age of 12 he had gotten much stronger and when he hit her back she was afraid of him. She had created her own monster. My husband and I got custody of him because she couldn't handle him anymore. He has been with us for almost six years and at 17 he is 6'4" 180 pounds. Luckily, after a ton of struggling and hard work, we taught him that he could not hit us. A few months ago he got angry at me and kicked me. I didn't say a word. I walked into his room and took his cd player. I walked across the yard with it and threw it into the dumpster. I could not have hit him harder and I did it without lifting a finger. Hitting may get the result that you want at first, but at some point it stops working and backfires. I suppose that there are many children that fear their parents and behave because of it. Personally, I would rather die than have my child ever fear me. Don't get me wrong, my little one wont walk all over me. Some people just confuse fear with respect. It isn't the same. I know that some people are thinking, 'it is just a smack on the hand' What happens when that doesn't work anymore?