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Let me just give another example of what hitting may do farther down the line. My stepson is 17 and high functioning autistic. He is very difficult to handle sometimes. His mother often hit him to try to get him to do what she wanted . By the age of 12 he had gotten much stronger and when he hit her back she was afraid of him. She had created her own monster. My husband and I got custody of him because she couldn't handle him anymore. He has been with us for almost six years and at 17 he is 6'4" 180 pounds. Luckily, after a ton of struggling and hard work, we taught him that he could not hit us. A few months ago he got angry at me and kicked me. I didn't say a word. I walked into his room and took his cd player. I walked across the yard with it and threw it into the dumpster. I could not have hit him harder and I did it without lifting a finger. Hitting may get the result that you want at first, but at some point it stops working and backfires. I suppose that there are many children that fear their parents and behave because of it. Personally, I would rather die than have my child ever fear me. Don't get me wrong, my little one wont walk all over me. Some people just confuse fear with respect. It isn't the same. I know that some people are thinking, 'it is just a smack on the hand' What happens when that doesn't work anymore?

Sarah, you need to read all the posts before you make a comment. I have my right to make an opinion. You have a right to yours. I am not the only one who feel this way. Hitting is popping...Sugar coating it won't make it right.

Btw, I would be more embarra__sed if I hit my baby over normal toddler behavior. I am not embarra__sed over my comments. Jennifer is right, I also have a special needs child. Imagine if I hit him and now at 9, he started to lash out. Lucky he's gently and friendly. Hitting/popping leads to babies turning into Bullies. They will lash out like Gisele said. Sooner or later, these children will act out because of the spankings. I'm sorry, that is how I feel. Good luck.....Jennifer, you are an amazing woman for taking over as mom for your stepson. I have worked and my son went to school with autistic kids. So, I know how hard it could be some days. God Bless, God will bless you for being such a good person.........Smooches

Thank you KEEKEE, that actually brought tears to my eyes. I hope that your son continues to improve. It sounds as though you have fought hard for him. When we give up, they give up. He is lucky to have you. :0)

I read all the postings and I still think you are wrong Keekee.Angelina is not completely wrong but shes not all the way right either.She needs to know that spanking her daughter for taking off her diaper will only make things harder in the long run.The daughter may not want to potty train when it comes time but I have been through the diaper removal thing and its hard.I had to ductape my sons diaper on because he removed anything i put on him from overalls to pants.I read alot where you attacked her about her hitting or popping her child.I dont think she would be comming back as i notice she is,if she wasnt open to the options yall would like to give her.I noticed on one of her post that it asked if there was any other way then popping or hitting.And how do you sugar coat hitting or popping a child?I thought they meant the same thing?Some people just have a different way of saying things.Maybe she is country or something.(no offence Angelina)But maybe if you would try to be nice about the situation and offer some good advice as how to deal with it in other ways then maybe she would listen a little more.I dont think i would listen to you either if you lashed out at me calling me a bad mom because im a teen and about how i didnt learn my lesson the first time.How do you know she has a temper?I hit my sons hands when he was around 16 months and hes now 10 and he doesnt bully anyone.And now on my second son i hit his hands and he listens.We are all different but you have to realise that just because we all raise our children differently doesnt mean we are bad moms.Angelina, can i suggest that you put her diaper on backwards or ductape works.lol.And why were you in cps until you were 15 may i ask?

I am a little tired of explaining myself. Ok, if that is how you feel, so be it. I still feel the same way. I am not taking back any of my comments......Jennifer, you are welcome. Thank you so very much for your nice comment. It take a special person to take care of a special child. You are so right about giving up. I will never give up on Avery. You sound like you will never give up either. Tons of Blessings for you and your family......Smooches!!!

Sarah, im having a boy.We found out the other day.My fiance' was so excited. Him watching the baby move was like a kid in a candy store.It was so awesome.I dont mind at all telling you why i was in cps.When all that stuff happened with that Andrea Yates lady and my mom saw it on the channel 2 news, my mom called them to tell them that maybe she did ask for help before she killed her kids but no one listened.We lived down the road from the house she killed her kids in, in Clearlake.Long before she killed her kids though.Anyways, they took it as if my mom was asking for help and thought she was going to do the same so they called cps and they came and took us that sam day andrea yates got taken into custody.June 20,2001

Im really sorry to hear that Angelina.I heard about that Andrea Yates lady.That was really sad.Congrats on your lil boy and good luck to you.