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Hi dear OP! I'm so sorry for your situation of not being able to have children. Surrogacy sounds like it's your only option if you want to have children that share a genetic connection with you. You're right there were and still are many cases of intended parents falling into serious problems during surrogacy arrangements. 

European countries are the best to consider in my opinion. Most of them have strict laws on who can go through the program on both sides(parents and surrogates). Also the parentage of the child is based upon DNA matching and not who gives birth. 

Prices there tend to come up to almost a third of the price in USA. Plus you get the legal backing you need when it comes to assigning parentage. Deciding on surrogacy is a very important step for a couple. We made our choice very profoundly. Moreover, there're so many options now. 

Apart of price, I would take into consideration such criteria as: legal support, guarantee, number of attempts, compensation for surrogate and donor, waiting time, requirements for surrogates and donors, pediatrician service, vaccination. All info you can find either on official websites of clinics or via contacting clinics by mail. 

I hope I've helped you a little with some of your doubts. If you have any questions or just need to chat feel free to talk to me.

Thank you so much for your kind response. You're not the first one who tells me about Europe! I'll definitely pay more attention to it. I was afraid that surrogate mother may refuse to give us our baby. I'm glad to know that there is guarantee this won't happen. The price is huge problem for us. The fact that there are cheaper options is so relieving. Thank you for telling me all this info. You helped a lot! Thanks to you I know more details so I can move further. May I ask you a couple more questions? How did you find your surrogate? How much time did you spend to find her?

I'm sorry about your situation. First of all I have to say that your ex-husband is an asshole. He cheated on you and left you when you needed him the most. Moreover he told you all those horrible things. That's actually great that he took off. We don't need men who are not able to feel and understand! They are just cowards. I'm happy you've met your love and now you're happy together. 

Your thoughts about your friends getting pregnant/becoming parents are absolutely normal in our situation. I know how it feels when everyone around telling you about their pregnancies and you just feel so miserable and don't understand what you’ve done to deserve all this. These feelings are so familiar to me. I think they are close to many girls here. These thoughts don't make you a bad person. We struggle because of our infertility and some people just don't get it because they don't have it. There are so many words I want to say to my family/friends but I can't and I won't. Some people won't understand. Some of them may be offended so it will be better if I will keep silence and sob quietly in bathroom. Though we will keep these words to ourselves but we still can share them here. 

We used a clinic of reproductive medicine. It ruled the whole process. It took our clinic less than 3 months to find sm for us. I don’t think it’s long. You will have to wait longer if you have surrogacy for example in UK, Canada, Australia and New Zealand. As only altruistic surrogacy is legal there, you’ll have to find sm by yourself or wait for a “volunteer” who would carry your baby. 

Pay attention to laws regarding surrogacy. They are different in each country. At some countries(for example in Russia) you will have to go through adoption after your sm gives birth. So sm is considered a mother of a child. There is a risk she may refuse to give a baby back to intended parents. Georgia and Ukraine have now emerged as the next surrogacy hubs as there are no laws or rules so far governing the sector.

Hello everyone who is reading my thread! I'm still in search for information about surrogacy. At the moment there is nothing special I can update you with. Thank you so much reply! Something happened and I decided to write about it here. Last month my best friend had a miscarriage. It was her first pregnancy. She lost her baby on 7th month. All this time I've been with her trying to support and comfort her. I was really happy when she got pregnant. I can say that I wasn't jealous because it would be a lie. But she's my friend and of course I was happy for her. A couple of days ago we were at her apartment and she was telling me about her feelings. It should be mentioned that her husband took some of his stuff and just left. That was shocking news for me actually. He seemed to me very nice and supportive person. I can’t say that we were friends with him but still sometimes we went for a dinner with my friend, her husband and my husband. When she called me in the middle of a night and told that he left I was surprised by his behavior. Especially in the situation when my friend needs support the most. She asked me to move to her apartment for some time because she couldn't stay alone. First couple of days she almost didn't say a word. Then she started open up a little and shared her emotions with me. I tried to do everything possible to help her sooth her pain at least a little bit. But she told me things which really hurt me... When I was calming her down she told me something like "lucky you, because you never have to face a miscarriage". It was kind of painful to hear such thing. I didn't tell her anything about it. Then she told me "you are infertile, you will never understand my feelings". I don't know maybe she's right but it feels not right to me.

I'm so sorry for such a long post. I didn't think it will turn out to be that big. I really don't want to seem selfish. I understand my friend is now in a very hard situation. Losing a baby is very painful. I have no idea how hard it is for her to go through this. But now I feel myself so small... I feel like I'm nothing. I feel like she meant that I'm nothing. Yes I was born without a uterus. I will never be able to carry my baby. But I'm a woman! I want to have kids more than anything else! And she was telling those words like I'm not a woman but some creature who don't have feelings at all. I didn't want to argue with her or defend myself. I just continued supporting her because now she has no one but me. I don't think I will ever rise this topic. Maybe she told such things because she was very emotional... But for me it was like a knife into my heart. After her words I feel myself so miserable... I have no one to talk about this situation. I decided not to tell my husband about it. That's why I came here... Sorry for such a long post. I'm just looking for understanding.

Hello everyone who is reading my thread! How are you? I hope you are doing well. I'm so sorry I wasn't active for a while. I have nothing special to update you with. But I really missed this board and decided to share what's going on in my life. First of all I should say I'm very positive about surrogacy now! All those doubts I had are now gone! My husband and I discussed this option very thoroughly and now we are fully onboard. So now I'm spending all my free time looking for information. Thank you so much for all advises and support! I hope that we will start our journey soon. That's why I want to find centers which we can address to have surrogacy. I will be really grateful if you share your experience with me! Or maybe you know agencies or clinics which can help us. Actually we decided to go straight with a clinic and do not use any intermediaries. But still it would be nice to know more about the process and have more options to consider. 

As I've mentioned before my best friend had a miscarriage. I tried my best to be a supportive friend. Now she's doing much better! Though she said me some stuff which hurt me, it doesn't bother me anymore. The most important is that now she is "back to life". But there is one thing which upsets me. Her husband is back! When she told me this, I was like "Ummm...Really?" And somehow she's so happy that he’s back. Honestly I'm shocked. I was shocked when he left and now I'm shocked even more. I tried to talk to her and understand how she could forgive him. If he left when she needed him the most and then all of a sudden he comes back when everything gets back to normal. She doesn't want even listen what I'm saying. So I decided not to rise this topic again. The most important is she feels better now. Maybe I'm wrong and this is not big of a deal? What would you do in her place? What would you do in my position?

A fertility problem is one of the most difficult challenges you will ever face. It's such a painful journey. You have options such as IVF and surrogacy. Surrogacy is basically of two types: gestational and traditional. In gestational surrogacy, surrogate carries a pregnancy for intended parents after implantation of the embryo in vitro in the clinic. Surrogate is just a carrier. Traditional surrogacy involves pregnancy by the natural or artificial process. In traditional surrogacy there is genetic connection remains between surrogate mother and baby.

Gestational surrogacy is preferred over traditional since it involves lesser legal complications.  

Hello girls! I'm so sorry all of us faced infertility. This forum helps me to feel better. I feel the same! I don't talk much about my infertility struggle with my relatives or friends. Even my husband doesn't know about all feelings I have inside. This is so hard to keep everything inside and don't share it with someone else. Moreover even if I share it for example with a friend I doubt she will understand how exactly I feel. Here I received so much support and so many advices which will definitely help me in my journey. I'm so grateful to this community because now I feel much better. I feel like I have hope which I didn't have for a long time. I wish everyone here all the best and good luck!

Hello OP! How is your journey going? I'm so sorry for your friend. I had a miscarriage and I know how it feels. At such moments you really need someone to be with you. Her husband is an asshole. I really can't understand how could she forgive him and continue to live with him under the same roof. As you've said he's a coward. Such people never change. He will leave her again for sure. Well it's her life and her choices. I understand you want to help and save her from bad people. But sometimes we are just pushing people away when we want to help. She has already decided that she wants to be with him. There is nothing you can do about it. Maybe later she will understand that he is not the right person to build family with. You did everything possible to support her and help her to leave through her loss. Don't be sad about those things she told you. I understand that her words hurt you. I think she was under stress and she didn't mean all that. You are a very good friend! She's so lucky to have you! 

Have you already started your journey? You sound very positive about surrogacy. This is very important to have the right thoughts before you start the process. I think it's great that you decided to address clinics directly. We did so and saved some money. We had a consultation with a lawyer who helped us to decide which country will be the best for us to have surrogacy at. I wish you good luck! I hope to see some updates from you soon!

Hey Lady. Hope is everything. Just be hopeful. I suggest you to better stay in Europe and look for other countries. Many of my colleagues had surrogacy in Europe. And so for expenses, there are low from all around the globe. And about surrogate mother, I would like to tell you nobody will risk their lives for money. Can you do it for money? Obviously NO. I happened to meet with surrogate mothers sometime. And the reason why they were doing it to spread happiness. Please remove this mentality from your mind. We should stop judging peoples. Best of Luck.

Hey. I am so sorry for you. It must have been so hard time for you. I can understand. Infertility takes alot out of a woman. I know the pain which you faced. I have faced infertility after my miscarriages. I was left with no other option. So I decided to go for surrogacy. I went to a clinic in Europe. The clinic provided me with a healthy surrogate. I went to that clinic because the clinic was affordable. It was also convenient for me to go there. As compared to the UK I preferred Europe because of its prices. I have a baby now. I have no more worries in my life.

I am so sad for you. It more likely than not been so difficult time for you. I can get it. infertility is hard to overcome. I know the suffering which you confronted. I have confronted infertility for whole 10 years. The main reason which made me so upset was, that I didnt know the reason. I was left with no other choice. So I chose to go for surrogacy. I went to a clinic in Europe. They found a surrogate for me surrogate. I went to that centre on the grounds that the facility was affordable. It was likewise helpful for me to go there. I have a child now. I have no more stresses throughout my life.

Hey there. I understand your concerns. But, yeah! It's not like it. Surrogates are the amazing women of all. You can see videos of women on youtube sharing their stories, how they become surrogates. Even, my own cousin sister had surrogacy in Ukraine. Well, you can try it there. It's not as expensive as the U.S. It much an more affordable. So, yeah! I know! It's tough in the beginning. But, trust me, honey. It has resulted. There is nothing wrong in that, my cousin daughter is such a beautiful and lovely girl. I wish I could share a picture of her with you. Don't take it that way. It's completely an amazing way for those of us. Who can't have it naturally! 

Hi, How are you?  I am really sorry to hear about you.  I know its hard time for you. Do not lose hope. Because hardships are the part of life. I want to share my story here with you. I was an adopted child. I had experienced the worst behavior of parents. As I had grown up and get married. I have to face another awful thing. That was I am Victim of infertility. It was due to some genetical problems. I've got that from my parents. I wanted a child too but never go for adoption I decided. Then after some time, I Came to know about surrogacy. In this process, I will have my biological process. I  have searched it on the internet and decided that its better for me. My DH is with me like always. We will start our surrogacy journey soon in Europe. There are many clinics with 100% results in affordable prices. 

All the best. 

Dear, I’m really sad for you. You are going very harsh times. I can have some idea about your pain. Infertility is doubtlessly very hard to deal with. I know how difficult it would be to cope with infertility. I have also wasted my five years while TTC. The reason for my infertility was unknown. I seemed that there is no option for me to become a mother. But at that time, surrogacy has proven to be a blessing to me. I opted for a clinic in Europe for my treatment. They provided me with a sound surrogate. Surrogate mother was very kind to me. With due corporation of them, my biggest desire got finally fulfilled. I’m now the mother of twins. I’m sure your dream will also come true one day.

Hi! To conceive naturally is a wish of every lady. But sometimes we have to compromise with the fate. We do not need to lose hope. Nowadays there are many alternatives are there for those who cannot conceive naturally.  Surrogacy is at the top of the list. It is the safest way of getting a baby. Through surrogacy, you can a child of your own genetics. There are many best clinics in Ukraine for it. It is just like a blessing for intended parents. It is a way to complete your families. I am also a mother of a surrogate son. I would recommend every infertile couple to go for surrogacy.