I a man lost my family with the birth of a child

I A Man Lost My Family With The Birth Of A Child

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My wife and I got married when she told me she was pregnant. I was very excitied, and supported her during the entire pregnancy. I rubbed her feet everynight, I put lotion on her belly, I got up at 2 in the morning every other night to get her french fries from Whataburger. I was so excitied to be a father, I just finished college, have a good job, and this couldn't have happened at a better time for me, since I really loved her and wanted a family, this gave me a solid reason to persue my dream of being a family man with the woman I love. Anyway, the day she goes into labor, she asked the nurse that I not be in the room while she gave birth. I respected her wish even though I really wanted to be in delievery room with her. I wait for about two hours and finally get news that my wife gave birth to an eight pound baby boy. I was thrilled! I filled out paper work, signed the birth certificate as the father, and proceeded to see my wife. When I walk into room, I see my wife holding a black baby boy. I wash shocked, because I'm white, my wife is white and I have never known anyone in both my parents families to have any black relatives. Though I was very concerned I didn't say anything to my wife about the childs color. Anyway, about two weeks go by and I kinda hint towards my wife, about my concerns of the childs color. This made her very upset, so two days later I come home from work and find the home completely empty, and I get served divorce papers. We don't have much, but I go to court and I'm ordered to pay $550 in child support a month, and $350 and alimony. I really want a relationship with my child, but now my wife got remarried to a black man, and she refuses to let me see my son. I have a feeling that this man is the guy who got my wife pregnant, and now I'm stuck paying child support for the next 18 years and not having a relationship with either my wife or this child. Even though the DNA test showed I wasn't the childs father, the court ruled that it would not be fair to the child to not get support since I was so willing to sign the birth certificate. The man who is now married to my wife only after being divorced from me for 2 months, refuses to get a DNA test and they both insist that they just meet eachother and could not be the father of this child. I was always good to my wife, and I really loved her and was willing to accept a child that wasn't mine by blood. Now I'm alone, no family, all that is left is a broken man with broken dreams. Didn't know the world could be this cold. Any advice on how I could get over the loss of this child and my wife. I love them both very much.

Michaela - March 6

Wow.I'm so sorry "Lost in Texas".But, you need to realize stuff like this happens all the time.I'll be 23 soon and I'm pregnant with a baby boy due in July he has no father around, because the father doesn't care.At least you cared.In my whole lifetime I have lost 2 children.One at 16 weeks (late miscarriage due to hormonal imbalance) and one at 5 weeks due to chromosome abnormalites.It was the hardest thing in my life ever.Something that strickes my head everyday is that there are sooooo many couples out there whose babies are born stillborn (born an angel).Even, tho this baby is not yours it is still alive and you know that! I had a friend who also went through something simliar to yours.He was in love with this women and they were going to get married until she went into labor and the child came out a different race.He was hysterica!.He loved that child more than anything!He went to court and since he had to pay child support got joint custody and got to see the child even tho it wasn't his child.He told me that the women he loved he will always love and the child also but he said he needs to move on and continue his life and get married and have his own children one day.He still aches at the fact that, that women did that to him but he loves the child still! So, my advice to you is to continue your life and learn to walk this journey we call "life".I'm 22 and pregnant with no father figure around except for my father! Hey, I live in Louisiana!

Karen - March 7

You poor thing! I don't know much about Texas laws on this sort of thing, but it would help your case no end if a member of hospital staff could vouch that you didn't see the child until AFTER you had signed his birth certificate. And you also need a GOOD lawyer! I don't know who was representing you before, but you have been ripped off. I know that you are not actually trying to get out of paying for his care, you are just upset that you can't have a relationship with him even though you are paying. Try blackmail - legal blackmail! Get your GOOD lawyer to get the statement from the midwife/whoever at the hospital. Then when you are back in court, this lawyer can say that you are happy to pay for his keep IF, and ONLY if, you can have fair access to him. Also, the lawyer HAS to point out that the previous decision was wrong because you didn't KNOW he wasn't your son until AFTER you had signed the birth certificate. Its hardly your fault that your wife was a lying, scheming swindler!

rb - March 7

hey lost - looks like she trapped you into signing that...not only did she obviously cheat, but she also maliciously planned this out so that you would get screwed in the end.... like karen's advice - go find yourself a good lawyer because chances are, the money you are ordered to pay for the child, will not be going to that child, but to your lying, scheming, ex.

Misty - March 8

I agree so much with rb, it seems like you got cheated. I think if you had a good lawyer this would work out. I just don't see how it would hold up in court that you didn't the baby before signing the papers, it is obvious that the baby isn't yours and as soon as you were legally responsible for the baby she left and got married to a man the same ethnicity as the baby. It has so much potential for a vicious scam. I'm sorry to say this if I'm wrong because it would be...wrong. But I think the courts owe you the proof that this wasn't a scam before making you pay child support if the babies true father is in it's life. I am also very sorry about all that you are going through, surround yourself with people that care about you, freinds and family always make lifes hardships bareable. Good luck to you.

Misty - March 8

I also have to think that if that man had nothing to hide then he would have no problem taking a DNA test to prove it.

nerve - June 15

Now you know.

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WHAT?????????????????????????? !!!!!!!!!!!

lennythecuck - September 16

Why were you upset? Interracial children are the most beautiful. You should have loved your wife and raised the precious baby. If you were fortunate she would have blessed you with several beautiful black babies. You should be happy that your wife loved you enough to share this precious life with you. I wish I had her and the baby, I would love them forever.

lennythecuck - September 16

Guitarist271 - October 25

Dear Lenny the cuck,

You are a sick bastard. If You would give up your wife to another man just because it "turns you on" than you really don't love your wife. If you truly believe that you are inadequate sexually, than you really need to work on yourself. Get help for that sick mind of yours.

Capo - March 15

Hi lust, i feel sorry for you but i think you have to move because she never loved you , she lied to you and cheated , you asqued her why she did that.

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