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First of all, you know people are going to say things, because they just can't help themselves! You'll probably have them ask you if this was planned or an "oops" baby. I think the best thing to do is be over the top happy and simply laugh out loud when people have the nerve to question you or make comments. Congratulations!

Babymakes7 - First of all congratulations!! Susieq1212 is right - people love to talk no matter what. If it was me I'd tell them that I am over the moon and feel absolutley blessed. These days its not uncommon to have babies at our age, so if anyone says anything they must be narrow minded to begin with. All the best and enjoy this wonderful journey. xx

I'll keep checking back for caustic replies; I need them too, but generally stand there stunned and speechless. Come on gals, help out here with the comebacks plz :)

I had a cousin ask me the same thing (I am now 40 yo with a 5 month old). I replied that I was in such better physical shape than a lot of younger women I knew that I am sure we all felt about the same. :) Congratulations, you give me hope we can have a second one! There you have it. You never know when you gave someone else a shot of optimism about their own chances for conceiving, so good for you! Laurie

I had a friend say, "Oh my God. I'm glad it's not me!" I replied, "So am I." It worked. :)

I just found this on 'The baby Website.com" Had to laugh. "If you're an older mum and are fed up of snide comments.....here are a few Snappy Comebacks Why would you want another baby at your age? For the same reasons that someone would want a baby at any age. I can't believe you're pregnant Would you like to see the pregnancy test? I kept it as proof. I can't believe you're pregnant and at your age! I can't believe you're so rude / insolent etc. etc. (Choose your own insult here). Was it a mistake? 1 No. Why, were you? 2 When you enjoy s_x as often as we do, you're bound to have a slip up some time aren't you? Are you going to keep it? 1 Well, we thought we'd wait and see whether we liked it first when it's born. 2 We might take it back to the shop if it's not suitable. You're pregnant! Thank goodness for that! I wondered why I was gaining so much weight. Rather you than me! 1 And rather me than you! 2 It is I rather than you isn't it? Aren't you too old to have another baby? 1 Evidently not. Here's the proof (rub your expanding girth). 2 Aren't you too old to be so tactless / rude? You're not having another baby? Am I not? Damn! There must be another reason for this weight gain then. Are your ankles supposed to look like that? Is your nose supposed to look like that? Isn't it hard having a baby at your age? 1 Not as hard as it is being middle-aged and childless. 2 I always thought it was hard having a baby at any age all that pushing and panting. Aren't you worried about the baby having (chromosomal) abnormalities? So are you saying that a handicapped child is less valid as a person than one without any handicap? You've put on loads of weight haven't you? And so have you, but at least I'll lose mine when the baby is born. You're huge! 1 Yes, it's called pregnancy. 2 And you're huge too, but I wasn't going to mention it. 3 At least it's a baby and not fat. Haven't you had your baby yet? Yes, but I thought I'd stuff her up my jumper because I enjoyed being pregnant so much. I couldn't cope with all those sleepless nights. Well, you won't have to will you? There are, of course, many more questions, comments and remarks and just as many snappy comebacks. Keeping your cool is important for you and your baby and if you cannot think of any other reply, just remind other people that you are the one who is carrying this very much wanted baby and that you are the one who will be coping with the situation, so they should concern themselves with their own lives and not yours.

Thanks Jacqui, those are fabulous!