Am I Doing The Right Thing?
1 Replies
|
|
|
|
|
|
Okay. So, like 2 months ago I found out I was pregnant by a long-time "friend with benefits" ( like 10 years plus). Of course he freaked out, told me he doesn't want the baby and to get an abortion. I expressed to him that not only don't I feel comfortable with the process but I'm strongly against abortions, my whole family is. It's something I've stood strongly against since I was a kid. I told him that I didn't need him, wouldn't ask him for anything and that he could sign all rights away and have nothing to do with me or the baby. But that wasn't good enough for him, he insisted that I get an abortion, he even begged. So, I told him I did but I didn't, my boyfriend and I got back together but not before I told him the complete truth. He said, "he'll be there and help me raise the baby", "just like we raise our first baby". So, should I let the, "friend with benefits" continue to think I got an abortion and raise my baby in peace? Or tell him the truth that me and my boyfriend are going to raise the baby? I'm really scared and don't know what to do. So, all opinions are welcome. Let me know what you guys/girls think.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
JD, it's difficult to think of a reason why you need to tell. Raise your baby in peace and let the friend be happy in the thought that he has avoided responsibilities. Maybe you are worried that the long term friend will continue to be around and will realize there is a chance he is the father after all. You need to have a plan for that, all the way from "I lied, to get you off my back" to "Yes, are you offering to pay child support?" I think he will avoid this confrontation, even if he has suspicions.
It would be best to distance yourslf from the friend and avoid contact. That will please your admirable boyfriend who evidently thinks more of you than you knew.
|
