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Wheneva he goes back out, take all his shyt and sit it on the side walk..i'm pretty sure he'll get the point.
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Well, now he's telling me how unhappy he is, he has hit the bottle big time and is taking drugs too apparantly.....He says he can't cope and he hates me, but has still made no effort to move out. I keep asking why he doesn't go if i make him so unhappy but he just ignores me. He is getting so much support from his friends who obviously think i am some b___h from hell.. He says he doesn't want to be a dad again and he will deny it is his. I keep thinking he will come round eventually - he even cuddled me last night but said I still hate you even thought i am doing this???????!!!!!!!!1
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After reading some of your other posts (which I didn't see before I replied) I think you may need some help to have this man removed from your house. Do you have any male family members or coworkers who can help you. Or perhaps someone who lives nearby? A friend's husband or boyfriend? You need to cut it off completely because you don't need the stress while you're pregnant. You should be taking care of yourself. I have a few girlfriends who are single mothers and they know d__n well that it is better for a child to have one emotionally stable and loving parent than it is to have two parents who are constantly fighting and miserable. Especially when one of those parents doesn't want the child! The baby arriving wont change his tune either. Babies are time consuming and strenuous on a good relationship, let alone one as poor as yours. Why would you even think about staying with this man when it's obvious that he's just living with you to have a steady place to stay while fooling around with other women or coming and going as he pleases?
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I'm sure you have friends who are willing to help you pack his stuff up. Change your locks and be happy. If need be have the guys in blue escort him out the door. You have NO reason to feel guilty about anything! Your house, your life, and if it needs to be your child.I think you'll do so much better without him. Especially if he is doing drugs and hitting the bottle. That is just not an enviroment you and the baby should be in.
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he was leaving you regardless if you had the baby or not hes just to chicken shi* to admit it ... get the strength to move on dont destroy your own life for him ... and if he isnt responsible enough to wrap it he knew what could happen ... sorry to be so blunt..
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Just to update you all........Last week he told his mum and things seemed to be settling down, he even spoke about doing some things to the house......until friday that is! He went out friday night and didn't come home til 10:30 saturday morning despite promising that he would ring me to pick him up. He was out all day sunday on his bike but when he came home at 10pm that night he said that he had changed his mind, he didn't want a baby and he was leaving........I'm now sleeping in the spare bed again and he hasn't done anything to make it look like he's going - it's driving me mad all this silence, still it beats him shouting at me all the time.............
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:( Things just get worse........ I lost my dad on saturday, he collapsed on the doorstep - he's never been ill or anything i just can't believe it!!!!! Boyfriend couldn't care less, been out all weekend, when i needed him most
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Hazel, my goodness girl, what are you thinking? I am 20 weeks pregnant and am going through some hard times with my boyfriend as well but never to compare to yours. If my boyfriend ever did that stuff or said that stuff to me id have him out of that house so fast. Hazel, do whatever it takes to get his stuff out of the house, change the locks, and call the police when he shows up at the door. If his name is not on the mortgage he has no right to be there! You do not need this stress right now, it is sadly effecting your babys health! The baby can hear the yelling thats going on (during the 20th week the baby will start to react to loud noises like yelling and such, the baby will actually get scared and jump.. imagine that while hes screaming at you, your baby inside you is scared) Be a strong and independent woman and do what is best for your baby because it is no longer about what you want or need, its about what is best for your baby!
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Ive read all the answers, you know what you need to do, this child is much more important than this relationship. It is no coincidence that you have got pregnant again this is your chance of a beautiful unconditional relationship with a little human, many women will never get this opportunity. Don't be scared of being alone, I finished with what I thought was the love of my life whilst I was pregnant because he was behaving the same way, it is the BEST decision i have ever made. Every day with my son is such a reward, he is five now and he is the most affectionate loving child, that decision gave me back my self respect and confidence that I didnt know possible!! Its not as hard as you think and its strange that once you make a corageous decision like this life supports you. Some of the most unexpected people have been so supportive!! Respect your life, dont be afraid to be happy, and when you are happy you will attract the reflection of your happiness. xxxxxxxxxx
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Take back control of your life dont take on the role of victim, you have been blessed with this child. There is no excuse for this man staying.
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Hi, I've just been looking back at my post and I can't believe it was mid August when i originally posted. Now it's December and guess what, we are still in the same circle. I go to work in the morning, he comes home to work. He goes out before I come home. I am still hoping that he will come round when the baby is born (15wks to go) but in the meantime he is adamant that we are no longer seeing each other - he is obviously using my house as his office :o( He denies seeing anyone else but will not tell me where he stays at night - says it's none of my business....???!!! I have started to pack some of his things because he says he will be moving out even though he has been saying this for months - I thought it might hit home a bit if he saw his stuff in bags but it doesn't seem to have affected him in any way. He refuses to talk about the baby, just that he didn't want it and that I look fat and repulsive so i just keep out of his way. Needless to say I am not looking forward to Christmas, especially since losing my dad 3wks ago. Roll on next year - the thought of meeting my baby is keeping me going. Thanks to everyone for your support xx
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