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YOU CANT REALLY EXPECT MUCH CONSIDERING IT WAS A ONE NIGHT BUT IF I WERE IN YOUR SHOES I WOULD SUGGEST IT SEE HIS REACTION AND GOING FROM THERE,WHY DIDENT YOU USE PROTECTION?HOW I SEE IT EXPECT TO BE A SINGLE PARENT AND IF HE DECIDES TO BE ACTIVE IN THE BABYS LIFE. THATS HIS CHOICE BUT DONT PUT ALL YOUR EGGS IN THAT BASKET

It seems he is wrapped up in many life styles. It is probally best to ask and if he does not want to be a part of it then try to leave it alone. I know it sounds hard, but you can not make him participate!! I hope that everything works out for you!!!!!!!!! GOD bless!

This is a hard situation as a "one night stand" means exactly that, and when a pregnancy occours out of it, it is really really hard to establish some sort of parental relationship as there was not really a friendship there to begin with. He needs to wake up and accept his responsibility and needs to make a choice now if he wants to be in this childs life or not. As for the prenatal stuff, that is more supporting you rather than the child, which I think should be done, but you can not force someone to be there, nor would you really want someone there that really does not want to be there? I know it stinks because we are the ones that are carrying the child and we are the ones that have to wear the whole responsibility, and that is not fair

I think maybe you are looking in the wrong place for emotional and practical support...although the father does have responsibilities towards the child he helped create....sounds to me like you want a relationship with this man ..and he is unsure what he wants to do...Have you told your family and friends?...You are not alone in this situ others have been in similar and coped extremely well...good luck x

Cathryn: For your information, I am not looking for a relationship with the father. I am just hoping that maybe he might want to be involved in some of the prenatal stuff. It just happens that I have a rare blood type and he needs to be checked for the sake of the child, and he won't come to any of my doctors appointments to get his own blood checked. I know I will be able to cope with this and be a great mother. I just thought that he might want to be involed in some of this stuff. But oh well, if he doesnt want to deal with the fact that he is gonna be a father, then what's the point of even attempting. And I have told my family and friends, and I have all of their support, not like Im getting much support from this forum!

Hey, I am in the same situation. I had s_x with the father of my baby the first night and it has turned out to be not so good. He seems supportive of what I want to do but at the same time he told me three days after I told him I was pregnant that he had been involved with another woman. I don't know what to do in this situation either and I just say communicate with him as far as what you want out of him. This is an approach that seem to work in it's own way for me. Good Luck

I am sure he is in denial given that this was a one-night stand and he barely knows you. Now you are pregnant with his baby and want him to be an acitve father and spend prenatal time with you. He may not come around until he physically sees the product of his sperm as he may not believe this is happening to him.

I agree with E.Just give him the offer and that's about all you can do.Nagging and pressuring him about it may just push him further away from being a part of the child's life. If he is going to be man enough to accept the responsibility, he will when he is ready.but if not you have done all you could really.