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There was an article about this in the issue of ePregnancy for November 2004 it states and I quote "Typically, mothers are allowed physical custody of newborn babies, while fathers are granted visitation based on a variety of factors. " Then it goes on to state that "Many psychologists and child development experts are wary of granting long periods of visitation, or overnight visits, away from the primary caregiverduring the newborn stage. This reasoning due to attachment theory, which a__serts that infants create a strong bond with their primary caregiver and that disruption of this bond can be detremental to the baby's development.And if you plan to b___stfeed, long visits with Dad might not be possible right from the start. " This is a very helpful article if you can get your hands on it they do have a website www.ePregnancy.com. I tried to put the most important points in this post but if you have any more questions let me know. I hope that reading this helps you ease your mind, dont stress b/c you are stressing the baby too. Talk to a lawyer if you think you need to some lawyers will talk to you initally for free to give advise. Good luck to you ytou are in my prayers.

Thank you so much, just reading your info took so much stress off my back. I found a number to a lawyer line, and i guess on Tuesday nights they answers your questions for free. So tomorrow I will call them... But thank you again.

You are so welcome I found this article by chance it was called On Our Own: How do you negotiate custody rights and child support when you're single and pregnant? Some doctors offices offer complimentary copies of this magazine so look for it at your next appt. Once again Good Luck!!

Scared...I went through this situation with my second daughter...the father left me when I told him I was pregnant...I couldnt blame him since we were only together a short time...He wanted me to have an abortion but I dont believe in them so that was out...anyway I heard from him about 3 times throughout the first 8 months...each time it was I want to be there blah blah blah..but that would be the only time I heard from him for a few months, then about 3 weeks before my due date I took him back figuring well let me try to make this work since I have two kids now...and the father of my other daughter does absolutely nothing....so we were together until she was about 3 months old...I found him lying and such so I left him...When I took him to court for custody he tried to fight me for split...his own lawyer laughed at him...that was funny...he had some other stuff going on as well...and did not do much for her after we broke up..so anyways he got two days a week for a few hours each day(which he still has yet to abide) and that was close to 4 yrs ago...the judge almost always side with the mother, unless the father or someone else proves her negligent..at least here in New York...You will be fine..and as you read above...as a newborn you have that option to b___stfeed which will play a role as well considering it is fact that b___stfeeding is healthier for the infant...anyways I'm almost 100% positive that you will be ok...he wont be able to do that