Need Answers Before I Get Knocked Up

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saydie1202 - April 9

Grandpa Viv   All is ok, still scared about being knocked-up but only my school councelor knows.  Almost out of the bag as I had morning sickness at school and almost got sent home.  The school would have called my mom but the councelor took me to the sick room and help me get better so I could go back to class.  Councelor said they can not do anything to my ex bf as he is under 13 also.  It is considered just to kids having fun and making a baby

 

Grandpa Viv - April 9

Saydie, I guess you have decided to continue with the pregnancy and not tell your mom until she figures something is amiss. Best of luck! Keep in touch and let me know of your progress. 

 

saydie1202 - April 10

I guess I will have to tell mom.  Councelor can't do any more .  Mom will expect me to have a baby and then give it away.  She was forced to have an abortion whenshe was 14 and has regretted not have her baby

 

Grandpa Viv - April 10

You won't know that for sure until you tell her. Maybe she will leave the decision up to you. Anyway, you are now far enough along that you should be scheduling your first doctor appointment. 

 

Grandpa Viv - April 15

Saydie, I can't wait for your weekly update. What stories do you have this time?

 

saydie1202 - April 16

Secret is out.  Mom caught me having morning sickness on friday morning.  She did not have to go work and I did not have school.  She told me that she was going to make me do a home test if I told her I was not pregnant.  She said she has raised her kids and will not raise my baby and eleven is to young to quit school.  She will not force me to have an abortion as she was forced to have one when she got knocked up at 15.  But I can not bring the baby home.  I really need some advice as I'm scared about the baby.  What will happen to us if I keep her.

 

Grandpa Viv - April 16

Saydie, I so sympathize with your quandry. Your counselor was right when she said this was just a consequence of two kids fooling around. Mom will not force you to have an abortion, and actually cannot force you if you want to continue the pregnancy. I feel she will not stop you from having an abortion if that is what you decide, but you have to raise the subject. Ask her and get back to me!

I don't see how you could possibly keep the baby unless you have a sympathetic aunt or grandmother who would take you both in. Anyone wanting to adopt would not want a 12 year old mom complicating the picture. Being a 12 year old on the streets with a baby to look after is not an option. Your choices are adopt or terminate.

 

Grandpa Viv - April 22

You would be close to ten weeks by now, Miss Saydie, close to one quarter the way through. How are you and mom handling it all?

 

saydie1202 - April 22

grandpa viv   It's been a hell of a week.  I got kicked out of school, I'm what they sent me to something called medical home school.  I will have a home teacher twice a week starting next week.  Went to doctor and he sent me to another doctor first doctor said Im a high risk pregnancy and she does want to be my doctor.  He took a gallon of blood for tests and said I don't have STD but need iron and may have pregnancy diebietes.  makes me measure blood pressure twice a day and do blood sugar measurement before each meal and makes me take vitamans and iron pills.  Mom said I still can not bring baby home.  Mom tot Jimmy's mom that he knocked me up.

 

Grandpa Viv - April 22

That must indeed have been an extremely upsetting week, and you still sound pretty uptight about it. I'm sorry they would not let you finish the year at school. Pregnancy is not contagious. Perhaps they thought life would be difficult for you in class once the word got out, or that interruptions for nausea would be distracting.

I'm glad a doctor is now involved and that you are taking prenatal vitamins and getting anemia under control. The blood pressure, sugar and diabetes are part of the high risk monitoring that you will have throughout the pregnancy. Seriously, Google "preeclampsia" to read what might be in store. It may be that the first doctor thought it would be wiser to end the pregnancy. It's still not too late.

I don't think anyone should be beating up on either you or Jimmy for what has happened. You are both too young to have any real appreciation of the risks you were taking. At some stage you will need a gracious come-back to those who give you odd looks or even mean comments.  "Yeah, I know what you're thinking. We were just fooling around without knowing what we were doing. Now we have to live with the consequences. I hope it doesn't upset you too much. We have a crowd funding site for the baby. Would you like to make a donation?" 

 

Grandpa Viv - April 29

Hi Saydie, I hope this week went better than the last. Do you like the home school part? Are you back talking to Jimmy again now everyone knows the story? Do you seem to have the medical concerns under control?

 

saydie1202 - April 30

Wow.  Being pregnant is hard.  I have to wake up half hour early to eat a graham cracker and try to go back to sleep for half an hour.  All this so i don't throw up when i get up.  Pee and weigh my self so I know im not retaining water, take my blood pressure and blood sugar.  If they change to much I need to call doctor for instructions, take vitamins and iron pills.  get dressed and get ready for home school.  Jimmy's mom is helping me do my school work and said she will help with the baby either as her daughter (I hope it is a girl) or her grand daughter if I decide to keep her for me and jimmy.  3-4 hours of school work, more blood tests and then lunch.  Generally I want to take a nap by now because I'm tired,  Go home to do my chores and clean the house.  Mom said since I'm not going to school all day I can clean the house for practice when I have the baby and need to work to support her. More tests before dinner and then get ready to start all over again.  If I could do it again I would not let Jimmy knock me up.

 

Grandpa Viv - April 30

Things seem to be looking up, Miss Saydie! Hats off to Jimmy's mom who is acting like a champ. Knowing that you have a workable plan for the baby must be a great relief. 

The morning sickness will probably let up in the next few weeks. The second trimester is usually the easiest. Keep your nose to the grindstone with the schoolwork. We will see you in college yet!

 

 

Grandpa Viv - May 7

I hope you are gushing gratitude to Jimmy's mom. Adults like to get positive feedback. Don't tire of telling her how much you appreciate her involvement. A daily hug would not be out of order.

It will be interesting to see what happens to your relationship with Jimmy. In the coming years the two of you will be spending time together admiring, playing with and teaching your child. How is that going to affect the relationship between the two of you? How is the present situation affecting your relationship?

I think you are going to their house each day for school help. It would be neat if you could incorporate a one mile, twenty minute power walk each way as an extra means of keeping your medical issues under control. I expect the doctor has talked to you about the benefits of exercise.

Keep posting! Your team is cheering you on!

 

saydie1202 - May 13

Having a baby is hard.  Jimmy's mom had one of her friends bring her baby over so I could find out what it is like to be a mom.  I did not have a minute to myself for the week.  I had to take care of the baby, fed and change as well as do all my school work, and then go home to do my chores.  Jimmy does not help he just goes to school like nothing is going on comes home and watches TV or plays games.  Of course he wants to have sex but I'm to tired to even think about sex.  Glad I got pregnant on valentines day because I would not have sex today.  Love my baby I have decided that if she is a girl I will name her Sharron after Jimmy's mom.  Don't know what I would do with out her help with my pregnancy and school work.  My mom still tells me that I can not bring the baby home .

 

Grandpa Viv - May 14

Hi Saydie, I'm happy you are still reporting. You might want to Google "pregnancy week by week" to see what is going on in there. You are now at the end of the first trimester and your fingers may be able to feel the uterus growing up above the level of your pubic bone.

What a good idea of Sharron's to find you a baby to practice on. Shouldn't Jimmy be practicing on it too? Is it not his child as much as yours, and if his family ends up caring for the baby while you go back to your normal life, won't he be expected to share in the baby minding?

You are being very responsible and I'm proud of the job you are doing.  I can see you are clinging to the hope that you will be able to take the baby home. Sharron's offer is so generous, helpful and convenient I hope you are able to accept it. Can you psych yourself into thinking of it as a baby you are carrying for her? That might make the pain of separation less upsetting.

 

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