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I understand. I feel like that too. It has got even worse lately because I am having a hard time working out because of my belly. I get contractions everytime I try. I'm so fustrated and have no release if I can't work out. I'm 35 weeks. My husband also works 7 days a week, and I have a 21 month old at home. When she goes to bed I feel so alone.. how many weeks are you?

I'm 30 weeks. So close yet so far away!

Thats how I feel. I'm 35 weeks and we moved here and have no family where I live. My husband works 5 days a week and 12 hour days and it's just me and the two kids. I really miss my family. I hate being so far from them.

We moved recently too. I still have no real friends where I am. I have people I hang out with at work, but we don't socialize afterward. I am now about 3 hours away from family. I never thought being so far away from family would bother me but it does. I was in the military and stationed overseas for years on end and went plenty of holidays alone, but this one is different. I am sure it is just hormones and being pregnant. It is so weird that I am so happy and so sad all at the same time! Only hormones could do that to us I suppose!!! ;-)

kmoselle, I feel the same way. I'm super excited about my lil boy but I'm so tired and frustrated and depressed all the time. I'm normally a Christmas fanatic but this year I could practically care less. My husband is in the military and I relocated in February of this year, which would normally be plenty of time for me to make friends but for some reason I just haven't connected with anyone here and I'm 8hrs away from my family. We went to see them for Thanksgiving and on the way back got hit by a truck, the driver had a seizure and my car is likely totalled and it's in another state so now I have to deal with that before the baby comes on top of everything else. Also, we're so broke right now and struggling to get the crib and carseat and my aunt had given us a lil money to get the crib over thanksgiving but we ended up having to use that for a hotel and rental car after the accident, so I still don't even know where the baby is going to sleep. I know it'll work out and we still have a couple of months but I'm just so stressed and I'm crying almost every day. I'm so tired too... really freaking tired. Last night I had to get up 7 times to pee so even though I went to bed at a decent time I didn't really get much sleep. :( I wanna quit work so bad already but we really need the income for the next few months. Anyways, it always feels better to get some of this c___p off my chest. Out of curiosity, when is everyone's last day of work?

Belated response - I've been feeling the blues too. I saw my extended family twice in Nov - once for a family funeral and once for Thanksgiving / my baby shower (same weekend). Now I'm home alone again and feeling lonely too. I moved 16 months ago to be closer to family, leaving behind and losing touch with a lot of pre-move friends. Pre-conception, I worked and traveled a lot and didn't have (or take enough) time to establish a local friend base. Post-conception, I'm often too tired to visit my sisters or call old friends to explain what planet I'm on now; some don't even know I'm pregnant. I worked until October - I'm not working right now so I don't get the amount of socialization I used to get. My SO works 2 jobs, 6-7 days a week, so I feel selfish telling him I'm lonely and try to restrain my complaints. I had a fight with one of my best friends about a month ago over her choice of words in disagreeing with me over my prenatal care, so that's been a bummer too. But at some point, its my body and my decision and it has to be respected. Even the doc didn't take issue with my decision. I miss my friend's (telephone) company, but it gets tiring fending off other peoples' opinions about what you should be doing 24/7. I've noticed it tends to come the worst (for me) from people who haven't had babies. And, I feel the same way as Flybear about Christmas - I'm not into it this year. I think its the financial stress. We're strapped financially, and fortunate that my siblings gave us tons of baby stuff. I used an amazon gift cert I won a while ago for Christmas shopping, but we don't have money for a crib either yet. Attending the funeral (cross-country) took a huge chunk out of our wallet. It's ok tho, b/c I planned for the baby to sleep with me at first anyway. We plan to get a crib by March. When I start freaking out about finances, I try to remember the advice a friend gave - that its just temporary, and to take the opportunity to bond with my guy over this (if/when I can see him!). My friend's well-off now, but remembers fondly the early days of his marriage when he and his wife were really struggling. Anyway, I feel depressed and stressed out and lonely too. Been freaking out / worrying / feeling overwhelmed about a lot of things these days. It helps me to count my blessings, altho sometimes I feel I can't think straight, much less count. I've heard its common for the 3d trimester, for what its worth. Thank God for the telephone and the internet, right?

hi kmoselle, i know how you feel because i feel the same way. im 32 weeks and we moved to new york because of his job. i would much rather live near my family which is in new jersey especially since im going to be having a c-section. i mean, it seems like its far away but i wont be driving and he wants me to stay in his moms house so she can take care of me while hes at work. sigh.... to be honest i would like my family to take care of me because they're my family but i dont want him to feel like im taking away our baby. i feel so alone to since i havent been going out lately due to me being pregnant. maybe anyone can give me advise on this topic?

Just keep reaching out to us on here. It is definately nice to be able to just gripe and get things off your chest on here- much better than nothing or no one at all. You seem to be in a tough spot. I would much rather be with my family, too. But I think we'll be so overwhelmed and exhausted right after delivery that we will appreciate any and all help- even from the in-laws! Can you have someone from your family come and stay with you, too? I am trying to talk my sister into coming for a few days to help me out, even though my husband says he would rather no one else come. But then again- my feeling is that any and all help would be great.

maybe your right kmoselle that ill be grateful for any kind of help. i was actually thinking towards the end of jan. that ill actually put my foot down and just tell him that i want to be with my family after the baby is born. i mean, i have a lot of reasons why i'd like to stay with them so hopefully he'll understand.