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What you are feeling is normal. Maybe he should do a little research on the internet when he jumps on the computer. Stuff like what turns on a woman, I believe the Oprah site will be a good one for him.....foreplay for women is more than "hi honey I'm home!" or " I am ready to rock the sheets baby how about you?" I know seems funny but if you crook a finger at your man you all know they are ready to go. What they dont get (well I should say some of them, some of us are lucky enough to have one that is trained or has been trained) women are different. It doesn't matter if your working all day, we do it too then come home and work. It takes nothing to give a hand to dish up dinner if you have it cooked, or entertain the little one while you go and shower, or wash up so you can sit down and chill. If you dont want this to go on and end up ruining your relationship, I would sit him down (see if you can get someone to watch the little one so you can have an uninterrupted conversation) and tell him all this. We talk all the time and say how we feel, what the stupid comments do to us, and what we would like the other to do. Communication is one of the key foundations of a relationship. If he cant talk to you or listen and really hear you, then I am sorry but it will be doomed to fail. But if you can sit down and talk about it, and be really open, then you will probably have a stronger relationship and a deeper understanding of each other. Also with the pregnancy get him to read the week by week changes.....this helps him to understand what is happening with you, tell him you feel heavier, more tired, hormonal......it helps if they know how your feeling. I say outright when i get up, I feel tired and cranky and generally c___ppy, gives everyone the warning that if i get upset they know it isn't them, then if i loose my temper after I have cooled down I tell them it isn't you it is just my hormones running around wild. I would think alot of the women here have experienced some if not all of what you have been feeling, and I am sure they will recommend what to do. I know that talking about it and listening to his gripes too makes a huge difference and it made us alot closer, we talk about stuff now that I use to be too embarra__sed to talk about and would never dream of bringing up, but a ma__sive fight put us on the do it or lose it, so we did it (the communication thing) and it is great, it is so good to be able to say it straight out when we are alone together and ask what his take is on the topic from there we just hit improvement after improvement. Hope you are able to have the same....my partner said that women are like a foreign language, he will never completely understand us, because in general men are stupid, but if you take the time to explain it to them then at least they then have something to work with, and a pregnant women is worse as there is all this extra hormonal stuff going on, he says that mostly they (men) just dont know what to do, so explain it and tell us straight out what you want as that helps them help us.... they are his words from our first conversation about all this stuff, so maybe they will help. Oh and the first few will probably be a bit hard for both of you, and you will probably cry and get upset and he may get cranky, but keep repeating to yourself and him, it is the hormones making your cry and you are not having a go at him, you want a better relationship and if you dont talk then you are afraid that you will lose the relationship. afterall it is the truth, and dont accuse him of anything otherwise he will shut down and you will just be nagging. And if he says you do nothing all day, then tell him that you will visit home for the weekend and he can watch your 2 yr old, that ought to show him that you do indeed work all day. some men pick up stupid ideas because they think an at home mum does not do much, they are usually people who do not have children or do not really interact with their children. Sorry it is so long!

You're probably annoyed more because you are pregnant (hormones). I'm not excusing his behavior at all, but sometimes we have to let things slide on his side & our side until we are not pregnant & can be sure we are being rational about everything. It's tough! I'm sounds like you've expressed to him how you're feeling so I just suggest not dwelling on things & don't expect anything more from him right now. Only a few more weeks to go & then you can reevaluate things.