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Christina, GET OVER IT! It was like 2 months ago. And besides, Jenni wasn't the only being rude, tons of people have been rude...and as you can see, she hasn't posted in almost one month, so do you really think your comment matters? Seriously ladies, this is so old now, if you want to talk about dilation and checking yourselves then go ahead, but to dwell on people's comments that are so old is bordering pathetic. Girls can be so caddy...

Did you happen to read my second post????? I said oops guess I should have looked at the date of her post...I just a__sumed that since people were still posting on it that it wasn't long ago, my bad geez!!! Just because I made a mistake does not make me pathetic...BITCH!!!

I thought the majority of caddies are males?lol That may be somewhat s_xist, but females generally decline carrying someone else's golf clubs. Oh, but yes, females can be quite "catty".

you can get infected easily when you begin dilating. limit your pelvic exams. also.. it's not rude to want to check. em, you're just an idiot.

All of you are idiots, stupid, catty, pathetic, etc...Whoever continues to respond to this posting needs to get a life. I've never seen women degrade one another as much as on this posting. And the insults are still going on, last couple were "b___h" by Christina and "idiot" by Zoey. Your raging hormones are getting the better of you...Can't we all just get along?

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yeah you pretty much called yourself an idiot because obviously since you are responding to this post you took the time to read it and respond so according to you, you have no life. Stop being a b___h for no reason!!! Some women are on bed rest and bored or like me at work with not much to do right now. so GET OVER YOURSELF!!!!!

Sara, have you not read the other girls post to see why they have made me mad? Do you not think they were being rude to me at all?? Seriously, you might want to think twice about a__suming things like I have white trash parents because my mother is a lawyer and my dad died in a car wreck when I was two...so thanks a lot for that comment! I am actually having a great pregnancy and have been very helpful and nice to other people on this board, but I really don't like when people are mean to other people on here who are just looking for advice and support, that really p__ses me off. You don't know me so please don't a__sume things!

Sara, I thought this would be obvious, but insinuating that someone was raised by "white trash" parents, and saying she will be a bad parent, is not only presumptuous, but showing that you are lacking manners. As Christine said, some of us are on bedrest with not much to do. I entered this thread to help correct misconceptions, but I'm finding myself surrounded by people throwing derisive comments. I think everyone needs to lighten up :) High blood pressure is not good for your little ones.

The only reason I said that was because that girl acted like a total b___h to me because I accidentally posted to something that was posted over a month ago and then said oops guess I should of read the date. There was no reason for her to act like that. Get over yourself! You need to get your facts straight before a__suming things about me or anyone else. I am not going to check back and see if you commented, I have a life!!! Seems to me like YOU have the white trash parents and are going to be a bad parent....now, doesn't feel so good does it?!!! And to the person I called b___h, maybe I should not have went that far, but there was no reason to treat me that way because I thought the post was more recent, there was no reason for it (not like this person is even on here anymore). Anyway, to everyone else who is still reading this thread, good luck with your pregnancies and in life! :)

This is my first time on this site, and i was just reading the question that Tee had about the whole checking yourself to see if you are more dialted and i dont think that it is a STUPID question i do agree that it is a bit werid and she should ask her doctor but i dont see any reason why some of your responses had to be so harsh. Maybe this is her first pregnancy and maybe she's a young woman who has no idea whats going on with her body right now, but i think that eveyone should be a little more nicer because this site is for people who really do want answers to questions that yes may seem stupid and wrong to some but to others it is not, and i personally had a question but now i am to scared to ask it because instead of me seeking the help of other woman out there with some answers im afraid that some of you will just call it stupid and be rude about it and judge me. This is not what this site is about. In reading some of your responses it seems like some of you are young teenagers that have no idea what you are talking about. Im not trying in any way to be mean or rude im just voicing my opionion like the rest of you. Sorry if i had offended anyone!!!!

Just to let everyone here know, there are many different shapes and sizes of v____as and many people may not be able to check their own cervix and many people can. It freaks a lot of people out b/c it is not recommended by most doctors, but there are many people who have home births and check their own cervix's. As for the p___s hitting the cervix during intercourse, yes it happens and different positions will promote it, so it also stands to reason that different positions would allow you to reach your own cervix. It's not advised to just start messing around down there if you don't know what you are looking for, but there are many places and people you can get good information from. I personally have no interest in checking, I belive I will know when I am in labor-been in preterm labor twice so far and am almost 4 cm at 33 weeks-and I have both times known I needed to go to the hospital. It's just the impatience of pregnancy that is prompting her to ask this question. I asked it myself, but chose to research it on the internet instead of ask a bunch of people who are rude and would possibly respond to my question in a negative and ignorant manner. One of the many things I've found on checking your own cervix: "I think it's a good and empowering thing for a woman to check her own cervix for dilation. This is not rocket science, and you hardly need a medical degree or years of training to do it. Your v____a is a lot like your nose- other people may do harm if they put fingers or instruments up there but you have a greater sensitivity and will not do yourself any harm. Best way to do it when hugely pregnant is to sit on the toilet with one foot on the floor and one up on the seat of the toilet. Put two fingers in and go back towards your bum. The cervix in a pregnant woman feels like your lips puckered up into a kiss. On a non-pregnant woman it feels like the end of your nose. When it is dilating, one finger slips into the middle of the cervix easily (just like you could slide your finger into your mouth easily if you are puckered up for a kiss). As the dilation progresses the inside of that hole becomes more like a taught elastic band and by 5 cms dilated (5 fingerwidths) it is a perfect rubbery circle like one of those Mason jar rings that you use for canning, and about that thick. What's in the centre of that opening space is the membranes (bag of waters) that are covering the baby's head and feel like a latex balloon filled with water. If you push on them a bit you'll feel the baby's head like a hard ball (as in baseball). If the waters have released you'll feel the babe's head directly. It is time for women to take back ownership of their bodies." Gloria Lemay I think everyone on who responded unkindly to this question should remember that you don't know everything just as she doesn't.

You guys be careful, someone jumped down my throat because I responded to this post...some people on here are not nice at all!!

Yeah, i read all of that, thanks for the advice. It is very unfortunate that women tend to tear each other down instead of building each other up. It's not important to me though. I've never read these posts before and will not continue to post here, I was actually looking up info about checking yourself when I read this and felt bad for the poor girl witht the original question. Anyone can respond in any way to my post, it doesn't concern me. I am educated and will continue to learn as much as I can about subjects that I am uninformed about. I will also never tell anyone their questions are stupid or rude or weird. We learn by asking questions and I applaud this young woman for having questions about her own body. we should all learn as much as we can about our own bodies. Good luck to everyone reading this with their child birth.

Jeanette, I don't mean to be "rude" but what was your post all about? Sorry, I don't get it. You just repeated what several women have said about checking for dilation and then addressed Gloria Lemay at the end of it. Were you being sarcastic? No big deal, I just don't get it. Guess I'm "stupid".

Nice try Christina! The reason someone jumped down your throat is because you called two women b___hes. You said some women on this posting are not nice but what's nice about calling women b___hes?