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These forums, as far as I know, are for women looking for support during pregnancy. I am pregnant with b/g twins on clomid (prescribed due to unexplained secondary infertility), and these sites are just scarey. What's the point of putting such horrible things on here- judgement, to scare people, what? You are far from all-knowing; infact, I'm sure, in most of these women's obsession, they've done more reasearch than most of us who just listen to doctors blindly. Women will do what they want, and they shouldn't have to worry about stranges, who clearly have too much time on their hands- by the amount of judgemental posts on these sites by certine people, who could and should spend more time with their own children and less time condemming others, pretending like they're only concerned, but obviously taking great pleasure in bringing others down, judging them. One of my sisters (also suffering from infertility issues) has clomid triplets, and they were born at 32 weeks; they are perfectly healthy, well behaved, easy children. She also just had a singleton. I have two (nearly 3 years apart), and she had/has a much easier time, as mine have certain health issues. My first was very unhealthy; it can happen to anyone- singleton or multiples, but there are also very easy, healthy HOM even. Having a baby is a risk. I don't believe it matters if clomid is prescribed or not- especially with a good reason, such as insurance not covering infertility and a woman has done her research. As for the people who are taking clomid to conceive multiples, why do you care. The risk of multiples is there whether you have infertility issues or not, whether one is taking it prescribed or unprescribed, and it's a small percentage. Why did the judgers on here risk it? I hope no one said to any of you, "Just because you're infertile, you are going to risk your potential childrens lives by possibly having multiples on a fertility drug?!" I've read a lot of "Be thankful that you can have children naturally.", but the judgement is pa__sed by women who couldn't be thankful for what they were given to work with. A lot of people would say adopt if you can't have children naturally (I don't believe that makes anyone with fertility issues feel very good, me included.), but, in the end, it's your choice, and their choice, and hopefully none of you had to endure such judgement. I had some clomid left over, and I gave it to my younger sister (shoot me- lol!) because she has been trying to conceive with her husband since before they were married- unsuccessfully, and she now too has found out that she is six weeks along with twins. She knew it was a risk (Plus, multiples run on my mother's side heavily- nearly every female), but she wanted children- desperately, and I'm sure most of you know what that feels like. Her husband earns a good living, but what's the point of paying for something that you can get for free (or cheap)? They have awesome insurance, she plans to stay home- as a full time mommy, and they are homeowners with plenty of room, money, and, more importantly, love. My older sister, nor myself, were monitored by a doctor (prescribed, but not monitored), so what's the difference? Plus, it's safe to a__sume that she had the same issuses as us- wer'e sisters. There are far worse things going on in the world (world hunger, war, global warning...- pick one of those to commit to instead- lol!), and far better thing to do with your time (clean, play with your children, bake cookies... pick one from here also). God knows these women's hearts, and what they can handle. He also knows you. Let him be the judge; that's the way it will end up anyway. Walk a day in someone elses shoes, and quit being so prideful; it's not necessary. God bless you all, and may you hold your dreams close to your heart, no matter what they are. Please educate yourselves, and make informed decisions. Pray for your "enemies"; clearly they need it. Baby dust to all. By the way, I hope your children don't end up as judgemental as you; it always scares me that I'm raising my children at the same time in a world where people like some of you are raising yours also. Lots and lots of sticky baby dust!
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