| nat - January 29 |
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hiya i am 15, n i reali wnt a baby i wd give it all the love it needed and would do my absouloute best to give it evryfing. I no my parents wd be upset n disappointed. My birth mum had me at this age and something tells me inside that it's the right time 4 me. It's making me feel really down cos i wnt 1 so much any advice pls?
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you say your birth mom does that mean that you do not live with her anymore? Do you have a job to even think about paying for a baby?
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If you live with your parents you should not be having a baby. THEY would be supportng it, not you. It doesn't matter ow much you love the baby, it would just ake you a baby sitter. When you can live on your own and take care of yourself and the expenses on your own, it would be a better time to consider it.
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no i dnt live wi my birth mum she dint wnt me :( or owt t do wi mei'm looking 4 a job
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I had a baby at 15. ANd he is now 4.5 and I'm having another one. I would not give Bo up for anything, but I wish I could be pregant with him now, and waiting four more years for this one. It's not fun and games.My parents helped me while I was pregant and then after he was born I moved in with dh. We've struggled. We've had to move back in with my parents once. But that was b/c we got kicked out of the house we were renting b/c our landlord killed himself and his kids wanted to see the house, but still. I did finish high school and am now in college. But without dh, I don't know what I would have done. I don't advise having a child this young. Yes, there are advantages. I will always be the young cool mom, but I also lost my teenage years. It is awesome to be able to run and play outside with your kids, but I had to take two years of high school in one b/c I had to take a year off b/c my son was very sick. Try babysitting a relative or friends baby, that can satisfy your need and give you a glance at the real world. You don't have a baby b/c you just want one. You need a dh, a house, a car, a phone. ETC. It's not a game, it's a person't life and that person has no choice at how it is brought into this world. Help it out a little and bring it in when the time is right when you can afford to give it what it needs. Babies are expensive and hard work. Labor and Delivery is not easy, neither is pregnancy for that matter. Just don't jump into this.
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NAT: if you know that your parents will be mad and sad and dissapointed, then why would you do that to them?
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Ok this might sound mean bt did you ever think that it wasnt that your birth mom didnt want you rather that she couldnt afford you or handle the responsibilitys of raising a child. Now if your parents are going to be disapointed in you how do you know that they are going to suport you in a pregnancy. Being pregnant causes alot of different physical and emotional. It just doesnt sound to me like you are ready for a baby if you want to have one because your birth mom had you at her age. We all want things really really bad at some point in our lives, but we dont always get what we want in this case i think you should wait get a job babies cost money to have to feed to dress to transport and to have someone watch while your at school and work. Enjoy being a teen. You still have AT LEAST another 50 -70 years of your life left no need to rush it.
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girl if it makes you happy do it.im 14 and i kinda feel the same way
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Hey Everyone! My names Elise and I am head of a site called Bundlesoflove where we support Teens TTC! So if you want to post , chat , and meet other Teens that TTC without unwanted interruptions. It is easy to join my organization! You can contact me at TeenParentsRock@yahoo.com I hope to hear from you soon! ~lots of love and support ~ EliseMichelle
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I was the same as you when i was 15 and i didn't care what any one else thought i fell pregnant at 15 and had my daughter at 16 i wish i left it for another few years cause i wasn't alloud to finish school but dont get me wrong i love my daughter very much and i wouldn't change her for the world
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you dont want a baby you think you do, geta puppy or some kind of pet. Ur not old enough to take care of a baby. wait til your older when you can get a good job and wait til you graduate. If you have one now, you wont be able to have the "normal" teen life. Trust me im 17 i have a almost 2 year old girl. I missed out on a lot. Im doing better than most mothers my age, I have a great job, car and house that we bought. Wait til you fiond someone you know wont leave, and til your older,
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yeah boonie is right if you live with your parents you shouldnt even be thinking of having a baby. you still have time to live. When I was 15 i wanted a baby too but i am so glad i waited now im 21 out of my parents house with my finance enjoying
life. And trying to have a baby it just means so much more when u wait and have it with the special someone
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well i am going to say this think about it along, think about where you are in life and where you want to be, i'm 17 and me and my bf are trying for a baby, i'm not going to tell you not to as that isn't what you want to hear. i'm a childcare worker (from UK) and children are alot of hard work you don't get two minutes to sit down...think about it, good luck :)
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i think that the only reason that you are wanting a baby is because you are lonely. maybe you arent getting the love and attention that you need right now and that is why you are wanting one. at 15 yes you could have a baby, but why would you want to? you still have your whole life ahead of you. dont you want to give your baby a good life? how are you going to do that at 15 without your parents money? it takes alot to raise a baby. how are you going to pay medical bills? how are you going to pay rent, electric, food, gas, clothes, car, insurance, just to name a few? or are you one of those girls who says i can take care of a kid on my own because i can get on welfare and food stamps? do you want to teach your kid that it is alright to live off the government? you arent even old enough for a drivers liscense yet, so you would have to rely on somebody else to take you back and forth to doctor appointments. is that really what you want to be dependant on others because you arent old enough to be dependant on yourself? these young girls telling you if that is what makes you happy then do it, they dont have a clue about the real world because they are still living at home with momma and daddy supporting them too. this isnt fun and games this is a human life that you are talking about. not a little baby doll that you can put away when you are tired of playing with it. you really need to stop and think about this. are you wanting a child so that you can show others that you arent like your birthmom or to show that you are like her?maybe you think that since she gave you up you should get pregnant and keep it to prove that you can? maybe you feel empty inside because your birthmom gave you up and you are trying to fill that emptiness by having a baby. if that is the case that is the wrong reason to be wanting a baby. you could have 10 babies and still not fill that emptiness that your birthmom caused you when she gave you up..if you talked to her she would probably be against you getting pregnant at a young age just because she did.
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ok advice is this - get your education finished - then get a job (most would advise a career - but if you can pay the bills and have medical insurance then a job will suffice) -- THEN and ONLY THEN should you consider having a baby - - - i cannot believe that not everyother person on here wouldn't say the same thing -- with the exception of the 14 year old who agress with you! --- NEITHER Of you should even be having s_x yet - much less a baby!!!! geeeesh!
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HEY IAM 20 AND I FEEL THE SAME WAY BUT I ALSO FEEL LIKE I CAN WAIT THERE'S A LOT OF THING THAT I WONNA DO THAT I HAVENT DID AND JUST THINKIN ABOUT BRINGING A BABY INTO THIS WORLD IS CRAZY IAM 20 AND I THINK IAM TO YOUNG SO YOU KNOW WHAT IAM GOING TO SAY ABOUT YOUR AGE NOT SAYING THAT YOU CANT DO IT BUT JUST MAKE SURE YOUR READY AND YOU HAVE A GOOD JOB AND A MAN THAT WILL STICK BY YOU THREW EVERYTHING BECUZ IT GETS HARD SOMETIME BY YOURSELF I DIDNT GROW UP WITH A FATHER DONT MAKE THE SAME MISTAKE
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