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Flower mamma, on another thread i think s_x and preg brina was saying that her df wont talk about the wedding, or family or anything that shows her commitment. He gets mad and says he doesn't want to talk about it......so i think the bigger picture is that she's losing a boyfriend and is scared and panicing, so she's thinking of getting preg to trap him....pretty we think that sums it up.
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No, I am actually pretty sure that I am not losing my fiance of 2 1/2 yrs. Just because he doesnt want to talk to me about our wedding and having a baby doesnt mean that I am losing him. It's just that he's not ready to get married and therefore he doesnt feel that he should have to talk about it until the time is right! I understand where he's coming from but I still think that a couple should sit down and discuss it ahead of time and actually make plans before the last minute. It takes a while to make plans for a wedding especially if your planning on a big wedding.
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Yes I agree, i got married a year ago and i can tell you it took a lot of planning. but when my dh proposed to me, he did it knowing that we would discuss and make wedding plans. Why would your df say he wants to get married but then not set a date, or make some plans for the future. Usually that means that he's not sure what the future for him will be. I don't know you and your df, i'm just going by my own experiences. but you did say he gets very angry and yells...that doesn't paint a pretty picture of two people committed and ready to get married OR start a family. in your original post you asked what can you do, and i told you to see a financial advisor, and also start saving for the family you want. There are plans and steps you can take with your fiance to secure and solid future, but if you can't talk to him about any of these things, then how solid is your relationship?
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Well actually I did talk to him lastnight about why he doesnt like talking to me about marriage and he said thats its not that he doesnt like talking about it.... it's just that there is no need to plan it right now cause we arent getting married until another year or two. So I guess he likes to plan things at the last moment......lol But another thing that he has told me before is that he would like to wait until we get married to have a baby but about a month ago be told me that I could get off the birth control in a year, and he says that he doesnt want to get married until a year or 2 from now, so I dont know. He better not change his mind when it comes time for me to get off birth control!!!!....LOL
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I don't see anything that flower.mam said that was rude. You asked for what you can do and she gave you an answer. You might be ready but it sounds liek your fiance is not yet and it's nt soley your decision to make. If he wants to wait (which sounds fairly reasonable to me as you are still young) then all you can do is wait or move on.
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I guess you're not pg then? and we'll be seeing you next year on the site? GL with your boyfriend.
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I dont know if I am pregnant right now, I am not supposed to get my period yet, but I will let you know what happens ( if I get it or not )
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