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My Story: Married and happy. "hehe Both hope for kids one day. No problem there, in fact the only problem is I can't seem to figure out when for it to happen. Right now he is one year away from getting his Masters. And I am roughly 2 away from finishing my program. My goal is once I am finished (will be after he is) I would like to start our family, BUT i also would like to work. (Paramedic) Working with a baby is no problem b/c I only do one (part time) or 2 (full time) 24 hour shifts a week. Ok, In Your opinion, when should we start trying? 1) at the end of my schooling where I am possibly 3 months along when I graduate? 2) That summer after I graduate, before looking for a job? Or 3) as soon as I have a secure job, and hope they don't get too upset that I will be taking off work for maternity? Of course there may be more answers, but I don't see them. I really do not want to wait any longer than 3 years from now. SO in your opinion, what should I do? Remember I would like a baby asap, I just want to think everything through. Any advice would be wonderful. Thank you.
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I would settle into your job before becoming pregnant, I don't think it is good to take on too much at once. Stress is bad for pregnancy =) Just out of curiosity, where will the baby be when you are working a 24 hour shift? I can't imagine my little one not seeing me for 24 hours straight, it would terrify her. Will you be able to go home & check in?
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well, my cat just jumped on the keyboard and deleted my reply. I'll try to remember what I wrote. 'hehe...My husband is wonderful and he wants a baby as much as I do. (however we once drove through 2 countries in Europe before we could decide where to eat, so we are not about to rush into a baby! 'hehe) Right now I live about 2 hours away from my mother and family. My goal is to get back up there after we finish with our studying. Then my mother (who loves the idea) would keep the baby until my husband gets off work (around 5) (the last part is his idea, but of course we will see) The thing about Paramedic is you either work 2 24hrs a week, or 4 12hrs. I think it would be best to do the 24 and get it over with. I could not take the baby to work with me (what would happen if I had to go out on a call) but with a private service, my mother could bring the baby there to be with me. I just have to be there in case I get called out. Make sense? I didn't think about the stress. You are right. Thank you. Oh, I forgot to mention something in my last post. My mother had problems after having my brother and by 28 could no longer have children but the problems started at 23. So I worry about putting it off and then not be able too. Of course it is silly to worry about, I mean, we can always adopt. But I would really like at least one baby of our own. Thank you for writing back.
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I'd wait to try until your job is secrue. I'd say 3 months after you start. Where do you live? I'm in Canada here you need 600 hours for maturenity(sp?)
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I live in Mississippi, and not sure about the hours needed, something I will check on. Thanks. And I am 24.
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 | D - July 14 |
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GET a secure job and wait a little will and have a baby. but it all when u feel ready in all terms of both of ur life.
GOOD LUCK
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Thanks. I am lucky in that my husband will probably get a good enough job that we will not have to depend on me having a full time one. Then I can just work part time b/c I enjoy it. (and have a little side money) I really want to be as prepared for a baby as possible that is why I am researching now. Thank ya'll for helping me. "hugs"
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 | K - September 22 |
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Life sounds great, great relationship, great careers, and your still only young. What is the reason u want a baby so bad that it can't wait another 2 years? I don't mean to sound insensitive but it sounds like your really setting ur self up in life and that is the best way to start before having children. Finish ur work, find a job u love, work for 8 - 12 months and then fall pregnant, you won't regret it. Best of luck with what ever you decide, only you know what is best.
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| Cin - September 26 |
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K, thank you for your reply. I had honestly forgotten about this post until I got the reply notice. I guess I was a little nervous about starting college when I wrote that. Yes, we still want a family soon, but my husband will finish his Masters in May or June. We are planning to wait until he has a job and I finish Paramedic school. (next Xmas) I cannot wait to have a family, but school is keeping me so busy that I don't have time to think about it. Also we decided that if we wait and it turns out I can't have kids..we adopt. That simple. Again thank you for writing. And no you didn't sound insensitive. "smiles"
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