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If you two split up you two must have problems inyour relationship. You are young and need to live your life and have some fun, go to college. You might think you want a baby but it is a lot of hard work and it's your life. Are you willing to give up your life for a guy that dosen't even want to be with you. I know I wouldn't. If you tell him you want a baby it will scare him and it should scare you that you are think about bring a child in this world and giving up you life just to "win" back a guy. Please don't do it. When you are older or with the right person you will know when the time is right to strat a family. I'm not even saying wait to you are married but wait until you are ready, Ex. the house, the money and the perfect guy. When you have everything in order it will change having a baby into bring a new life into the world.

If you want to have any kind of life during your younger years - social life, college, career, etc...You do not want a baby right now. Babies require a stable environtment. Are you ready to take care of a child every minute of your life? You do not want a baby with someone you split up with and never even has s_x with before. Plus, 22-year-old boys do not make good fathers - most of them aren't into giving up their lives to work all the time. If you get back together with him and things work out for a few years...then bring up the baby thing. But don't bring it up now as an excuse to try to get back together. Enjoy being young now!! Seriously.

Not at all i know the feeling, Im only 16..I told my boyfriend luckily he is perfect for me and told me he does to but we have to wait...that made me so mad...I thought that i had scared him off and i thought that he thought i was obsessive and moving to fast. He never thought that..He just wanted what was best for us...Im still alittle mad that he refuses...but what else can i do.

I think you should have a better relationship with your boyfriend first. You want your baby having a loving father...no dead beat dads right? I don't think your stupid for wanting a baby. All women have the mothering instinct sometime in their lives. I do think you should re-think the situation though. You have so many years to think about babies in the future, how about you put your mind towards school or work. Buy a pet to keep your mind off a baby. Be a teenager...go get manicures, go shopping, hang out with your friends, buy yourself something nice. Once you have a baby, you'll be buying diapers and clothes. Your body won't be yours anymore, it'll be 24-7 baby care. Hope this helps ya.

No, I don't think you're stupid at all, but I think that you should have a stable relationship if you're considering bringing a baby into this world. It takes a lot of patience and you'll need a lot of support. Plus, you're college age! If you're in school, enjoy it and make the most of it. When you're out and have a job, stable life and stable relationship, that's the best time. You want to be able to provide the best for your child. Good luck to you with whatever you decide!!

Personally i think taking a pregnancy test is very touchy. Wether you are trying to have a baby or just had a crazy night! I feel this way because everyone i know plus myself that has taken a test hoping for a negative outcome has ended up very depressed when they show up negative! Then we all ended up wanting kids after that maybe thats just normal but i think you should wait for the rigth person to father your child! dont have a baby with someone your not sure you want to be with forever cause weather you and the father split your still a huge part of eachothers lifes for years to come. I guess my advice is take alittle more time to think it over make the best decision for your self and the child you want to bring into this world! And good luck whatever you decide!

i think you need to think more about how to care for a child for 18 years not just that you want one... I'm going to have my second child shortly and I love the idea of having another but i know how much work it's going to be especially with completing a Masters project at the same time... stop and think first is all i ask and a baby needs a solid home make sure you're with the person you'll be with forever my first marriage didn't work and it's difficult for me to explain to my five year old that daddy's is gone and her new daddy loves her (i was very lucky to find him)

I am 19 and pregnant, unplanned. My mother kicked me out of the house, i work 8 hour days with morning sickness (witch doesn't only happon in the morning). I'm sick all the time, grouchy and bloated and miserable. Luckily i have a fabulously supportive boyfriend. Unluckily my mother hates him. I'm not even showing yet and i can tell you having a baby is a lot more work then you are barganing for. Its hard hard hard, so if you're ready to buckle down and work your b___t off without too much reward for along time (not evan a baby for nine months) then best of luck to you, i hope yours turns out better then mine has been going.

Personally, I think most of you children are beyond stupid ...

"Mature" as in mid-thirties, stable and having lived enough life to boldly express my "contraversial/old fashioned" opinions in an "out-of-control/no conscience" society. I usually keep to myself, and browse thru these threads with enough gumption to take from them what I need and throw away the trash in the process ... BUT when someone is brazen enough to ask a blatantly stupid question (like "Am I stupid?") on a forum designed mostly with the intent to provide an educational support service for mature pregnant WOMEN (has nothing to do with age, but mindset) ... I cannot help myself from giving blatant, stupid answers.

it doesnt matter what people think if your ready your ready. dont go on what people say. you run your life not society im 16 and i have a baby i wasnt ready but now that shes here i could be more ready. i love her more than my life itself. and would die for her. so its your choice. if you want a baby you go get your self knocked up ;) best of wishes

maybe it's just me, but I was not aware of the epidemic of teenagers desiring to complicate their lives (insanely) by having a child outside a stable, loving relationship?

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Louise,please listen to people with a bit of common sense,not anna who has a baby at 16.As peole say,you are only 18,plenty of time,surely its better to have a baby with two people in love so the plan is raise the child together.Get to know someone 1st,enjoy each others company,learn all about him.It is not easy having a baby,and trying to get on with your life with a new man,both could resent the other etc etc.You will find someone,and be thankful that you waited.There has been boyfriends in my past,but we split and moved on,and I am relieved that I had no ties with any!

Louise, You are an idiot!